My therapist called me a ******, and now he's calling from strange numbers.

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

why not

You know why Remember when ur.mom had to take u to the ER?

 

[Dont@Me]

Negative sir.

You call him.

You tell him.

Your conversation on your terms. You start it, you end it.

Why? Because you're going to be apprehensive about the confrontation up until it happens. Every time the phone rings, your heart is gonna skip a beat and your brain is going to release fight or flight chemicals into your blood and honestly, flight will probably take over. It's not that you're a p*ssy, it's a conditioned response that you're not used to, so you need to work on it. You need to practice becoming comfortable with confrontation, just like you need to practice anything you want to be good at. Waiting on him to initiate it puts him in a position of power that could prevent you from saying what's on your mind.

I know you don't think it matters who initiates the conversation, but trust me it does.

Initiating the conversation on your terms with your goal in mind is as important as having the conversation itself.

Trust me. You can do this.

#Manhood

OP, me and you sound very much alike and I've been working on my (quiet) borderline personality disorder, but if anything, the dude quoted should be your therapist if anything. This is the approach I've started to take with such situations and just being more assertive in general and expressing my feelings rather than stirring it up in my head for an eternity and letting it seep into my soul.

People wouldn't understand, especially on these forums where you have a bunch of people who think they are militant and your post has to do about race. I wish you the best though man. You can't just wait until things happen to take action, you have to actively seek it. I don't always follow this advice 100% myself, but like I said... I'm working on it. Success isn't always linear.

 

[Family Man]

Run to the white man to fix your problems, brehs.
Find yourself a black therapist.

 

[KravenMorehead™]

Too many passive-aggressive "solutions" in here


In a perfect world you would get away with cracking his jaw.


You think a therapist isn't intelligent enough to know not to say ******? He probably tells all your secrets to his wife and friends after hours...

 

[BaldingSoHard]

OP, me and you sound very much alike and I've been working on my (quiet) borderline personality disorder, but if anything, the dude quoted should be your therapist if anything. This is the approach I've started to take with such situations and just being more assertive in general and expressing my feelings rather than stirring it up in my head for an eternity and letting it seep into my soul.

People wouldn't understand, especially on these forums where you have a bunch of people who think they are militant and your post has to do about race. I wish you the best though man. You can't just wait until things happen to take action, you have to actively seek it. I don't always follow this advice 100% myself, but like I said... I'm working on it. Success isn't always linear.

Progress, not perfection.

 

[iamstr8fire]

 

[east oakland usa]

Yeah definitely. I mean why in the fukk would he call from a strange number unless he knew I would screen it? I mean this dude once TEXTED me to ask me if I was gonna come to my appointment.

shyt tell him you found some body who can relate to better thats it and thats all and leave at that
or iam going to sue your ass for harassment/stalking lol

 

[VladTheImpaler]

This is a black man that sees a therapist what a fukkin loser, get some money and p*ssy my nikka

actually this ignorant statement and mentality is why the Black community suffers so often with mental health issue. All other races can get something as small as a fukking hang nail and their community will say "hey, here is a number to this guy...go talk to him"...but for some reason the Black community historically has looked down on this.

Your statement is ignorance and typical of a dummy.






but to the OP, letting him call you a ****** is beyond soft.

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

actually this ignorant statement and mentality is why the Black community suffers so often with mental health issue. All other races can get something as small as a fukking hang nail and their community will say "hey, here is a number to this guy...go talk to him"...but for some reason the Black community historically has looked down on this.

Your statement is ignorance and typical of a dummy.






but to the OP, letting him call you a ****** is beyond soft.

Even if he was saying that that's what someone else would be thinking, it was dumb and soft of me to let what he said go unchecked. I fukked up bad, but I'm going to regain my dignity on Monday when I call him.

 

[AITheAnswerAI]

Think of it this way: this was a man I had complete trust in. I was extremely vulnerable and told him everything on my mind. When he said that word, even jokingly, I was in utter shock. I didn't know what to think. I kept trying to dismiss it but I just couldnt. If this was some teacher or someone else I wouldn't have even given it a second thought. But this is a man I let help me, and i man whose opinion I valued.

He didn't force it in dry did he?

 

[Mowgli]

actually this ignorant statement and mentality is why the Black community suffers so often with mental health issue. All other races can get something as small as a fukking hang nail and their community will say "hey, here is a number to this guy...go talk to him"...t.

No they dont

 

[Dark Knyght]

nikka, you p*ssy

 

[Paisley Darts]

I'm sorry but this thread is hilarious

And essentially, the OP paid his therapist to call him the n-word

Therapist was probably listening to the story, salty as fukk that the OP dates white women

Then saw an opening and took it

He was trying to be slick..Trust that he knew what he was doing

 

[hypo666]

I would never see him again but first I would tell him face to face exactly why I was not seeing him again,in a very strong way so he was 100 percent clear at my displeasure for using that word and never ever to contact me again.I would have told him this at the time and by the time I was done talking to him, it would be him needing the shrink. But then perhaps this lack of assertiveness on your part is why you are seeing a therapist.

 

[Art Barr]

So as some of you know, I see a therapist. A few weeks ago I went to see him, and he in the middle of joking about a dating mishap that happened with this white girl, the therapist up and says "She probably was upset that you didn't call her, thinkin, 'Damn ****** didn't even call me :nooocacs:.'
Brehs, when he said that shyt, my heart skipped a beat. I went from to to in the manner of seconds. He played the shyt off like it was nothing, too! Now, I get that he was saying that the white girl might have thought that, but why in the fukk would he use the word ****** around me? Even if he didn't directly call me a ******, saying that word to me or around me, even jokingly, is beyond disrespectful.

So after 10 or 15 more minutes, the session came to an end, and I bounced, knowing I'd never ever be able to see this dude again...but I went back one last time 2 weeks later. The whole time I was when we were talking, and he noted a few times that I was acting "different."

Anyways, after seeing him 2 weeks ago, I decided I didn't want to see him again, and that I'd be changing therapists ASAP. I called him and told him I wanted to cancel our next appointment, but didn't tell him why (took the cowardly way out). I've been screening this dude's calls for over a week now, but today he called me from some number I didn't recognize. Then he asked me when I wanted to schedule another appointment. I just told him some random day and time (knowing I'm going to cancel again anyway), and hung up. I guess I'll have to block both of his numbers. I just think it's strange as fukk that he would choose to call me from some other number that wasn't his office number.

Am I overreacting about all of this, brehs? I know some of y'all are going to call me a coward for not confronting him about it, but I just didn't feel like wasting the energy on explaining to this dumb ass that he crossed the line. Why should I have to tell a 67 year old WHITE male something that obvious?

he is a therapist with a mental.edge.over you.
As, he knows you backed down from stepping to him on what should have been initial conflict.
plus, he knows you a little emo, and may rat on his choice of words.
so, he double checking his lead/clientele.
to probe and see what type you official are based on his diagnosis.

you got some incpetion Hannibal on nbc face ass therapist.
plus, you need to take some socio classes.
to know how to deal and what to say to that type.
you, probably don't even know where to start to figure out your issues. So, he was mapping you out, and seeing what your makeup was.
you pretty much got a quack.
or an eccentric weirdo possible friend therapist, like in that movie about that kid who wants the therapist daughter but to emo to know what to do, like in the wackness with method man.
be a man, for change and say to dude you did not appreciate how he slipped in the N word.
maybe you and him become weirdo buds.
like that black guy rob zombie flicks with captain spaulding.
that is the issue with this Gen.
Since, there is no cultures.
You, don't who to trust off of their look.
as, most looks are not authentic now.
all I know you need to check him and see what arises after that.
maybe he needs a friend.
Or you need a friend and he was just trying to see if he had a younger black patient friend.
who raw enough to check him on his bullshyt.



Art Barr