A lot of people will tell you (cuz i heard this a lot when ma dukes passed last year --- and you're gonna hear this a lot at her wake)..
"If you need anything... let me know."
Yeah, it's a nice gesture... but most people don't mean it.
The ones that do care are the ones that will be around to pick you up and take you out. Make sure you're occupied during your struggle moments. Sure, you can let it out and bawl your soul out for mama.
But you also need to spend time with friends and family to help you cope. The ones that "GO OUT OF THEIR WAY" to connect and kick it with you are the mofos that really care.
So when somebody tells you, "If there's anything you need, let me know." You tell them you want to be taken out for lunch and for them to pay for a spa/massage session.
In retrospect, i should have taken advantage of it... cuz i'd never tell somebody that i'll give them anything (of course, within reasonable parameters)... and not own up to it. It's false generosity and they're doing it to make themselves look good like they care. Then SHOW ME YOU CARE, Byah!!!
Make me dinner! Get me a side piece!
I just lost my moms and you're gonna sit there and lie to me? You ain't even got my number!!!!
But i know you going through enough duress and stress. I'm just preparing for what's to come.
And how to separate the mains from the minstrels.
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