Moving to a new city has made me realize the value of having a social circle

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

There's an app called 'meetup' which helps connect people in your situation looking for like minded people to hang out with. Look it up.

Breh have you ever used Meetup? . I have joined groups and even went out with one before. The people you meet are way older and in different places in their lives. On top of that most of them are losers you wouldn't fukk with in your personal life. Unless it's niche for a select young singles group (which I haven't seen), then the shyt ain't worth it.

 

[brooklyn_boulevard]

I move around every couple of years. The older I get, the harder it is to get into another social circle. I’m 36, so everybody is pretty much married with kids. I have neither (why I always move for better job opportunities).

I dunno if moving around anymore is tenable any more.

Basically, my last 10 years have been:

Phoenix
Indiana
Chicago
DC
Houston

And prior to that, it was CT, OK, Dallas, NC. In like a 8 year span

I’ve been interviewing with a company in Boston, and I might take the opportunity if the pay is right. It’s a lifestyle

Between Dallas and Phoenix....which one did U prefer

 

[Ciggavelli]

Between Dallas and Phoenix....which one did U prefer

100% Phoenix. I hate Dallas. It’s boring, ugly, rednecks, etc.

Phoenix is nice, if you can handle the heat. Plus, if you’ve never been in the desert, it’s like a different world (different plant life, different animals, beautiful mountains, etc). It’s worth experiencing.

 

[Ciggavelli]

Hey man quick question I'm in Dallas I'm born & raised here..ive only stayed here, Houston & Seattle but ready for change. How is Phoenix & NC?

Both are nice. Ones a desert and the other is lush and humid. I lived in Charlotte and it has nice nightlife and fun things to do as a young professional. Phoenix is like a different world (in terms of climate and scenery). There is also a lot to do as well. Tempe and Scottsdale have a lot of hot women and fun entertainment.

 

[Reality]

This is the biggest problem, bar none. I moved to a small town on the opposite coast and region. I've met a lot of girls and have gotten ass these last 2.5 years. I met some brehs here and there to hang out with, but none really wanna hang out like that. Unfortunately I met most of the people I know through the bar scene . For whatever reason I don't fit in with that scene in terms of personality, though I'd say I know a lot of people. I'm an introvert, deep person, nevermind a good looking black breh (less than 1 percent blacks in this state), that happens to be a professional and have multiple degrees, with no children or spouse. The people I meet work in the service industry or aren't really professionals at the level I am (not saying I make a shyt ton of money or that I have the most prestigious job). The truth is I am not built for the small town vibe. I go everywhere and see at least someone I know, which is super rare where I come from. Funny, I've eaten a little bit here, but no telling what my social life would be like if I lived in Portland, instead of living an hour outside of Portland

You know you're in a tough spot when you're black and talmbout a social life upgrade moving to Portland

I feel for ya breh

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

You know you're in a tough spot when you're black and talmbout a social life upgrade moving to Portland

I feel for ya breh

. I'm in the process of trying to move to Seattle . But yeah man I can't do it here (I'm in Salem). At first it was fun but now I see it's very cliquish, and everyone knows each other through various years old associations from high school. Also some of the Portland birds I meet on online dating apps think driving an hour is too much . I need to get.the fukk up out of here. Lonely as a bytch and I hate it here.

 

[Michael's Black Son]

Hold your jergens close tonight

 

[Drip Bayless]

Go hoop

 

[International Playa]

Dating apps

 

[QuintessentialBM]

Social proofing through the women at work. You generally have to be good looking, but it works if the women in your co-workers social circles are attracted to "ugly sexy" or "medium ugly" men.
Socialize with your female co-workers friends or colleagues(WHO DON'T WORK IN HER DEPARTMENT UNLESS YOU WANT OFFICE DRAMA) and chose from the "I need some dikk tonight" friends that are with all of you that night. The social proofing comes from the fact that you are already validated by your female co-workers that you are attractive and/or interesting because women like men who are attractive & interesting to other women AND they typically don't hang out with you unless you're a family member or a very old friend.

Choose a cute, dikk hungry friend for the night, then eat.

 

[Coli Bot]

Breh have you ever used Meetup? . I have joined groups and even went out with one before. The people you meet are way older and in different places in their lives. On top of that most of them are losers you wouldn't fukk with in your personal life. Unless it's niche for a select young singles group (which I haven't seen), then the shyt ain't worth it.

There was a decent 'young black professionals' group in my area. Which was pretty decent. Got a few new friends and links from that but yeah I guess it depends what city your in.

 

[Rich Spirit]

@Ciggavelli i see you’re in Houston. Hit me up bro, I’ll introduce you to new peoples.

 

[Tribal Outkast]

People think you have to go to the club or some shyt and that’s not always true. Man you know how many women you can talk to just by chillin in the Park? My hobby is taking pictures and I go to parks and the city to do that and I see so many women by themselves sitting reading a book, walking, etc... It’s up to you to figure how to talk to them. I have them approach me mostly to ask if I can take pictures for them. I’m taken though so I can’t do shyt these days lol. I felt the same as OP when I was younger.. It gets easier when you’re older mostly because you stop caring as much.

 

[badboys11]

Women ain’t checking for me bruh. Having nikkas who introduce you to women who introduce you to more women is so invaluable

I’ll never cold approach and catch a harassment charge

this is some pathetic sissy shyt

 

[xXOGLEGENDXx]

They got apps for this breh