My girl of 3 years is confused about her feelings.

[BaggerofTea]

I mean if I've invested 3 years of my life in this woman, then yes I'd want to know.

The OP is leaving out a lot of details, but there could be any number of factors at play that could be fueling her feelings. If I love this woman, I'm putting in the effort to identify and address the issues (outside of infidelity) instead of just letting her walk

Thats how you end up getting gaslite and manipulated, the cycle of trying to repair an unrepairable issue

 

[Mike809]

Seems like she gave up...Whats to be confused about?

Op made the right decision

Why you think our grandparents marriages/relationships lasted so long?
Oh , grandma is confused about her feelings .....well, we might as well give up now.
nah , you talk about it and if you can't solve the problem , then you go separate ways.

 

[Pseudonym]

Give her 30 days to find a place and part ways amicably if you don’t want to work through it


if you don’t have proof of cheating, don’t just throw her out. You don’t want that kind of karma

 

[International Playa]

So you didn't bother to find out what she was actually feeling, where the feelings stemmed from, etc.?

What's the point of committing to and living with someone if you won't even bother to investigate the root of a problem?

Or, do you know she's cheating and just leaving that out?

Always be a decisive man. Ain't shyt to be confused about.

She met another nikka

Unfortunately probably more than "met" him

Went through her phone, she has been talking to an old male friend who lives 100 miles awayfor the past two months, I dont know if they have a past together though. The breh just recently left his cheating baby mama (his got doubts the kid is his).

Maybe she planning to hook up with this breh, I don't know. She is out regardless, I'm helping her look for a room & hopefully she out of my place by the end of next week

 

[Sterling Archer]

Facts.

Once a women starts moving iffy just move on.
You can't try to logically talk a women's out of the way she feels it doesn't work that way.

And why would you want to? I don’t want to have to “convince” a woman to be with me.

If you want to leave then you should’ve BEEN left when you realized you didn’t WANT to be with him. Cause it goes wanting to be with you, to not caring if they’re with you, to wanting to leave. If it’s anything other than the first one, insta-bush.

 

[Commish]

She said she wants to move out so maybe a mixed feelings could be clear, but I told her there is no hope, its done!!!

Seems like you aren't confused. But, there are other women out there. Too many to be exact. I just hope you don't let this experience taint your feelings towards other women. Gotta let the ones that don't wanna rock with ya to bounce so the next one can come along...

You will be alright...

Salute!

 

[CouldntBeMeTho]

I need more explanation on her confusion

 

[International Playa]

Give her 30 days to find a place and part ways amicably if you don’t want to work through it


if you don’t have proof of cheating, don’t just throw her out. You don’t want that kind of karma

I'm helping her look for a room, hopefully she out by end of next week.

She been talking to an old male friend a lot lately in the last 2 months

 

[Tommy Lee Jones]

Facts.

Once a women starts moving iffy just move on.
You can't try to logically talk a women's out of the way she feels it doesn't work that way.

because they have no logic lol. this is a fact they move based on emotion. I've been here before and thought I could talk to her, get to the root of the issue and work it out but it's too late and they don't make decisions based on logic. you can't speak English to a Chinese person who only speaks Chinese.

 

[DapMeUp!]

I mean if I've invested 3 years of my life in this woman, then yes I'd want to know.

The OP is leaving out a lot of details, but there could be any number of factors at play that could be fueling her feelings. If I love this woman, I'm putting in the effort to identify and address the issues (outside of infidelity) instead of just letting her walk

Breh beat me to it but this is how you end up going out sad.

Trying to save something she has already checked out of. If she wanted to talk over the situation she would have initiated that convo.
Sounded like she just wanted to let breh know she didn't feel the same about him anymore.

 

[BigTyme Records]

They. Got some crazy asss simps on this forum.

 

[Pseudonym]

I'm helping her look for a room, hopefully she out by end of next week.

She been talking to an old male friend a lot lately in the last 2 months

Ok well you’re a good man for helping her get a place but after that just cut ties and keep it moving playa

 

[Voice of Reason]

I'm helping her look for a room, hopefully she out by end of next week.

She been talking to an old male friend a lot lately in the last 2 months

Yeah, she's probably cheating.


Move on with your life there are a lot of women out there looking for a decent black man.

 

[jdubnyce]

Why you think our grandparents marriages/relationships lasted so long?
Oh , grandma is confused about her feelings .....well, we might as well give up now.
nah , you talk that shyt and if you can't solve the problem , then you go separate ways.

she moved cross country for OP, to his place/his domicile...Whats for her to be confused about?

If she wants out nothing wrong with that.

Op did good by showing her the

 

[analog]

That’s like asking why someone cheated on you. It don’t matter fool. Doesn’t matter where it originated from now, it exists. And its existence means you cannot coexist. She should’ve been proactive when she felt there were issues and did that self reflection herself and then brought it to him, not AFTER she let the doubt set in and deteriorate the relationship. Accountability is something you dudes don’t ever hold women to.

once a woman says shes confused she's not woman just don't know shyt. what she means is I checked out months ago and I don't know how to tell you I don't want to be with you anymore. OP made the right move to just end it because in her mind it's over anyway. Some women you can talk things out with but most of them at this point it's too late. And before it's too late they don't communicate anyway. I love women I might sound like a women hater but they are emotional and fickle. so if there needs aren't being met they slowly become more withdrawn and don't tell you.

I clearly must not understand what "confused about feelings" means. Is this universal code for I want to break up?

I've had a good woman in the past that I pushed to the edge through my own neglect. And it was through conversation that I was able to identify the impact my behavior was having on her, and the relationship. I was able to salvage it as a result...

But that's just me... I just like to have a full understanding of shyt and ensure at the very least I'm doing my part

 

[Robo Squirrel]

We been living together for 16 months, everything was good but she said she confused about her feelings. I told her it's over, she can pack her bags & leave

Niceee

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

She aint mine anymore

She belong to the skreets now