My advice to men who are ok dealing with a lady who has a child

[Chaos]

I don't understand having hate toward dingle mothers.
Young women don't want you older men with kids.
Men have kids too. I don't want to be a stepmother to preteen or older.
I've met several older tryna date and they have kids. The older you get, the harder it is to date anyone without kids for both genders.

 

[Sniper]

Make sure that child has a great relationship with his father so you aren’t stuck playing step daddy the minute you start talking to her.

The lady I’m speaking to currently has a 12 year old son but his bond with his father is so strong that I forget she even has a child and her son spends more time at his pops house then hers.

I’m 28 reaching 30 eventually so I’m at the stage where women done had kids or got divorced so I can longer just exclude the girls with a child but have be more wise if I end up being in that predicament.

You shouldn’t meet a child the “Minute” you start talking to her. The man shouldn’t meet the child until after 6 months or more.

 

[Sniper]

I disagree my wife baby daddy wasnt really involved when we met. I stepped up became my daughter father. It's been what 9 years now married and he still really ain't involved but yet I have his mom and sister always flying staying down at my house and spending time with all the kids. We talk often on phone too. They both were at first only bout her but fell in love with everyone so they come down for all the kids and his mom love me
It comes down circumstances more or less

You have to understand, these dudes deal with pieces of shyt women and that’s what they think of them.

The views of many is jaded, very jaded.

 

[Germms]

I honestly tried 3 times and it depends on the woman.

First one she was older than me at the time. (I was 21 and she was 29) so that shyt was just smashin on and off. She had 2 kids. They also had their fathers in their life so I wasn't even a problem I had to face really. ((((((((((Neck was fire))))))))))

Second one was my age. My issue with her is she tried to lie a lot about her BD was not there or benefiting her in anyway. Just lying cus I got the bag so she saw potential and that nikka was doing the minimum. I would'nt had minded doing shyt for her and her son but she was just lying too much and trying to get me to fill shoes that were filled. Out of respect I'm not doing it. Not my style.

Third shorty was my age just retarded. She was just fine, clean and comforting. Her BD was in jail so she was struggling like fukk. She had 2 kids. Saw me as a glimmer of hope for some months... till she started asking for too much damn money. I basically stopped giving her shyt. Got her tax return and shunned me off basically. She'll be back but thats dead as fukk.

I think it's just not for me rn really after the last 2 experiences. All in all I never got close to any of the kids because I put up a screen emotionally and financially. I feel like that's necessary because you never know peoples motives and I'm not with getting played.

 

[Mirin4rmfar]

Honestly, If I was dating a single mom, I would want the father of the child to be a complete dead beat. I am not dealing with another man in my familial life. I didn't grow up with that non sense and have no intention too.

1) Some single mother love are not genuine. Many dudes have unfortunately abandon their kids or contribute nothing to the child life, if you look like a mark, many will date you to take over that father figure role.
2) Again, if you are legit good dude and their dead beat baby daddy is trash, lol they will treat you like gold.


I recently met a woman that seems nice with a 1 and half year old....I am not taking over that life.

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

Everyone's experience is different with this. I once dealt with a chick that had two baby daddies and one of them was cool but the other one was something else. He was one of those type of nikkaz that wouldn't let the chick move on and left a bad taste in my mouth when it comes to single moms. It can be unnecessary drama that a single guy doesn't need if the baby daddy is a fukk nikka.

Thats gonna be my sisters baby daddy when she eventually leaves the nikka

 

[Vandelay]

I started talking to a recently divorced woman who has a 5 year old son. Chick bad af, and going for her PHD. Dad is still in the son's life...I'm going on 35, it's hard to avoid as I get older.

I always had a respect for stepfathers because my real dad wasn't in my life, and a lot of my family and friends lives...so, while it's not ideal, I'm not averse to it, it just depends on the circumstances.

I'll let ya'll know if it works out...

 

[LEEeveryday]

Honestly, if you're not going into a relationship with a single mother with good intentions for her and the child or children, you should probably just leave them alone. It doesn't ever end good when you're just playing a role to bag the woman.

I also think the women with kids need to understand their blue-book value is lower than they suspect it to be. Men aren't the enemy, your bad decisions are. Keep it real with yourself and make an honest effort to be the type of person you want to attract, and it'll work out.