Most important lesson life has taught you so far?

[sanityovar8ted]

I agree but I have been made the villain in my family. Other cuzzins have confided in me that they were molested by other relatives also but don't want 2 speak out cuz they don't want 2 b treated like me
And what's really fucc'd up is the molesters in the family r held in the highest regard and I hate my DNA members. They don't hafta cut me off when they handed me the scissors cuz I cut them off emotionally years ago 4 never believing me.

 

[Ya Sinning Mane]

When a door closes on you

It mean another door about to open

JESUSSSS

 

[Studious one]

This is actually the key to a good relationship and strong mental health otherwise you're like the rest where they're the equivalent of two empty glasses clinking as they ask another for something they can't give - A drink.

My cup overfloweth from the depths of solitude...




Its very powerful and the more you learn how to apply it in the moment by turning inwards to see the true cause the more and more intriguing the nature of reality becomes as the implications are world shifting. It also brings back the sense of play you had as a jit because you'll start saying things to see what happens.



Number nine shoulda been number one to me... This is pretty much what I said in the OP because one can smile and smile and be a villain. There is a deeper point to this because we're all born blooming and real before life makes you fold in on yourself and thats why people world build and project. The best liars are the ones who genuinely believe their own hype or are moving to another script as energy vampires and dark souls are a very, very real thing and I'd be willing to bet everyone on here has met/interacted with at least one but only a handful realized the shadows depth.

Breh,dap +rep

 

[murksiderock]

Mine is that when people show you who the are, believe them.

Masks always slip. Always. Thing is if you're invested in the concept they present you miss that which smiles and is a villain beneath which is the really real. Very valuable insight as not all possess the honor they profess in your presence and its quite amazing the lengths some will go to to get you to believe their deception on the surface that lacks all depth and becomes Self evident when battle tested and you gotta go for delf.

Break bread with the fam. Whats the most important lesson life has taught you so far?

There is nothing like family who you can trust and turn to and confide in

For most of us Blacks it’s going to take time to find success. I didn’t start making real money until age 36 and moved into our McMansion this year at age 37. Don’t think that you have to have every single thing in place in your mid 20’s to be successfully and just continue to build.

Friends and family come and go. It happens don't get upset about it

You don't have to tell people about things going on in your life.
It's nice to confide in people, but at the same time you never know how people will use personal information against you

Don't be late
Do get paid

Don't lend money unless you can afford to lose it or commit violence to get it back.

If a woman doesn't respect you, leave.

If you fail to plan, you plan to fail

life is all about action everything gets better if you keep moving/working*

Jealousy is admiration turned upside down.

Always stay in control of your emotions. You will always win that way. The moment you lose hold of them you loss.

Every single one of these quotes are jewels. The boy @Complexion preaching in this muhfukkin thread...

 

[murksiderock]

Hard to top some of the posts in here. Salute to everyone, it's hard to narrow down to just one...

•nobody has you the way you have yourself, so self love is utmost importance. If you believe in yourself, you can build whatever life you want. Alot if people love you, and support you, to a point. Very, very few people, no matter their relation to you, love you unconditionally. Love yourself first!

•every action has a reaction, both positive and negative. Treat people well. It's all going to come back to you whether you're prepared or not, so understand that you reap what you sow...

•everybody is going thru, or has gone thru, some tribulations. No person is immune from hard times. Your response to them dictate your journey on the other side of them...

•if money is your primary motivation, eventually whatever you value will crumble. Money is fleeting, it can be made, it can be lost, if you've had it once you can get it again. So your moral compass shouldn't be centered around money. While we're at it, have some real morals. If you stand for nothing you'll go for anything...

•everyone has a (death) date, we just don't know when it is. Live the life that brings you the most peace and happiness!

 

[Studious one]

Please

Blood don't make u family. My entire maternal side of the family has disowned me 4 speaking out about being molested as a child by a family member more loved than me. They would always praise him n brag on him. My mother even said he was her favorite nephew. But my daughter is proud that I broke the generational curse

Please know that there are people out here that respect your strength for what you’re u have been through, and can relate

 

[Studious one]

Hard to top some of the posts in here. Salute to everyone, it's hard to narrow down to just one...

•nobody has you the way you have yourself, so self love is utmost importance. If you believe in yourself, you can build whatever life you want. Alot if people love you, and support you, to a point. Very, very few people, no matter their relation to you, love you unconditionally. Love yourself first!

•every action has a reaction, both positive and negative. Treat people well. It's all going to come back to you whether you're prepared or not, so understand that you reap what you sow...

•everybody is going thru, or has gone thru, some tribulations. No person is immune from hard times. Your response to them dictate your journey on the other side of them...

•if money is your primary motivation, eventually whatever you value will crumble. Money is fleeting, it can be made, it can be lost, if you've had it once you can get it again. So your moral compass shouldn't be centered around money. While we're at it, have some real morals. If you stand for nothing you'll go for anything...

•everyone has a (death) date, we just don't know when it is. Live the life that brings you the most peace and happiness!

I had to learn number one the hard way. I put my value as a person into the good that I do. I realized that a lot of things was at the detriment to the person I truly am…I feel that everyone has that inner child, where life changed, and your perception of things re at a stand-still.I’m just getting in tune to that little girl and the unfairness that I had put her through. ..get in tune with that little girl or boy. It changes things.

 

[Studious one]

I agree but I have been made the villain in my family. Other cuzzins have confided in me that they were molested by other relatives also but don't want 2 speak out cuz they don't want 2 b treated like me
And what's really fucc'd up is the molesters in the family r held in the highest regard and I hate my DNA members. They don't hafta cut me off when they handed me the scissors cuz I cut them off emotionally years ago 4 never believing me.

The old adage that it’s lonely at the top is true… ask yourself: would you go back and not expose things if you knew the consequences of it? You shouldn’t feel bad about doing the right thing.you don’t even know that your stance has more than likely prevented someone that didn’t have the strength to expose this person’s ways. You seem of sound mind. All blessings to you. Really.

 

[africngiant]

i stg

 

[sanityovar8ted]

The old adage that it’s lonely at the top is true… ask yourself: would you go back and not expose things if you knew the consequences of it? You shouldn’t feel bad about doing the right thing.you don’t even know that your stance has more than likely prevented someone that didn’t have the strength to expose this person’s ways. You seem of sound mind. All blessings to you. Really.

I appreciate ur kind words.

 

[JQ Legend]

The people who will cross you the worst are people you let get too close to you

Cut off any and everyone who brings drama/misery into your life, no matter how much you think you’re “supposed” to keep them around you (ie “close” family, long time friends, etc)

The “right” thing is sometimes the most wrong thing you could possibly do

There is a such thing as too much of anything, no exceptions. Even the things we need to survive will kill us if we have too much of it.

Anyone who tries to guilt trip you into something is trying to take advantage of your kindness towards them, there are no exceptions to this, not even family

Y’all dropped some gems in this thread btw

 

[ReggieFlare]

Hella gems in this thread that align with some of the important lessons I’ve learned. I’ll throw in a couple that have been relevant for me recently.

1. Be comfortable being uncomfortable, it’s usually during this time we learn and grow the most. The antidote to this is proper planning/preparation but life often forces us into situations we didn’t ask for, learn to roll with the punches and never get caught off your square.

2. It’s natural to outgrow relationships, don’t feel bad for letting it happen. On a personal note, I’m at a point in my life where my mindset is radically different than most of the people who have been in my circle, family and friends included. It has kinda led to me being isolated from them and for a time it bothered me a bit but I’ve come to terms with the idea that we all have our own personal journeys to embark on…as a result, the bonds that you may have thought were unbreakable can erode and sometimes you just gotta accept that.

 

[Commish]

Minding my business while keeping others out of my business.

My attitude, not aptitude will determine my altitude.

Cause & effect is real!

 

[Magic Mulatto]

Money is everything…

It’s the only thing…

 

[Hey_zeus]

Pain is the only real feeling. It influences everything.