My grandmother passed and I'm having trouble mourning.

[ZEupTWN]

Everybody handles grief and pain differently…
Plus I find there is a big difference when you lose some one over time compared to losing that person abruptly…you and your family probably never said it flat out but subconsciously yeah man that reality that her time is coming sets in..

Sorry for your loss and Good luck breh…your gmom seemed like she lived a long life full of memories, at least you can reflect on the good times..

 

[Jean toomer]

There are many phases to grieving. You’re probably still in shock. This is perfectly normally. Take your time to process everything. Talk to family and friends. Go through old pics and be thankful for the time you had with her.
Sorry for your loss.
Godspeed and god bless.

 

[Orbital-Fetus]

time is a mother fukker.
it will wash over you when you least expect it.

 

[xXMASHERXx]

Condolences breh. I'm blessed to have both grand mothers still living and I'm dreading this day. I already know I'm going to be a mess

 

[Clayton Endicott]

Condolences breh. I'm blessed to have both grand mothers still living and I'm dreading this day. I already know I'm going to be a mess

Same here. I just got back from a wake for an old friend, and the thought of my grandmothers lying there like that popped in my head. That shyt will break me

 

[Ozymandeas]

The worse part is knowing you can’t turn back time and see them again. I’d give anything just to be 17 one more time and be able to see all my grandparents and other relatives that are no longer here. With that said, the pain will eventually lighten and get better breh and my condolences. Just hold on tight to whoever you still have around you.

 

[Hey_zeus]

I'm sorry to hear breh. My condolences.
I did have a similar experience. Lost my gran 5 years ago and she was one of my best friends. She's the reason I'm a basketball stan. She hooped herself in the Jim Crow South in the 40s. Stories for days about 50s Chicago(when she came up here to start a family). Taught me how to cook and gamble. She was and still is the homie. I coped by focusing on all the good times we had traveling to family reunions and holidays. Spent alot of time with my mom(her daughter) because she was going through it too. So it helped to focus on her instead of myself at times. Then really time. Time don't always heal but it helps. I ain't gonna lie it's tough to go to Bulls games now as she was a season ticket holder going back to the early 80s. Haven't been to see them that much since but I'm gonna check them out this year.

 

[Rozay Oro]

I’m pray for you brotha

 

[Taadow]

I think the Grief/Loss Quotient varies depending on how much a person means to you personally; so as everyone has said, you process each one differently.

And yes - there is absolutely a shock factor at play.
Even if you see it coming, the effect doesn’t really hit you until all the “business” of it is final.

When my Pop died, Mama was handling it like a G. Making the arrangements, receiving guests from out of town, keeping everything tight - I was in awe. She was doing much better than I considering. I went off to the mortuary before the ceremony to go view Pop by myself because I knew was a mess. After that, I felt like I could be as strong as Ma was - at least for the service.

Then we two were the last go view him before they closed the casket. She broke all the way down in front of that ceremony after holding it in that week. All I could do was stand there and hold her until she could get it all out - which seemed like forever. That was easily the worst day of my life, and I’ve had my share of bad ones.

 

[Canada Goose]

My grandmother died last year, because of COVID her funeral was had over Zoom. It still feels like she's still alive cause I never saw her in a casket.


I'm still kind of in shock too.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

both my grannies were sick for a while so i was kind of relieved when they bit the dust (so they didn't have to suffer anymore)
go with god grannies
i was sad for my parents though
and the whole funeral thing is upsetting because it's like fam issues seem to be exacerbated

 

[JayStarwind]

I think the Grief/Loss Quotient varies depending on how much a person means to you personally; so as everyone has said, you process each one differently.

And yes - there is absolutely a shock factor at play.
Even if you see it coming, the effect doesn’t really hit you until all the “business” of it is final.

When my Pop died, Mama was handling it like a G. Making the arrangements, receiving guests from out of town, keeping everything tight - I was in awe. She was doing much better than I considering. I went off to the mortuary before the ceremony to go view Pop by myself because I knew was a mess. After that, I felt like I could be as strong as Ma was - at least for the service.

Then we two were the last go view him before they closed the casket. She broke all the way down in front of that ceremony after holding it in that week. All I could do was stand there and hold her until she could get it all out - which seemed like forever. That was easily the worst day of my life, and I’ve had my share of bad ones.

Kinda similar to my moms and I. My mom went on disability and was with my grandmother the ENTIRE time. She actually witnessed her failing health and while she had/has some rough days, my mom keeps it together for the most part. She's also majorily moving things out of my grandma's place. Like you, I've been in awe.

My grandma didn't want a funeral or a wake so I won't get the same opportunity others have had. She also wanted be cremated. We're having more of a celebratory memorial for her.

 

[the artist known az]

It hit me when they closed the casket and locked it. The preacher started singing and when he really got into I broke down sobbing. It was a sadness that I didn't know that I could live life without her in my life

 

[Atlanta 80s baby]

Not to sound like a robot or anything. 100 year from now, 7 billion of us will no longer be walking this world. Then imagine the countless trillions lost over the span of mankind, not to mention all these other mammals gone.

All of this is natural. All that energy probably gets transferred into the universe to be redistributed back into another universe? Anyhow, long as you and her love ones remember her, she ain't really gone.

 

[Voice of Reason]

My condolences