What i mean is much like the single mamas whether successful or not and their rightful admiration of a black couple between a man and a woman, lames look at the breh MJB the same way. They all want what he has amassed. They want the charm, the looks and natural swagger (still come off like a cornball you see it in that smirk) the physique. What they are overall lacking. See this is just as problematic and worrisome because its another form of escapism and idolatry that is a big issue with some of the people in our community. But more importantly as a man, you shouldn’t be looking to another man you don’t know, let alone a “actor” as a source for reclaiming your manhood. I get it, a number of ya’ll sat alone or in the library during lunchtime, nerdy hoes to the pretty girls stepped over you and played jump rope with your heart strings and now you rightly may or may not have glowed up but you still feeling empty at the end of the day so you look to someone as a figurehead for how you THINK you should be but ignore who you ARE.
Who you ARE isn’t the problem, its HOW YOU ARE that’s leading to your chronic unhappiness and wish casting. Telling a bytch or trying to humble a mf that was a damn mentally undeveloped child ain’t what you should strive for. What you strive for is that sense of rebirth. Where as a man you chronicle the trials and tribulations and right those wrongs through emotional, mental and spiritual realignment. Then comes enjoying the spoils of your labor.
Umm so let’s see insert pretty much any successful celebrity especially actors they all fit this mold. So wouldn’t they all be the same. I don’t recall a post saying how Denzel for example is who the lames look up to. Same with just about all of the rappers and music artist they all fit this mold. Basically they were nobodies until they got some pull. I remember when folks in Petersburg used to shyt on a young trey songz. Basically until you level up most folks are just average. So the question becomes who are actually the lames? The person who build their value through working hard and overcoming or the people who peaked in highschool?