My ex? Lol we broke up but we good money. We still kick it. Might end up back together, might not
Men that wait until their late 20's or 30s to be in a serious relationship/settle down
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My ex? Lol we broke up but we good money. We still kick it. Might end up back together, might not
Youseenmywork
KING
Youseenmywork
KING
Not true but I'll let you cook thoe. Men are trying to learn about women in there 20s.
Black Cobain
Donkey Punch? I Donkey Slap!
I'll prolly be dead by my late 30's 
Morbid jokes aside, #GMB
Morbid jokes aside, #GMB
raoulduke187
All Star
okay, let's weigh it out:
Pros:
+You probably won't die alone
Cons (okay, a few of these can be prevented if you sign a prenup, but not a lot of people do that):
-Travelling becomes significantly harder (even impossible)
-You have to explain all your decisions to somebody
-Less or no time to yourself
-Boring sex life (even if you cheat, you'll never have the freedom that single guys have and most likely you'll end up in shyt)
-Your house isn't yours anymore
-Your money isn't yours anymore
-You are now related to her relatives
-Daily nagging/irrational behaviour of all sorts
-Less sleep (or NO sleep if you have kids)
-Kids - will destroy the best years of your life and will never show gratitude, yet until they become 18 you're responsible for all their mistakes
-You have to maintain a steady job (bosses will step on your ass all the time because they know you have a lot to lose)
-All the shyt you worked hard for can be easily taken from you by divorce
And you're asking a person in his early 20's to willingly pick settling down? That's like taking a newborn bird that hasn't even flown yet, cutting off its wings and leaving it like that. You might as well kill the poor thing
Pros:
+You probably won't die alone
Cons (okay, a few of these can be prevented if you sign a prenup, but not a lot of people do that):
-Travelling becomes significantly harder (even impossible)
-You have to explain all your decisions to somebody
-Less or no time to yourself
-Boring sex life (even if you cheat, you'll never have the freedom that single guys have and most likely you'll end up in shyt)
-Your house isn't yours anymore
-Your money isn't yours anymore
-You are now related to her relatives
-Daily nagging/irrational behaviour of all sorts
-Less sleep (or NO sleep if you have kids)
-Kids - will destroy the best years of your life and will never show gratitude, yet until they become 18 you're responsible for all their mistakes
-You have to maintain a steady job (bosses will step on your ass all the time because they know you have a lot to lose)
-All the shyt you worked hard for can be easily taken from you by divorce
And you're asking a person in his early 20's to willingly pick settling down? That's like taking a newborn bird that hasn't even flown yet, cutting off its wings and leaving it like that. You might as well kill the poor thing
the bitterness. I have a baby face and look like I'm 22 when I am already over 30. I can settle when I'm 40, or slightly younger.
root_eruditorium_org
All Star
you are really overstating how much quality women there are.
also you can't forget the effect toxic people have on others. if u do a chick or dude dirty you've pretty much fcked everything up for everyone else who will try to get to her/him afterwards. a lot of people play the game begrudgingly.
I've been in relationships my whole life. At 32, this is my first time being single. Even tho I miss my ex like crazy...the moves I can make and the women I've met 
No naggin
No "where you at"
shyt is lovely
No naggin
No "where you at"
shyt is lovely
the bossman
Superstar
you trippin breh. I take the condom straight to the toilet myself and flush every time
the bossman
Superstar
it's not just too busy playing player, many are also still trying to build their foundation in life. in order for him to become the man he's gonna be and the man that you're attracted to, he needs to do these things (go through player stage and build foundation).
Malik1time
What you looking at?
are you talking in general or you talking people in their 20's?okay, let's weigh it out:
Pros:
+You probably won't die alone
Cons (okay, a few of these can be prevented if you sign a prenup, but not a lot of people do that):
-Travelling becomes significantly harder (even impossible)
-You have to explain all your decisions to somebody
-Less or no time to yourself
-Boring sex life (even if you cheat, you'll never have the freedom that single guys have and most likely you'll end up in shyt)
-Your house isn't yours anymore
-Your money isn't yours anymore
-You are now related to her relatives
-Daily nagging/irrational behaviour of all sorts
-Less sleep (or NO sleep if you have kids)
-Kids - will destroy the best years of your life and will never show gratitude, yet until they become 18 you're responsible for all their mistakes
-You have to maintain a steady job (bosses will step on your ass all the time because they know you have a lot to lose)
-All the shyt you worked hard for can be easily taken from you by divorce
And you're asking a person in his early 20's to willingly pick settling down? That's like taking a newborn bird that hasn't even flown yet, cutting off its wings and leaving it like that. You might as well kill the poor thing
KinksandCoils
African American Queen
Where is the bitterness n my most? Y'all men love calling a woman bitter
I have a baby face and look like I'm 22 when I am already over 30. I can settle when I'm 40, or slightly younger.
That's y I mentioned being a player
that's an excuse y have someone unless you trying to build with them?
the bossman
Superstar
I just turned 31okay, let's weigh it out:
Pros:
+You probably won't die alone
Cons (okay, a few of these can be prevented if you sign a prenup, but not a lot of people do that):
-Travelling becomes significantly harder (even impossible)
-You have to explain all your decisions to somebody
-Less or no time to yourself
-Boring sex life (even if you cheat, you'll never have the freedom that single guys have and most likely you'll end up in shyt)
-Your house isn't yours anymore
-Your money isn't yours anymore
-You are now related to her relatives
-Daily nagging/irrational behaviour of all sorts
-Less sleep (or NO sleep if you have kids)
-Kids - will destroy the best years of your life and will never show gratitude, yet until they become 18 you're responsible for all their mistakes
-You have to maintain a steady job (bosses will step on your ass all the time because they know you have a lot to lose)
-All the shyt you worked hard for can be easily taken from you by divorce
And you're asking a person in his early 20's to willingly pick settling down? That's like taking a newborn bird that hasn't even flown yet, cutting off its wings and leaving it like that. You might as well kill the poor thing
few weeks ago breh and I remember when I used to think like you. A lot of the cons you listed can be avoided by simply being a mothafukkin man and choosing better-Travelling becomes significantly harder (even impossible) / get you a partner who has the same love for travel as you. establish early on in the relationship that you like to do trips solo or with ya boys as well
-You have to explain all your decisions to somebody / a woman who respects you aint gonna be questioning you like some teacher. unless it's something that impacts yalls livelihood or the relationship (changing jobs, deciding to move somewhere, etc.) this is not an issue.
-Less or no time to yourself / again have some balls and tell your woman you need your space at times. encourage her to pick up some hobbies. the time spent away from each other makes the moments when you come back together even better
-Boring sex life / sex life is what you make it.
-Your house isn't yours anymore / yea it's ours.
-Your money isn't yours anymore / yea now you have two incomes. hopefully double the money. now you can pay off the house quicker, build a business, if you lose your job, she can hold the fort down till you get back on your feet.
-You are now related to her relatives
/ this is shyt you can see early on in the dating process. if you don't like what you see, bounce. -Daily nagging/irrational behaviour of all sorts / outside of their time of the month, if you takin care of your lady she aint gonna press you over dumb shyt
-Less sleep (or NO sleep if you have kids) / if you are running your household as a man properly, outside of the first year when they're an infant this aint an issue.
-Kids - will destroy the best years of your life and will never show gratitude, yet until they become 18 you're responsible for all their mistakes / kids is a personal decision. some people want'em some don't. i look at it as a chance to continue my family legacy and pass down resources to the next generation to further the advancement of the black community . to each his own.
-You have to maintain a steady job (bosses will step on your ass all the time because they know you have a lot to lose) /
how the fukk is this a con? you have to provide for yourself regardless even if you didn't have a family or wife. but how you provide is up to you. it could be through building your own business, nobody said you have to be a slave to some white corporation. you just have to provide.-All the shyt you worked hard for can be easily taken from you by divorce / again there's a lot of red flags you will see in the dating phase and measures you can take before you get to the altar to avoid a situation like this.
I just turned 31
-Travelling becomes significantly harder (even impossible) / get you a partner who has the same love for travel as you. establish early on in the relationship that you like to do trips solo or with ya boys as well
-You have to explain all your decisions to somebody / a woman who respects you aint gonna be questioning you like some teacher. unless it's something that impacts yalls livelihood or the relationship (changing jobs, deciding to move somewhere, etc.) this is not an issue.
-Less or no time to yourself / again have some balls and tell your woman you need your space at times. encourage her to pick up some hobbies. the time spent away from each other makes the moments when you come back together even better
-Boring sex life / sex life is what you make it.
-Your house isn't yours anymore / yea it's ours.
-Your money isn't yours anymore / yea now you have two incomes. hopefully double the money. now you can pay off the house quicker, build a business, if you lose your job, she can hold the fort down till you get back on your feet.
-You are now related to her relatives
-Daily nagging/irrational behaviour of all sorts / outside of their time of the month, if you takin care of your lady she aint gonna press you over dumb shyt
-Less sleep (or NO sleep if you have kids) / if you are running your household as a man properly, outside of the first year when they're an infant this aint an issue.
-Kids - will destroy the best years of your life and will never show gratitude, yet until they become 18 you're responsible for all their mistakes / kids is a personal decision. some people want'em some don't. i look at it as a chance to continue my family legacy and pass down resources to the next generation to further the advancement of the black community . to each his own.
-You have to maintain a steady job (bosses will step on your ass all the time because they know you have a lot to lose) /
-All the shyt you worked hard for can be easily taken from you by divorce / again there's a lot of red flags you will see in the dating phase and measures you can take before you get to the altar to avoid a situation like this.
You're 31.... talk to men in their 50s/60s/70s then get back to us
the bossman
Superstar
I said he needs to build a foundation. not the whole house.
that guy you like is a lot more appealing to you because he's shown he knows wtf he's doing and where the fukk he's going in life. I'm sure that's a lot more attractive than the guy bouncing between temp jobs, while living with his mom and don't know how to talk or flirt with you or fukk you right?