Married Men of the coli......

[Solano707]

Oh yeah - we've been married for 10 years as of July 25th. Been together for 14 years now. I met her when I was 18 and was 19.

We have four kids; she's a stay at home mom.

 

[MikelArteta]

Ooooooh I LOVE to bring light to my previous situation. Assuming ass people. I was married for a year in a half to answer your first question. (but we were both in school and could finally afford a dream wedding after 5+ years)

To address the second assumption, I got with him in his second year of law school, was with him as he graduated and also passed the patent bar to become an intellectual property attorney, who I moved all over CA with to end up in West Hollywood because he was with a firm that rep'd Apple. We moved back home, when I found a better job than I had in LA, and he was done with law, seeing as it made him work literally 18 hours a day. He then got a job here to be a software developer (his original major before law at an engineering school). He is very successful currently, as am I.

I'm not the one to place blame, things just didn't work out. I was never in it for the money. I asked for nothing in the divorce. I could have gotten some bomb ass alimony. Not necessary.

Last, I only communicate with my ex to tie up loose ends. We ended up just fine.

a year and a half marriage, folks give up out on marriage that quickly?

So you did file for the divorce didn't you?

so he did all that hard work, and as soon as he downgraded it was bushes wasn't it?

hypergamy 101


so what do you do for a living?

 

[twan83]

like for instance, I am out of town for work this week, and I was talking to the wife on the phone for a good 45 minutes. I dont even talk on the phone like that, but we were just shooting the shyt like

I did ask her to send me a naked pic when she gets in the shower just now

she was like

I be sneaking my own naked pics of her when she be changing clothes or in the shower anyways tho

btw, here are two pics if ya'll wanna be curious.

u did good

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

a year and a half marriage, folks give up out on marriage that quickly?

So you did file for the divorce didn't you?

so he did all that hard work, and as soon as he downgraded it was bushes wasn't it?

hypergamy 101


so what do you do for a living?

You clearly didn't read it all. We were together for a total of 7 years. We agreed on divorce. Bushes to no one. It was literally- clearly hard to believe for you- an adult way to end things.

 

[MikelArteta]

You clearly didn't read it all. We were together for a total of 7 years. We agreed on divorce. Bushes to no one. It was literally- clearly hard to believe for you- an adult way to end things.

there is always one party that has to file..............

so your vows meant nothing to you? they weren't worth fighting for? counselling?

this is all very troubling brehs , you say your vows but after a year and a half you just give up , i thought marriage was something worth fighting for.

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

there is always one party that has to file..............

so your vows meant nothing to you? they weren't worth fighting for? counselling?

this is all very troubling brehs , you say your vows but after a year and a half you just give up , i thought marriage was something worth fting for.

I feel you. I never wanted to place blame at all. We were the ones that didn't put in the work. All I know is that I'll do better in the future. I'm not using this tale as some kind of towards marriage. It def could have been handled differently, but it wasn't. All I know is how to move forward as a better me.

 

[MikelArteta]

I feel you. I never wanted to place blame at all. We were the ones that didn't put in the work. All I know is that I'll do better in the future. I'm not using this tale as some kind of towards marriage. It def could have been handled differently, but it wasn't. All I know is how to move forward as a better me.

well this is a cautionary tale and a eye opener that the sacred vows I may say on my wedding day may not be kept as the passion erodes. Thanks for reconfirming my stance on marriage.

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

well this is a cautionary tale and a eye opener that the sacred vows I may say on my wedding day may not be kept as the passion erodes. Thanks for reconfirming my stance on marriage.

I always took the words 'til death do us part', with a grain of salt. I was young. I had no way to know what was in store. Now I do. I also now know my shortcomings, as hindsight is 20/20. So far, I have a guy that I'm confident with (save your - I get it, things fall apart), and I'm doing all I can to do better than I did before. I learned from it. That's all you can do.

I disagree with your passion stance. I get it now that it will erode. I've finally realized that I have to find the person that I want to be with even though it's inevitable that it will happen. Peoples situations are different. I APPLAUD the ones that make it work. I suppose some just need the salty before they can appreciate the sweet.

 

[MikelArteta]

I always took the words 'til death do us part', with a grain of salt. I was young. I had no way to know what was in store. Now I do. I also now know my shortcomings, as hindsight is 20/20. So far, I have a guy that I'm confident with (save your - I get it, things fall apart), and I'm doing all I can to do better than I did before. I learned from it. That's all you can do.

I disagree with your passion stance. I get it now that it will erode. I've finally realized that I have to find the person that I want to be with even though it's inevitable that it will happen. Peoples situations are different. I APPLAUD the ones that make it work. I suppose some just need the salty before they can appreciate the sweet.

So like I said it was a starter marriage, to get all the kinks and know what to do for more than likely your second marriage am I correct?

so how long have you and @ forgot his username have been in a relationship, i mean if your first relationship/marriage eroded after 7 years and led to divorce breakup etc how are you sure that this one won't? if oyu have not had the 7 year itch, not been married, not been to the top of the mountain and the edge of the valleys?


and hmm best of luck

 

[Solano707]

I always took the words 'til death do us part', with a grain of salt. I was young. I had no way to know what was in store. Now I do. I also now know my shortcomings, as hindsight is 20/20. So far, I have a guy that I'm confident with (save your - I get it, things fall apart), and I'm doing all I can to do better than I did before. I learned from it. That's all you can do.

I disagree with your passion stance. I get it now that it will erode. I've finally realized that I have to find the person that I want to be with even though it's inevitable that it will happen. Peoples situations are different. I APPLAUD the ones that make it work. I suppose some just need the salty before they can appreciate the sweet.

You will never have a successful marriage with this mindset. Just saying breh

 

[AZBeauty]

Awwwww mannnnn this thread makes me wanna get married brehs


Somebody hold me

It's good to hear good marriage stories though man, all we hear is the bad on here and in real life. I cant lie, that shyt made me kind of jaded towards marriage

@AZBeauty since 16? Does he still give you butterflies? Would you do it again or wait and date more? You dont have to answer if you want to be private

Butterflies? Sometimes, he is very charming and he makes me laugh. If I could have any travel partner it would be him. I would have dated more because that is the normal process of growing into the person you need to be. I think dating teaches you what you like and don't and what type of person you want to be to whomever you date..so its important process which eventually leads to marriage.

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

I never been married but I assume its just like my best relationships... they weren't the best bodies or faces I had been with. They were attractive tho with other qualities.

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

You will never have a successful marriage with this mindset. Just saying breh

Did you miss the part where I said I learned from it? And right after that- I was young.

 

[Solano707]

What does learning mean though? We learn shyt everyday, but do we actually practice what we learn? Good luck though

 

[BillCosbyAteMyHomework]

What does learning mean though? We learn shyt everyday, but do we actually practice what we learn? Good luck though

Now practice what you preach, and live that same ideal!