my girls depression has gotten so bad that I don't want to be around her

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She's always battled with depression / anxiety issues & is currently on medication for it.

Recently though out of thin blue air, shyt has gotten worse. It's almost as if I'm living with another person.
She's ultra sensitive towards everything, getting her to talk out her problems is like getting blood from a stone and what makes it even more troubling is she doesn't know why she's feeling this way.

According to her these bouts can last from weeks to months and we have to ride them out. I'm trying to be patient because I realize that depression is a form of mental illness and God forbid she went ill with anything else, I'd be there and support her to the end but, this is the most strenuous and nerve wracking thing we have ever had to deal with in our relationship.

Does anyone suffer from depression or partner fighting it?
Don't want to be around her

Stays together

Dump that crazy briad because you're really not going to want to be around her if you put a child in her stomach.

The pills are only going to make her crazier.

Clearly you have issues of your own if you think the best you can do in life is a broad on antidepressants. :huhldup:
 

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Clearly you have issues of your own if you think the best you can do in life is a broad on antidepressants. :huhldup:[/QUOTE]

where did you get that from?:dame:
 

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:dame: where did you get that from?

Clearly you have issues of your own if you think the best you can do in life is a broad on antidepressants. :huhldup:[/QUOTE]
 

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It's not your responsibility to deal with her mental issues as a boyfriend. Would she put up with this if you were the one suffering?

Your own mental health is what's most important to you
 
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If she's suicidal you better stay with her. Having that on your conscience :huhldup:.
 
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She needs to see a therapist. CBT may help her. Depression is like a carousel, it's hard to work your way out of it because, well, you're depressed. But it's going to take her putting effort into getting better to see a change. She's going to have to work on her thought patterns, identify triggers and coping techniques, etc. It's work.
 

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She's always battled with depression / anxiety issues & is currently on medication for it.

Recently though out of thin blue air, shyt has gotten worse. It's almost as if I'm living with another person.
She's ultra sensitive towards everything, getting her to talk out her problems is like getting blood from a stone and what makes it even more troubling is she doesn't know why she's feeling this way.

According to her these bouts can last from weeks to months and we have to ride them out. I'm trying to be patient because I realize that depression is a form of mental illness and God forbid she went ill with anything else, I'd be there and support her to the end but, this is the most strenuous and nerve wracking thing we have ever had to deal with in our relationship.

Does anyone suffer from depression or partner fighting it?

Fighting depression is an uphill battle and it doesn't just go away on it's own. You need to help her get through this. Besides seeing a therapist, you need to help by stimulating her mind. I'm sure there are some things she used to like to do that she doesn't do anymore. Get her out of the house everyday and start doing those things. Whether its going to the gym, going for a walk, or reading a book. Try finding a class or hobby that you can do together and get lessons. That will give you guys a way to enjoy something together and something to discuss. I'd say she is lucky to have you since you seem concerned and depression can be tough to overcome. When I went through it, I was alone and it got so bad that I gave away all my guns out of fear that I would do something stupid. It's not going to change overnight but you can start helping her out each and every day.
 

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Is she bipolar? Or just straight depression.

I dated someone that was bipolar and the roughest part was when she went into a depression because she would avoid me for a week or two. It drove me nuts because I felt like I was being dumped 4/5 times a year. I never got use to it.


If she's the one than I commend you for sticking it out. But know this, when you sign up to date someone like that you're basically signing up to be crazy too.
 

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My last girlfriend went through the same thing. Was on anxiety and depression meds as well. You dating my ol girl breh? :jbhmm:

But on a serious note, it's extremely difficult and you have to make the decision sooner rather than later if you can handle it, because these sort of things just don't go away. Maybe more subdued, but don't go away. I tried my best, but one of the reasons we broke up is the fact that she was constantly sad and miserable. There are going to be times when you feel like you're doing everything right and you might, but she will still be this way. I don't have a blueprint breh, but the best advice I can give you, if you want this to work is have patience. Sometimes just being there physically and emotionally while not taking to heart too much they do in this state, is the best for them. Also there are a lot of articles online about dating people with these problems.

I can tell you from personal experience though, I will never date another girl with severe depression/anxiety disorder. Nothing personal, but relationships are hard enough without the extra stress on top.


This man knows
 

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You have to accept depression and anxiety are a part of her forever. If you can't deal cut out now. I have both. You don't get over it you just learn to manage it or you don't and people get hurt.

She needs you to chill the fukk out. Putting pressure on her to explain something she can't is making it worse. If she feels like you're going to leave or you don't like her because of something she can't control or explain it will not end well for her.

You don't have to suffer though. If it's not for you just tell her. But if you care about her stick by her as her friend and listen when she wants to talk.

I hope you didn't tell her you love her. If so, if you dump her, make sure somebody watches her. Also, she suffers every second of everyday. I'm not hating but your moments of discomfort are slight compared to her constant suffering.
 
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