I am frugal and
live off less than half of what I make as well.
I think you are confusing saving diligently with structural gaps that can quickly destroy the average American including those that save appropriately. Medical debt and Housing debt both surpassed living beyond your means in a
study I saw cited.
Also, I don't think you quite realize how you were unconsciously bred for a frugal lifestyle. The fact that your parents gave you a 12 year old car shows that:
- Your parents were in your life and were actively providing/guiding you.
- The fact that they had an operational 12 year old car speaks to their values.
- The fact that they handed that car onto you instead of buying you a new car speaks to their values.
- My guess is you don't have dependents that could negatively affect your costs or unforeseen costs.
All of these factors are not a given and can each extremely impact someone's financial future.
Medical debt I concede but housing debt that is something you choose. You can rent your whole life if needed. You can buy a home you can afford.
I'm not frugal I'm cheap. When it comes to stuff I'm interested in I will blow tons of money on it. When it comes to other things I don't care about as much I won't.
I've never been a car person. I'm approaching 40 and I've never owned a new car in my life. I'm also on my first car note I got at age 36 and I borrowed $10,000.
My parents did breed me to pay attention to my finances and tried to get me to be frugal but it mostly didn't hold on me. For example from 2012 to 2020 I've spend over $12,000 on TV sets. 8 of them. That's stupid. In the same amount of time I spend well over $4000 on soundbars for those TVs.
Picture somebody like that spending money on silly stuff like that but driving a 12 year old car. That's far from frugal it's pretty dumb. All that money spend on TVs and soundbars could have bought a car. If invested from 2012 to now it could probably have paid for a car worth twice the $17,000 I paid for my current one. I could have bought 2 TVs and 2 soundbars and still accomplished that.