Elle Driver
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The idea that they bash single mothers and out of wedlock children while being so against marriage is baffling.
"Marriage Is the Most Difficult, Grueling, Excruciating Thing" - Will Smith
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Which is why I come down hard on them. They make no damn sense.
Knuckles Red
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These will be the same idiots who blame the current state of the black community on single mothers, and feminism.
Nonsense!. A commitment is a commitment regardless & a marriage license doesn't make the commitment any more stronger or legitimate. If this were the case, the divorce rate wouldn't be at a all time high like it is now with more & more people completely opting out of getting married altogether.
While these are very viable points, due to the lopsided court system, all of the benefits you've mentioned for men are completely erased & the small gains you might have acquired from these factors are a wash from a divorce. In fact, you're more likely to be in a negative position financially if there is a divorce based on potential lawyer fees, alimony, complete or partial loss of property/assets, unfair child support rulings, debt, etc. Smart men don't just view & weigh the short term benefits of a situation, but also the long-term risks as well. Marriage today provides little rewards for a man.
VFib
All Star
Amd that's the thing, especially on this site. They believe there is nothing wrong with having children without 'getting into a contract', but will bash the current single mothers who have already done so. "She's damaged", "She belongs to the game", "She's only good enough for sex", "Raise another man's children brehs", "Only simps date single mothers"
Coli logic for you.
How??? I know plenty of people who parents weren't married or together and they turned out just fine.
Piffiztheanswer
L'immortale
that's dope.Will out here giving hope that there is still some good women in the world left, breh's.
Dapped for the message,
Personally I disagree though. I've met women who were not from a complete household and they were just like all the other women I've met in the general sense that no one is perfect and we all carry baggage or personal things with us to other relationships. but a few of them were diamonds in the rough, I was just too young and too hormone driven to give myself time to learn them instead of trying to smash.
Not every broken household produces broken individuals.
Golayitdown
Veteran
OK, but what's the apprehension with marrying someone you been with for 20+ years? I mean, you can just go to the courthouse and handle it. I just find it strange that folk wanna have children with women but won't claim them. My boy has been with his girl for probably 7 years now. Has 2 kids. They have property together, etc. Dude has no plans of getting married. I just don't understand it especially if you don't trust her. You trust ole girl to raise your children, but not enough to marry her?I see this silliness with black folk a lot and it's just
The financial benefits alone are worth the price of admission IF you have kids.
The GMB shyt is funny as hell when applied right, but I didn't know so many people fully live that life.
I can get your point and partially agree since I can closely relate, but I would argue that a complete household gives one a better chance of not being broken as every little bit helps at such a young and impressionable age.
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Very true that every little bit helps when raising a child but there are examples of individuals who've have both parents in the household and turn out to be complete a$$holes or monsters (i.e. rapists, murders, etc.)
I personally think it's mostly up to the child though, you can be taught right from wrong but when you're placed in a position to exercise the right choice, it's on you to pick (if that makes sense).
Golayitdown
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Absolutely. I'd never speak in absolutes as no one size fits every situation. Hell, a few of the most fukked up people I know came from good households
Both sides have good points..but im gmb all day..
The greatest enemy to marriage = human nature.
Men doing men shyt and women doing women shyt...its bad for marriage
-Genetically speaking, both men & women are predisposed to polygamy. Variety is the spice of life. It's seems obvious that some committed people fight the good fight against their natural desires then play the blame game should they fail, i.e. some wives": You no longer made me feel special."
-We're inclined to take people and situations for granted, especially people we experience on a daily basis. Women suffer the most due to this tendency.
Example:
You can enjoy the hell out of prime steak topped with with shrimp and mashed potatoes
...but it loses it's luster after youve consumed it every single fcking day for years. You may actually grow to hate it over time.
People play the 'pecking order' game, always competing to prove who's the most dominant person in their relationship(s).
The greatest enemy to marriage = human nature.
Men doing men shyt and women doing women shyt...its bad for marriage
-Genetically speaking, both men & women are predisposed to polygamy. Variety is the spice of life. It's seems obvious that some committed people fight the good fight against their natural desires then play the blame game should they fail, i.e. some wives": You no longer made me feel special."
-We're inclined to take people and situations for granted, especially people we experience on a daily basis. Women suffer the most due to this tendency.
Example:
You can enjoy the hell out of prime steak topped with with shrimp and mashed potatoes
...but it loses it's luster after youve consumed it every single fcking day for years. You may actually grow to hate it over time.
People play the 'pecking order' game, always competing to prove who's the most dominant person in their relationship(s).
jwonder
Superstar
Marry American women brehs.
Family Lives Matter
#FLM
Will smith is #GMB 