Chea, thats why I mentioned comedians because nine out of ten they know the shadows depth and the small percent thats left are very, very perceptive and thus intuit the rest. The true nature of pain and suffering is what makes the wheel of life spin. People will deny this with a vengeance because the implications are too big for them to allow themselves to comprehend what happened to that childlike innocence that was fractured into a thousand bits and now sits there drinking the pain away, just trying to make it through another day, a hollow shell compared to what its been.
The comedian is an alchemist in that sense because he uses what drags him down to uplift the rest because he can spit raw facts in jest that amuse the surface whilst soothing that which dwells within as the pain thinks "At last, someone else who gets". For a small slice of time when we laugh we can forget the injuries we've sustained in this realm. Narcotics allow us to prolong this state at greater costs as does the net and its distractions.
At the end of the day, however, all you have is you and your Self which is why I prefer to chase the pain and befriend what is in no way shape or form an enemy because that, that is what picked you up and carried you couldn't move your legs but still had to press on. To turn your back on and hate this valuable ally is a form of murdering yourself that so many blindly engage in because, by and large, people do not speak on these topics because, once again:
Pain and suffering is what makes the wheels of life spin.
Whew. Square biz. That's how it is. Hurt people thrive on hurt until the cure of laughter ends the pain of both parties. We carry this cure, but fail to realize it because who wants to actually be free from the vices that holds us down, in favor of attention to avoid the intent of searching for self care?