I wouldn't, id let him go to jail. That's the price to pay. Family is not hidibg each others dirty work.
My lil cousin just called asking for $341 to get an abortion
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I'd give it to him
@Teedot @jeh
He called last night.
His godmom helping him too.
He said send what I can. Imma pay the difference from whatever he collects.
He HAS to do it by the end of this month. Before the end of the first trimester.
If he smashed in December then he really has to get it done asap.
Idk why nikkas think I am lying. I came here for advice because it's a moral dilemma as well but honestly I can understand abortion at his age and state in life because that baby gonna be another product of the hood
People acting like it's impossible to get an abortion if he smashed late December. It's not like she's automatically pregnant the next day
retards"Pregnancy is measured in trimesters from the first day of your last menstrual period, totaling 40 weeks. The first trimester of pregnancy is week 1 through week 12, or about 3 months."
http://www.newhealthguide.org/Latest-Time-You-Can-Get-An-Abortion.html
Dumb arse your cousin, he'll just end up doin it again@Teedot @jeh
He called last night.
His godmom helping him too.
He said send what I can. Imma pay the difference from whatever he collects.
He HAS to do it by the end of this month. Before the end of the first trimester.
If he smashed in December then he really has to get it done asap.
Idk why nikkas think I am lying. I came here for advice because it's a moral dilemma as well but honestly I can understand abortion at his age and state in life because that baby gonna be another product of the hood
People acting like it's impossible to get an abortion if he smashed late December. It's not like she's automatically pregnant the next day
"Pregnancy is measured in trimesters from the first day of your last menstrual period, totaling 40 weeks. The first trimester of pregnancy is week 1 through week 12, or about 3 months."
http://www.newhealthguide.org/Latest-Time-You-Can-Get-An-Abortion.html
Nah my cousin and his godmom called me last night and she verified and told me to western union it.
She ratchet af but she gone make sure the job gets done.
Dragonfly Jones
Siiiiiiiilence Punk!!
"Godmom"
dumbass nikka
Just give them the money, took supposed to get taken anyway
Alright @Gator Reloaded , let me take you seriously:
The best way to let him know the damage of this particular situation is to let everyone in the immediate family first know what's up. Then talk to the girl who's body is gonna go through this abortion, make sure she knows implications, pros and cons. Then pay for it (by now you should be able to split with the other members of the fam because $350 is a lot) and keep open lines of communication with the girl and the cousin to make sure they're okay throughout this whole ordeal. And once everything is over, have a talk with the youngster about contraceptions first (such as the day after pill) and then about how responsibility is a must at his age.
If the family can do that without going too hard on the dude (he's just 19, not quite a man yet) – all while stressing it to the homie that he's grown now and from now he's got a body under him – then maybe you'll have saved his life.
Don't crack jokes, don't physically attack dude either. Don't scream at him, don't cry to him about him being lost, don't tell him he's a failure. Just tell him that this was his moment of truth, and that moments like this are gonna live with him until the day he dies. So he better start taking life a little bit more seriously.
If possible make dude bring the girl he cheated on to apologize to her in front of the girl he cheated on with. I know that's inviting trouble but if you pull that off by keeping the situation stable and that'll teach him how to be a man who can control a bad situation.
TL;DR: If you can put in all the above efforts to help dude, then that's what it means to be family. You've got two main options:
A) Simply give him the money and possibly let him walk further into the abyss with it.
B) Not give him the money and tell him he's on his own.
But option C which I'd say is the right one is, like always, the most difficult: Teach him to confront his errors, 'cause that's what it means to be a man. That's the only way he'll see the ropes up-close without getting hurt.
You ain't his daddy though, so whatever you decide the only thing I can do is conclude that you did what was possible to you as a man who can't burden himself with another's erros. Which is fine.
hoodheronova
All Star
It depends on how close you are to your lil cuz fam. Dont do it cause of family pressures. You and your cousin have to have a close relationship for something as big as this
Great advice. Thanks a lot.
Alright @Gator Reloaded , let me take you seriously:
The best way to let him know the damage of this particular situation is to let everyone in the immediate family first know what's up. Then talk to the girl who's body is gonna go through this abortion, make sure she knows implications, pros and cons. Then pay for it (by now you should be able to split with the other members of the fam because $350 is a lot) and keep open lines of communication with the girl and the cousin to make sure they're okay throughout this whole ordeal. And once everything is over, have a talk with the youngster about contraceptions first (such as the day after pill) and then about how responsibility is a must at his age.
If the family can do that without going too hard on the dude (he's just 19, not quite a man yet) – all while stressing it to the homie that he's grown now and from now he's got a body under him – then maybe you'll have saved his life.
Don't crack jokes, don't physically attack dude either. Don't scream at him, don't cry to him about him being lost, don't tell him he's a failure. Just tell him that this was his moment of truth, and that moments like this are gonna live with him until the day he dies. So he better start taking life a little bit more seriously.
If possible make dude bring the girl he cheated on to apologize to her in front of the girl he cheated on with. I know that's inviting trouble but if you pull that off by keeping the situation stable and that'll teach him how to be a man who can control a bad situation.
TL;DR: If you can put in all the above efforts to help dude, then that's what it means to be family. You've got two main options:
A) Simply give him the money and possibly let him walk further into the abyss with it.
B) Not give him the money and tell him he's on his own.
But option C which I'd say is the right one is, like always, the most difficult: Teach him to confront his errors, 'cause that's what it means to be a man. That's the only way he'll see the ropes up-close without getting hurt.
You ain't his daddy though, so whatever you decide the only thing I can do is conclude that you did what was possible to you as a man who can't burden himself with another's erros. Which is fine.
1. I won't get to philly in time to speak to her. Her fam doesn't know.
2. She had to get it within a week no more than 2 weeks or she can't get it done.
3. Idk if I support abortion but I can understand it in certain situations. I feel like even giving him a penny is contributing to murder.
It's a fukked up situation all around. I didn't tell any other family members yet. Our family is fukked up tbh. Lol.
fukkyalifestyle
Superstar
if hes not a lying scumbag help him out. Maybe he can pay you back but you would be doing him, you and the world a favor. I only say that because sounds like hes not financially good enough to even have a kid.
Fam, this is really a tough one. Because now your bullets 1 & 2 depend heavily on bullet 3, and honestly I'm sort of the same as you on abortion. Very unsure of when it's called for and when it isn't.
Alright the best and only thing you could do right now is ask for this girl's number so you can chop it up on the phone with her and see where her head is at. We already know your cousin is ready to jump ship, but is the ship ready to drop the cargo? This should honestly be step one. And if time's of the essence then you gotta get that done asap. Just talk to her real level-headed about what she wants to do.
It's been months fam, so there's a high chance this baby's here to stay.
My only advice is for you to treat this as cooly as you can, because getting heated ain't gonna help shyt. Oh and to plan how far you wanna help based on how much self-control you think you have. If you start feeling like you're losing control then you're most likely doing too much and it may affect other areas of your life. Don't strain yourself psychologically/emotionally because again, this isn't really your problem. If you make it yours then it's just gonna get too personal for all parties involved.
Did none of y'all make mistakes when younger? Why are posters acting like an abortion is a gigantic deal?
R.E.N. Spells Ren
Veteran
He cheated on his girl and now needs $341 for the abortion. His girl doesn't know and he smashed other chick in December.
As yall know, I'm doing ard but my family still in the hood and/or projects and I'm the one they reach out to for money and help (and I don't even got it like that)
I can't contribute to taking a life but I kinda had hopes for my cousin to finish school and not be stuck in the projects for the rest of his life
What should I do?
He told me Dec
ember and I aint lying. he might be tryna get some money out of me who knows
he sells weed, lives at my old crib (our gmoms) and he a bum
sad but true
I honestly don't know if calling her willbhelp.
Fam, this is really a tough one. Because now your bullets 1 & 2 depend heavily on bullet 3, and honestly I'm sort of the same as you on abortion. Very unsure of when it's called for and when it isn't.
Alright the best and only thing you could do right now is ask for this girl's number so you can chop it up on the phone with her and see where her head is at. We already know your cousin is ready to jump ship, but is the ship ready to drop the cargo? This should honestly be step one. And if time's of the essence then you gotta get that done asap. Just talk to her real level-headed about what she wants to do.
It's been months fam, so there's a high chance this baby's here to stay.
My only advice is for you to treat this as cooly as you can, because getting heated ain't gonna help shyt. Oh and to plan how far you wanna help based on how much self-control you think you have. If you start feeling like you're losing control then you're most likely doing too much and it may affect other areas of your life. Don't strain yourself psychologically/emotionally because again, this isn't really your problem. If you make it yours then it's just gonna get too personal for all parties involved.
She a hood rat and I aint about to try to school a girl that's liable to be on world star hip hop anyday. There ain't no getting thru to these kids. I'll try and ask my customers is she worth taking to.
I ain't stressing at all though. He dug his own grave
It is actually a gigantic deal when we don't know what the abortion will do to the girl fam.
We don't even know her age, much less how attached she is to the baby, or whether she'll get support after she's labeled the "baby killer" in the hood (by the other baby mamas no less 
). Worst of all we don't even know if her body's gonna handle the procedure 3 months after the fact. Meaning she could die.That's not gigantic to you fam? The pregnancy was in December, it's March now mah nikka.
I'd leave him alone. He's 19, probably has bad grades since he is still in high school. There would be a likely chance he'll do something stupid again.
That ain't your life to deal with. Sounds like this man needs a wake up call.
That ain't your life to deal with. Sounds like this man needs a wake up call.