I mean this question seriously. I know there's lots of woman-bashing threads on this site and all, but I want to know how you've benefited from your marriage that you would not be able to do otherwise without your marriage. I've asked this question to others, and I get the following answers:
- The marriage is there to be strong for you when your relationship isn't strong.
- If (a big if) you want kids, it provides a structural team to raise children.
- Stability in your own life because of the reliance derived from the partnership of marriage.
I have issues with these, for the following reasons:
- Marriage is really easy to end, and women tend to do so 75% of the time at the man's detriment, and family court is not friendly to men in the least.
- People, myself included, aren't sure if we even want kids. It's a responsibility that just doesn't appeal to me, so I don't want to take it on.
- With self-discipline, I can create my own stability.
I was
blessed to grow up with two parents that strongly loved each other and still (in a sickening way) love each other and canoodle like teenagers whenever they go out to dinner together or enjoy a bottle of red together on the back patio. In a way I've found it
extremely admirable and if I knew that I would be able to have a relationship like that with a woman, I would. However, it just seems that there has been such a powerful cultural shift in the past 2-3 decades that makes me very risk-averse to try my hand in said paradigm.
Now if I'm way off base, let me know. I'm open to the idea of being completely wrong here. I just don't see what the point is right now. Enlighten the ignorant (myself) to the other side.
in the face.
. Good family but too much of a head-case breh.
