Meanwhile Corny nikkahs Are Seeking Validation Online by Complaining about People Complaining:

[TL15]

Most people in the world aren't exceptional

That's not a black thing...it's a life thing. We are taught from the jump that we are special. Parents and teachers and pastors and friends mix up the meanings of "unique/individual" with "exemplary/exceptional". We tell kids they can b "anything they want" and then as adults we feel entitled to a "better life" when really we didn't make the sacrifices to get that "better life". If you are a C and B student with a Liberal Arts degree, you don't deserve the same pay as an A student in Engineering...you chose a different formula...live with different results

Here are the ways to "make it":

#1 be made - have family or a connection where you start off with a head start. Think the Hiltons or the Trumps. They have it already, their children will have it, their children's children will have it, etc.

#2 be naturally exceptional at something/ "luck of the draw" - Think Reggie Bush. A naturally fluid athlete. It wasn't of his "choosing" to be the best football player at age 13. He found out that he was great and worked his ass off I'm sure, but he never made a conscious decision to "choose" to be the fastest or most agile kid...it just sort of happened

#3 work tirelessly to your "comfort level" - some people are comfortable with 50K, some 100K, some 10 million. Once you find out what your comfort level is and what you TRULY will accept, work to that capacity. Not what you "want" because we all "want" more, but we aren't all willing to work for more. Find what you are comfortable settling at, and achieve it.

The one above (#3) is where people get fycked up. We want more, but we aren't willing to work for more. I'm not saying everyone should work forever and be happy with it, but we all have to be 100% HONEST with ourselves. Are we really working as hard as we say we are to be successful, or are we bullshytting? Where in our lives are we settling (spouses, friends, spending, job satisfaction). Are we utilizing our free time toward a passion/vision? Why do YOU (abstract...not attacking anyone in particular ) deserve more?

It's easy to look at the valedictorian and say "I could've been that but I chose to do X instead" and that's fine. But you can't be mad that someone else chose to be valedictorian and you didn't.

 

[HopeKillCure]

Question. Do u really think that if I have individual success I need to focus on everyone else in my race also attaining that same success when I know damn well thats not realistic because I know we all dont move the same?

You don't need to. That is what a LOT of black people do. They are worried about their own life and their own family and they dont understand why people can't be like them.

My parents are like this. "Why do you talk about this shyte, you have an education, you have a job or career path you are happy about, what's the problem?"

The problem is that a nikkah can be "good" and NOT be "good" at the same time.

Not everybody can just turn this life thing off and just worry about they own head or your own seed. I am average as fukk, and ain't nothing protecting me from anything that other black people are going through. I have no separation from the average black person, even when i'm overseas and much better off in every aspect of my life, I'm still no different than a immigrant black person or a local black person trying to hustle a living.

Seeing another nikkah go through something is gonna get a different reaction from everyone. Just because you okay with your own feelings of black oppression and black socioeconomic destrction globally, doesn't mean everybody has to be cool about it too. And you ain't got to be suffering to give a fukk about nikkahs who are miserable or suffering

 

[HopeKillCure]

Most people in the world aren't exceptional

That's not a black thing...it's a life thing. We are taught from the jump that we are special. Parents and teachers and pastors and friends mix up the meanings of "unique/individual" with "exemplary/exceptional". We tell kids they can b "anything they want" and then as adults we feel entitled to a "better life" when really we didn't make the sacrifices to get that "better life". If you are a C and B student with a Liberal Arts degree, you don't deserve the same pay as an A student in Engineering...you chose a different formula...live with different results

Here are the ways to "make it":

#1 be made - have family or a connection where you start off with a head start. Think the Hiltons or the Trumps. They have it already, their children will have it, their children's children will have it, etc.

#2 be naturally exceptional at something/ "luck of the draw" - Think Reggie Bush. A naturally fluid athlete. It wasn't of his "choosing" to be the best football player at age 13. He found out that he was great and worked his ass off I'm sure, but he never made a conscious decision to "choose" to be the fastest or most agile kid...it just sort of happened

#3 work tirelessly to your "comfort level" - some people are comfortable with 50K, some 100K, some 10 million. Once you find out what your comfort level is and what you TRULY will accept, work to that capacity. Not what you "want" because we all "want" more, but we aren't all willing to work for more. Find what you are comfortable settling at, and achieve it.

The one above (#3) is where people get fycked up. We want more, but we aren't willing to work for more. I'm not saying everyone should work forever and be happy with it, but we all have to be 100% HONEST with ourselves. Are we really working as hard as we say we are to be successful, or are we bullshytting? Where in our lives are we settling (spouses, friends, spending, job satisfaction). Are we utilizing our free time toward a passion/vision? Why do YOU (abstract...not attacking anyone in particular ) deserve more?

It's easy to look at the valedictorian and say "I could've been that but I chose to do X instead" and that's fine. But you can't be mad that someone else chose to be valedictorian and you didn't.

This is what I'm getting at.

Rich white girl in the video goes, "did my family work hard, sure they did! But so do families in the project. Everybody works hard"--And that's the truth.

People work, some work harder than others, but everybody works hard. There are people with B and C in liberal arts degrees earning more money than students with As in engineering. That's the point im trying to make, it's not as simple as do A+B=C.. Nothing in life is fair. nikkahs wanna just say "Learn a language" or "work hard" or "get good grades in school" but none of that really means shyte. It's a whole world of random situations and fukked up opportunities that dictates out success.

Being a valedictorian doesn't mean anything 5 years later, you can do everything right and still end up homeless. I've had to help clients who were homeless with a fukking Ivy League masters degree and a family to feed. Not attacking you, but i just don't understand the world that some of these nikkahs live in

 

[King Jae]

.... Ok...

 

[TL15]

This is what I'm getting at.

Rich white girl in the video goes, "did my family work hard, sure they did! But so do families in the project. Everybody works hard"--And that's the truth.

People work, some work harder than others, but everybody works hard. There are people with B and C in liberal arts degrees earning more money than students with As in engineering. That's the point im trying to make, it's not as simple as do A+B=C.. Nothing in life is fair. nikkahs wanna just say "Learn a language" or "work hard" or "get good grades in school" but none of that really means shyte. It's a whole world of random situations and fukked up opportunities that dictates out success.

Being a valedictorian doesn't mean anything 5 years later, you can do everything right and still end up homeless. I've had to help clients who were homeless with a fukking Ivy League masters degree and a family to feed. Not attacking you, but i just don't understand the world that some of these nikkahs live in

The bold is incorrect (as an adult..outside of a natural disaster or a medical emergency). You cannot do "everything right" and end up homeless. I do well, I am a sane and normal working adult. If I lost my job somehow and couldn't find another one, I could work at taco bell. I could go on craigslist and find a roommate. I won't ever be homeless (save for a natural disaster or some overwhelming medical emergency that changes my ability to produce income)


Saying "nothing in life is fair" is untrue. Life is REALLY fair for what it's supposed to be. People have a jaded perspective based on the whole "you can be whatever you want to be" narrative we are fed as children. Life is relatively fair, it's just NOT what you think it's supposed to be. Life is cruel. The earth is cruel. The majority of people in the world never see the success that they would have hoped. Just because you see the very few who do (football players, celebrities, entrepreneurs) "make it" doesn't mean it's unfair that you or I didn't. It means that life is positively unfair for them.

 

[BlackAlacard]

The scariest thing for most people is to realize they are exactly where they are in life because that is where they're meant to be.

 

[IVS]

The bold is incorrect (as an adult..outside of a natural disaster or a medical emergency). You cannot do "everything right" and end up homeless. I do well, I am a sane and normal working adult. If I lost my job somehow and couldn't find another one, I could work at taco bell. I could go on craigslist and find a roommate. I won't ever be homeless (save for a natural disaster or some overwhelming medical emergency that changes my ability to produce income)


Saying "nothing in life is fair" is untrue. Life is REALLY fair for what it's supposed to be. People have a jaded perspective based on the whole "you can be whatever you want to be" narrative we are fed as children. Life is relatively fair, it's just NOT what you think it's supposed to be. Life is cruel. The earth is cruel. The majority of people in the world never see the success that they would have hoped. Just because you see the very few who do (football players, celebrities, entrepreneurs) "make it" doesn't mean it's unfair that you or I didn't. It means that life is positively unfair for them.

LOL! There is no such thing as fairness in nature. Its a human concept. Life IS! But nothing in it is really fair.

 

[TL15]

LOL! There is no such thing as fairness in nature. Its a human concept. Life IS! But nothing in it is really fair.

We are saying the same thing...Life is what it's supposed to be.

 

[IVS]

We are saying the same thing...Life is what it's supposed to be.

Aboslutely Im concur brethren

 

[HopeKillCure]

The bold is incorrect (as an adult..outside of a natural disaster or a medical emergency). You cannot do "everything right" and end up homeless. I do well, I am a sane and normal working adult. If I lost my job somehow and couldn't find another one, I could work at taco bell. I could go on craigslist and find a roommate. I won't ever be homeless (save for a natural disaster or some overwhelming medical emergency that changes my ability to produce income)


Saying "nothing in life is fair" is untrue. Life is REALLY fair for what it's supposed to be. People have a jaded perspective based on the whole "you can be whatever you want to be" narrative we are fed as children. Life is relatively fair, it's just NOT what you think it's supposed to be. Life is cruel. The earth is cruel. The majority of people in the world never see the success that they would have hoped. Just because you see the very few who do (football players, celebrities, entrepreneurs) "make it" doesn't mean it's unfair that you or I didn't. It means that life is positively unfair for them.

We disagree. I don't know what your life is or your background, but dealing with Homeless families is what I do for my career. You can absolutely do everything the right way and still end up homeless--especially when you have dependents.

Your way of dealing with losing your job aint the same as everybody else. There are many reasons why people lose their jobs to begin with, and many factors that can keep them out of the workforce. nothing in life is fair neither love nor war. Simply saying you are where you deserve to be in life doesn't work that way, "Jews didn't deserve to be in makeshift ovens or camps, blacks didn't deserve to be in transatlantic slavery nor segregation. The universe doesn't give you what is fair, life is not fair at any level.

 

[HopeKillCure]

The scariest thing for most people is to realize they are exactly where they are in life because that is where they're meant to be.

I think it's lazy to say anyone is meant to be anywhere. Being gunned down on church on a sunday ain't were we meant to be, it just so happens that they were there that day.

 

[TL15]

We disagree. I don't know what your life is or your background, but dealing with Homeless families is what I do for my career. You can absolutely do everything the right way and still end up homeless--especially when you have dependents.

Your way of dealing with losing your job aint the same as everybody else. There are many reasons why people lose their jobs to begin with, and many factors that can keep them out of the workforce. nothing in life is fair neither love nor war. Simply saying you are where you deserve to be in life doesn't work that way, "Jews didn't deserve to be in makeshift ovens or camps, blacks didn't deserve to be in transatlantic slavery nor segregation. The universe doesn't give you what is fair, life is not fair at any level.

This is incorrect. Feel free to give me an anecdote. I am not saying I don't have sympathy for the homeless or homeless families (and I you for working with them... no malice in my heart) but you can't say "I did EVERYTHING RIGHT and ended up homeless" (save for a natural disaster or medical emergency).

 

[BlackAlacard]

I think it's lazy to say anyone is meant to be anywhere. Being gunned down on church on a sunday ain't were we meant to be, it just so happens that they were there that day.

That's a random one off situation. I meant trying to improve your station in life. People want things quickly. They want now and not later. That is what I mean. I don't have any children, probably won't ever, but if I had to work most my life in obscurity and suffer disappointment to give my hypothetical children a boost I would. I wouldn't argue about how it's not fair or how I shouldn't have to.