Married and Divorced twice before 30.

[Behind-the-wheel]

I LOVE KIDS. Kids love me. I am a big goofball. I always wanted kids.. . But with my wife I was hesitating. . And that is one thing I stood on. I wore condoms faithfully until she got the Depo shot. .. I kept telling myself that I had to make sure this was going to be it. . That in itself should have told me there was a problem because you should not be thinking that way if that is your wife.

The problem I could not see before manifested itself soon after the honeymoon and we got into our daily routine. . She did not like to do anything other than work, church, visiting local fam. NOTHING ELSE. This was our routine. .

Work
Come home. Eat dinner together.
Watch TV.
I play video games, she reads.
Shower
Bed/Sex

Repeat.

On Sundays, Wed, and Fridays she was at church. I would go on Sundays at first. . But quickly grew out of that. . Her Pastor just rubbed me the wrong way. After a month of the same routine I was growing stir crazy. I am not a huge clubber or a big drinker.. .But I do love to travel. Even if its just a lil trip out of the city. I plan a surprise trip to Daytona. I figured she can miss church one sunday. When she gets home from work I have her bags packed already. All details planned. Got us a nice room on the ocean. Reservations at a Steak House down there. Figured the next day we can do shyt she like. Hitting the flea market, do some shopping, etc. She literally hit me with the . Talkinbout she cant miss church sunday. Her sister is singing a solo. . I am like. . WHAT??? She said no way she can go. . . I was utterly confused. . . So I said lets go see a movie.. She was . I WAS WTF.

No matter what I tried she was not down for anything. . One month turned to 3. That turned to 6. etc. I was miserable. . I am a introvert, but I love to have FUN! Get out the house. I planned a cruise. Nope. . . Trips to Tampa or Mia. Nope . All shut down. More often than not I would be at her sisters house looking at her sisters lame as fukk husband. They tried to set us up like we were on a play date. Dude was mad corny. In his mid thirties making 12 bucks a hour doing security. Hairline was tragically horrible. .

At the time I was working for AOL. Then they up and closed when broadband started becoming more available so I got this trill lil job at the beach. The ho's who worked there.. But I never strayed. After work all the ho's and some of the dudes would hit the clubs at the beach. . They would beg me! General come on!! I would be like nah. I was married. . I could not see going out without my wife. Since she never wanted to go nowhere I did not either. . Plus I never wanted to be the married dude in the club!

My job offered unlimited overtime. So I basically just worked like 9am to 11 pm 6 days a week. Why go home. . Same shyt was going on there.

Jesus Christ...You are my unrelated twin.
I swear to God this is the EXACT SAME BS I'm going through!!
I almost killed myself from depression due to boredom with my life a year ago.
Holy frickin crap...this is surreal.

 

[///Vega+++]

late agan and still on marriage #1
but Imma say this real quick: there needs to be some sort of General Mills Exception in tha General Rules of Marriage or sum shyt
GMB: NaN
Marriage: 0

 

[General Mills]

Jesus Christ...You are my unrelated twin.
I swear to God this is the EXACT SAME BS I'm going through!!
I almost killed myself from depression due to boredom with my life a year ago.
Holy frickin crap...this is surreal.

My dude. I feel you ( no homo )

That boredom sits on your soul like a heavy pasta dinner in your gut. It does not move. .And you watch coworkers, friends, family members etc going out living life. . . It seems like your life is in a slow spiral downwards.

Does she have a mental reason you think? as to why she does not want to go out? Or is she just a extreme homebody?

 

[Ohene]

late agan and still on marriage #1
but Imma say this real quick: there needs to be some sort of General Mills Exception in tha General Rules of Marriage or sum shyt
GMB: NaN
Marriage: 0

 

[MoneyTron]

 

[25YOUTHS!!]

Yes, I messed up.
I did the church girl thing.
I'm in the exact same situation with a dud good-girl with no life, hobbies or interests.
Just wants to stay at home all the time.
Honestly yo, she threatened to leave me last night because I go out on trips with my co-workers on my lunch break.
Inside, I was hoping she was serious...I had it all planned out.
I was gonna go get a PO box, take her off all the accounts, get my direct deposit on a new account with just me on it, take her name off the credit card and my car, change the locks...everything.
Then she called to make up this afternoon...

I halfway want to go through with just packing up her shyt and giving her the key to the storage it's kept at and saying "See ya"...

Dayum breh sounds skressful!
Real shyt this is one of my fears if I ever get married; Not being able to do anything enjoyable with my wife.
Has she always been like this before ya'll married? Does she have a job? Is she well adjusted other than the "boring" thing?
Do you think it's a medical condition like a social disorder or somethin?

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Dayum breh sounds skressful!
Real shyt this is one of my fears if I ever get married; Not being able to do anything enjoyable with my wife.
Has she always been like this before ya'll married? Does she have a job? Is she well adjusted other than the "boring" thing?
Do you think it's a medical condition like a social disorder or somethin?

I realized i did the same thing General Mills did...
I agreed to something with someone...and then I changed.
She's the same person she always was even before we married.
I'm the one that didn't live up to who I said I was and wanted to be.
And I suffer for it.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

My dude. I feel you ( no homo )

That boredom sits on your soul like a heavy pasta dinner in your gut. It does not move. .And you watch coworkers, friends, family members etc going out living life. . . It seems like your life is in a slow spiral downwards.

Does she have a mental reason you think? as to why she does not want to go out? Or is she just a extreme homebody?

Well, her main reason is finances. We aren't rich, but I'm used to spending until I reach a point.
I can't do that with being a family man...I just can't.
She's the same person she always was...I just changed.
See, I had to come up to be with her. Now that I have, it's like she isn't what she used to be when she ain't changed not one day.
She looks the same, acts the same, does the same...I mean everything!
And ain't none of it a bad thing too...it just feels bad to me because I want more from life than what I can get.
You know, she plays it safe and everything and keeps the ship floating good.
Me, I sink ships...on the regular.
She's good...I'm just stupid.

 

[ZEB WALTON]

Yes, I messed up.
I did the church girl thing.
I'm in the exact same situation with a dud good-girl with no life, hobbies or interests.
Just wants to stay at home all the time.
Honestly yo, she threatened to leave me last night because I go out on trips with my co-workers on my lunch break.
Inside, I was hoping she was serious...I had it all planned out.
I was gonna go get a PO box, take her off all the accounts, get my direct deposit on a new account with just me on it, take her name off the credit card and my car, change the locks...everything.
Then she called to make up this afternoon...

I halfway want to go through with just packing up her shyt and giving her the key to the storage it's kept at and saying "See ya"...

Learn from mills my dude. Befoee yur girl gets eaten by the savages.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Learn from mills my dude. Befoee yur girl gets eaten by the savages.

I'm learning breh...taking it all in and trying to be a better man.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Fam, what's wrong with this woman?

Church.

Mine is the same way.
That cult mentality gets them cut off from natural life and programmed to stay that way.
They think they're allright, but they're not.
Yeah, they look good on the outside to most observers, but when you REALLY get to know them...you realize just how batshyt crazy they are.

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

Damn this thread is making me appreciate my woman. The grass ain't greener at all. Matter of fact that shyt ain't even grass out there. Crazy church-girl reformed thots with mental illness.

Fixed that for ya...

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

She was mad cause she liked for me to drive cause she was scared drive over bridges

Okay, this is getting scary.
This is seriously like reading out of the book of my life.
Mine has this same EXACT issue...minus visiting her family.
Mine won't even go out to do that!!
Ugh...

Each month I would present the papers. . She would say no. .And we would go about our lives. Still slept in the same bed. . Same routine. .I never cheated. . But I wanted to be free. . And then she got in a bad car accident.

And it looks like God came in with the REAL save!!
I hope it doesn't have to come to that to get me out of this mess...

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

I got the story from her sis. She met this dude at this Thrift shop she frequents. I guess he loved thrift shopping too. He had actually been hitting on her since we were married but she never gave him the time of day. After we got divorced she gave him a ear. After a few months he wore her down and she took to church. That was her idea of a date. He was cool that she was not rushing sex and they decided they were dating. Kinda like me and her. She told me about him like I said and she said he seems real nice and chill like you.


Sooooo. . What she did NOT know was that he was a recovering drug addict. He got hooked again and she was unaware. . He came to her house on a Fri. He was there waiting when she pulled up. She lets him in and he asked her for some money. She thought he was joking and told him boy go on. He then proceeded to beat the living shyt out of her in her kitchen. He later said he was high and he actually thought he did kill her. She was little . Like 5'3 110. He stomped her out like a grown man. Then stole whatever cash she had on her. . Stole her credit cards, sold the truck I bought for her to some drug dealers and was using the Camry to ride around in. He had been on the run for damn near a month. Tan Camry's are everywhere it seems and police could not find him. The sister thought I knew cause it was all over the news. I only really watched Flavor of Love and Wrestling if I was even home.


The sister did not have my number. What happened was the sis owned a daycare. . . The dude called the daycare. . HIGH.. . He had forgot he stomped her out and had gone by the house looking for her then called her sister asking if she was up there. The sister asked him where he was and he told her on the Eastside. . Her sister called her brothers. They both flew down there. . Found him in the Camry with a crack ho. . Beat him down!! Then called the cops. He was . In the Camry was her cell phone and my number of course was in there. That's how the sister called me.


I was I only wished I was in on that call with her brothers. Janet was still in the hospital. They were fearing brain damage. . I was I grabbed some flowers and flew down there. . They would not let me in cause visiting hours. So I came back the next morning. .



She was like Martin after Hearns gave him the beats.

And I am not even making a joke. Her head was like three times its normal size. They still had her in a induced coma. . I grabbed her hand brehs and she squeezed it and I had to leave or they would have been dragging my ass out of there. I sat in my car and cried

Damn yo, I think I just had my first breakdown moment on this damn forum...


EDIT: The more I read, the sadder it gets. Man... @General Mills , You're teaching and I'm learning breh.
I won't complain anymore.
Now I know exactly how It could be worse.
Man, I'm so humbled you just don't know...
Wit all the stuff goin on at home and reading this man I'm messed up in the bathroom lookin like a beat kid...stuff everywhere man...
*sniff*

Damn...

 

[Behind-the-wheel]

For the Most part I have a black hole for a heart and I legit hate humanity for the countless atrocities committed and selfishness I see in men/women on the daily but this really fukked me up

About to go smoke one...

Perfectly stated.
Ditto.