Married brehs....come through
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@Rekkapryde is married breh
We got married @ 30.
Had our 5yr anniversary last month
Had our 5yr anniversary last month
B.O.N!
factnotopinion
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I am under 40 and so is my wife and our marriage is ideal for us. We have been together over 16 years, no breaks,break-ups or calling out of names. She has the keys to my mothers house and my fam loves her. We are both from the same country, we were raised in similar neighborhoods in similar circumstances, so she understands me. I have a PH.D. and she is finishing up hers as well. She motivates me while simultaneously nourishes me. And she is also physically beautiful, works out, and can cook. Relationships are simple but not easy,- define your values , live by them and keep people in your life who live by the same values as you. I have seen many baaaad relationships become baaaad marriages. The title marriage was not something we valued, we valued the process of building and maintaining a great relationship. She is my one of my best friends and I genuinely like her company and conversation. I believe that long term, liking your partner is more important than even love.
B.O.N!
when u say it aint easy what makes marriage hard?
We just made a year. Got married at 30 for me and 26 for her.
It's different for everybody. Me and Wifey just work because we are compatible in a sense that we are very similar as opposed to the whole "opposites attract" thing. For example Saturday night we both wanna stay home and cook and watch movies and go to sleep by 12am. If one of us wanted to go party or hang out instead, this marriage wouldn't last longer than 5 years.
So far I honestly can't think of any major cons. We both do little annoying shyt but nothing that we even argue about.
Just gotta really try to find somebody that u are compatible with. If u like drama, go with the opposites attract theory. If u just want to relax go with the 2 peas in a pod theory.
It's different for everybody. Me and Wifey just work because we are compatible in a sense that we are very similar as opposed to the whole "opposites attract" thing. For example Saturday night we both wanna stay home and cook and watch movies and go to sleep by 12am. If one of us wanted to go party or hang out instead, this marriage wouldn't last longer than 5 years.
So far I honestly can't think of any major cons. We both do little annoying shyt but nothing that we even argue about.
Just gotta really try to find somebody that u are compatible with. If u like drama, go with the opposites attract theory. If u just want to relax go with the 2 peas in a pod theory.
factnotopinion
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When I say not easy, I didn't mean hard per se. I find that many people do not have a good idea of their values and thus don't live by a code. I put my values first, even above people. When people break my values, I can let them go. Most people put people first, so when their values are broken, they make exceptions because someone is 'special." Also, many people don't get themselves healed from all of our negative experiences and traumas to be healthy enough to go truly all in with a partner, to be vulnerable and totally honest and committed. That is the hard part, making yourself ready to experience letting someone else in in a healthy way.
hmmm.. I am interested in hearing more tips.... married brehettes can you chime in?
Does your wife have a like-minded sister?
I might join this club soon brehs, I think she the one