Men-how well do you communicate?

[315]

What kind of flower ass nikka has feelings?

 

[Redwood]

Women are usually more extroverted than men are,

 

[Nemesis]

I think that's pretty general. I know some women who are pretty closed off...that confuses guys. She will talk to everyone else about how she feels but won't talk to him. I used to be like that until a couple of guys I really, really liked got fed up. I had to adjust. And some guys talk ALL THE TIME...

Ive never met a woman that didnt talk too much...... maybe you dont talk too much compared to other women ...... by the way its not a criticism of women just an observation

 

[cocoabutter27]

I communicate very well. I am honest with myself and have a good understanding of what makes me tick and I have a knack for expressing it either verbally or in writing.

In general both sexes suck and communicating. Women like to talk more under the guise of communication but they don't communicate any more effectively than men. Problem is that most people lie to themselves and live in a delusional fantasy world. It's kinda hard to communicate what's going on with you or what you want when you won't even allow yourself to recognize it. A lot of deep-seated issues from childhood and respective cultures involved as well.

This is true as well. I think some people just weren't allowed to express themselves as kids and that carries over to adult hood.

 

[OfTheCross]

I have male friends, cousins and co-workers that always seem to create more stress for themselves than necessary because of their failure to effectively communicate. They withhold the truth, outright lie or become passive aggressive instead of letting a chick know that their feelings were hurt.

People aren't mind readers and tons of relationships have gone downhill fast because people didn't communicate. So how effective are you at laying it out there no matter the consequences?

With men, great.

With women , below average. y'all can't take criticism for shyt

 

[cocoabutter27]

Ive never met a woman that didnt talk too much...... maybe you dont talk too much compared to other women ...... by the way its not a criticism of women just an observation

You are probably right. So what is "talking too much" for a woman?

 

[cocoabutter27]

With men, great.

With women , below average. y'all can't take criticism for shyt

Are you criticizing to help improve her or being passive aggressive because you are in your feelings? Women can tell the difference. If I unintentionally hurt my hubby's feelings and he decided to not address it, but nit pick my cooking (which is always on point and he knows it) or how I take care of our kids, then I would dismiss it as him being in his feelings.

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

I communicate directly and say what's on my mind when it should be said especially when I have an issue with something that was done or said. Too many men hide their issues because they're afraid to come off a certain way. I don't hide my opinions but I hate expressing feelings so I can be coddled like a kid, if people don't have solutions or ways to solve the issue then I don't have time to waste talking about it just to be coddled like a kid.

 

[Nemesis]

You are probably right. So what is "talking too much" for a woman?

I know the name of every person that my girl has ever worked with, even those before I ever met her, and Ive never met anyone of them ....... she can probably name only four of my friends ......

it is what it is

 

[OfTheCross]

Are you criticizing to help improve her or being passive aggressive because you are in your feelings? Women can tell the difference. If I unintentionally hurt my hubby's feelings and he decided to not address it, but nit pick my cooking (which is always on point and he knows it) or how I take care of our kids, then I would dismiss it as him being in his feelings.

Brehette. If I point out that you're fukking up just fix it.

Why you asking questions about my feelings when I already told you what to fix.

 

[scarlxrd]

I have male friends, cousins and co-workers that always seem to create more stress for themselves than necessary because of their failure to effectively communicate. They withhold the truth, outright lie or become passive aggressive instead of letting a chick know that their feelings were hurt.

People aren't mind readers and tons of relationships have gone downhill fast because people didn't communicate. So how effective are you at laying it out there no matter the consequences?

It's a really bad trait. I struggle with it sometimes, not as bad as I used to be at all. I'm at the point now where I'll put all the cards on the table and look like an a$$hole than keep my feelings to myself till I blow up on something.

 

[cocoabutter27]

Brehette. If I point out that you're fukking up just fix it.

Why you asking questions about my feelings when I already told you what to fix.

I'm asking how you are presenting the criticism to her. It makes a difference in how someone takes it.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Depends on how pissed off I get or how disrespected I feel.

If you're throwing mud because you're pissed and you want me to get dirty with you, you can forget about any kind of reasonable discourse. I'll just shut down and let you cry yourself to sleep.

But if you're venting frustration in a way that's not composed of ad hominems and emotional vitriol, then I'm Aristotle with melanin.

 

[cocoabutter27]

Depends on how pissed off I get or how disrespected I feel.

If you're throwing mud because you're pissed and you want me to get dirty with you, you can forget about any kind of reasonable discourse.

But if you're venting frustration in a way that's not composed of ad hominems and emotional vitriol, then I'm Aristotle with melanin.

Got it...less emotion, more logical reasoning.

 

[DrX]

say whats on my mind....ppl think its funny, now realizing im 100% serious