Married Men of the Coli, how have your lives improved since marrying?

[True Blue Moon]

Breh I tried to do everything. Marriage counseling, etc. Chick wasn't having it. I lost out to one of them stud type broads. Straight in the face.

I believe you breh. But it's like thinking only gays get AIDs. It seems like a cheater will cheat, gay, straight or bi. Blaming it on her liking p*ssy lets her off the hook for bein a bum bytch.

 

[ThumpDaddy]

I'm not going to address ole chick above ya. Shh happens man and I have no regrets. I'm moving on and Imma be straight breh. I didn't lose no money, I got a decent spot, car and job so Imma find someone else when I'm ready. I rushed that shh and got burnt.

I understand breh, if that was what she wants there was nothing you can do about it. You taking the right approach though. You said you got a clean break and that's the most important thing. Now you a bachelor again and can go about how you please. You can't put nothing past anyone these days.

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

i'll keep it 100% with u

marriage can be a beautiful thing with the right person. if u marry the wrong person its hell and u set urself up for heartbreak and a financial mess.

im married and it has its ups and downs but overall the person u are with is what makes the improvement

BUT

u should always be just as good without ur spouse too cuz relying on them will set u up for a massive L if u get divorced

First really good answer.



Anything that lots of people miss when looking for a spouse? I imagine that it's paying more attention to superficial qualities rather than actual compatibility.

 

[MikeBrownsJob]

I believe you breh. But it's like thinking only gays get AIDs. It seems like a cheater will cheat, gay, straight or bi. Blaming it on her liking p*ssy lets her off the hook for bein a bum bytch.

That's a good point. The bi-sexual shh just added to the sting. I mean shh I could understand if it was another dude that had more money, better looking, etc. Yeh that's superficial but I could at least wrap my mind around it, but anotha broad?

I can't even fcku ole girl up. If I twas a dude I could at least break a leg or something, but this chick is a 5"5 timberland wearing TLC reject.

I got to lick my wound and keep it moving.

Shh is painful breh lol

 

[True Blue Moon]

That's a good point. The bi-sexual shh just added to the sting. I mean shh I could understand if it was another dude that had more money, better looking, etc. Yeh that's superficial but I could at least wrap my mind around it, but anotha broad?

I can't even fcku ole girl up. If I twas a dude I could at least break a leg or something, but this chick is a 5"5 timberland wearing TLC reject.

I got to lick my wound and keep it moving.

Shh is painful breh lol

It sounds like it

Don't try to rationalize it though man, it is what it is. It's one of those things you just gotta eat and wait for the sting to go away. The worst L's a man takes usually involve women

At least it happened at a time where pretty much the whole market of women is still open to you. Imagine being a 50-year-old soccer dad or some shyt out the game for decades only to find out the mother of your kids is fooling with some college age stud

 

[twan83]

First really good answer.



Anything that lots of people miss when looking for a spouse? I imagine that it's paying more attention to superficial qualities rather than actual compatibility.

very true people need to understand sure u want a dime piece that looks good on ur side and all but what other things does she offer you

i tell u like this i just need a good woman that is honest, easy to communicate with, pulls her part in the marriage, good sex and can cook and clean.

sure looks matter but to an extent only and its not my top priority when im looking for that in a woman its how u treat a brother THAT MATTERS MOST.

then i'll treat ur ass good in return. its not much to ask to be honest.

but like i said before just cuz u have a good wife doesnt mean be lazy and not make sure u are ok if things go down south and u be all broke and heart broken.

NO MARRIAGE IS GUARANTEED and once ur realize that the better off u are. just enjoy it for what it is and however long it last and sure u want it to be EVERLASTING but dont be on that MOVIE FAIRYTALE BULLshyt thinking its gonna be like that cuz it aint

and thats what messes EVERYBODY UP.

im like this i love my wife and all but best believe ill also be fine without her too if things ever go to DIVORCE STAGE.

my number #1 priority OUR MY KIDS and as long as im there for them and taken care of them thats all that MATTERS.

 

[twan83]

That's a good point. The bi-sexual shh just added to the sting. I mean shh I could understand if it was another dude that had more money, better looking, etc. Yeh that's superficial but I could at least wrap my mind around it, but anotha broad?

I can't even fcku ole girl up. If I twas a dude I could at least break a leg or something, but this chick is a 5"5 timberland wearing TLC reject.

I got to lick my wound and keep it moving.

Shh is painful breh lol

fam i already went thru that with my ex baby momma of 5 yrs together of marriage. she was bi and left me and my kids for another woman. did it hurt sure but i moved past that shyt real quick due to us having other issues. plus i was like this

YOUR LOST SOMEONE ELSE'S GAIN is my motto when it comes to a woman who thinks they can do better than what i can offer her

and when they realize that im like hey TOO LATE TO THE RIGHT TO THE RIGHT U HAD UR CHANCE BUT WANTED TO PLAY THE FIELD

 

[Swirv]

I'm 28 breh. I did the whole minus by age twice plus 7. She was 21, just graduating college. I'm in my profession doing well for myself. She fine, that wet-wet . Good family but too much of a head-case breh.

I ignored the bi-sexual shh cause I figured all that would die down once we got married but I seen some signs. She would say "this or that female was cute" all the time. Had to constantly worry about her "female friends"

It eventually bit me in the a$$. I

Ever get 3some with her friends?

 

[MikeBrownsJob]

fam i already went thru that with my ex baby momma of 5 yrs together of marriage. she was bi and left me and my kids for another woman. did it hurt sure but i moved past that shyt real quick due to us having other issues. plus i was like this

YOUR LOST SOMEONE ELSE'S GAIN is my motto when it comes to a woman who thinks they can do better than what i can offer her

and when they realize that im like hey TOO LATE TO THE RIGHT TO THE RIGHT U HAD UR CHANCE BUT WANTED TO PLAY THE FIELD

I feel you man. I'm glad someone else has dealt with this. It happens more often then people think. The bi-sexual shh just increases the odds.

 

[MikeBrownsJob]

Ever get 3some with her friends?

1. Aint tryin to bring that into a marriage

2. 3somes are overrated

 

[Swirv]

1. Aint tryin to bring that into a marriage

2. 3somes are overrated

I dont see what the point of wifin was for then.

 

[Egomaniacal1]

 

[Zapp Brannigan]

very true people need to understand sure u want a dime piece that looks good on ur side and all but what other things does she offer you

i tell u like this i just need a good woman that is honest, easy to communicate with, pulls her part in the marriage, good sex and can cook and clean.

sure looks matter but to an extent only and its not my top priority when im looking for that in a woman its how u treat a brother THAT MATTERS MOST.

then i'll treat ur ass good in return. its not much to ask to be honest.

but like i said before just cuz u have a good wife doesnt mean be lazy and not make sure u are ok if things go down south and u be all broke and heart broken.

NO MARRIAGE IS GUARANTEED and once ur realize that the better off u are. just enjoy it for what it is and however long it last and sure u want it to be EVERLASTING but dont be on that MOVIE FAIRYTALE BULLshyt thinking its gonna be like that cuz it aint

and thats what messes EVERYBODY UP.

im like this i love my wife and all but best believe ill also be fine without her too if things ever go to DIVORCE STAGE.

my number #1 priority OUR MY KIDS and as long as im there for them and taken care of them thats all that MATTERS.

If only more people were about it like that. I can't fukkin' stand when people are only capable of seeing relationships as a vehicle that should benefit themselves somehow.