My verdict on Marriage vs Single Life (based on experience)

[Captain Crunch]

so your basically saying your not responsible enough to manage your time and freedom, and you need a women/babysitter to do it for you.

That being single your weak and fall to the world vices and spend money foolishly. So you get consistent sex from one person so does anyone in a committed relationship, difference is if your mariage ends or if a 7 year itch or a sexless marriage your stuck.

THere is a difference between being alone and loneliness, secondly no one has to be alone if they don';t want to, some of the most lonely people are out there married.

And you have a son, of course hes great everyone says that, at one moment you said you have more money and yet the next you hvae a 2.5 year old kid, raising kids are expensive its laughable and downright insulting for you to insist you have more money know married with a kid and a mortgage than you would if you were single with no kids and rent insulting.


a prenup doesn't protect you from divorce, the women you love is gone, the children you love adn that are yours are now being raised by another man who sees them more than you, you've only been married for four years the avg first marriage lasts for 7 years, when she feels like not having sex with yu what are you going to do? when she doesn't love you anymore or needs space what you going to do?

Damn, you trying to crush souls w/ that post

 

[beezy]

so your basically saying your not responsible enough to manage your time and freedom, and you need a women/babysitter to do it for you.

That being single your weak and fall to the world vices and spend money foolishly. So you get consistent sex from one person so does anyone in a committed relationship, difference is if your mariage ends or if a 7 year itch or a sexless marriage your stuck.

THere is a difference between being alone and loneliness, secondly no one has to be alone if they don';t want to, some of the most lonely people are out there married.

And you have a son, of course hes great everyone says that, at one moment you said you have more money and yet the next you hvae a 2.5 year old kid, raising kids are expensive its laughable and downright insulting for you to insist you have more money know married with a kid and a mortgage than you would if you were single with no kids and rent insulting.


a prenup doesn't protect you from divorce, the women you love is gone, the children you love adn that are yours are now being raised by another man who sees them more than you, you've only been married for four years the avg first marriage lasts for 7 years, when she feels like not having sex with yu what are you going to do? when she doesn't love you anymore or needs space what you going to do?

Look breh, i didnt say i hate being single; on the contrary i said ive lead a happy fulfilling single life. HOWEVER, in comparison, my life RIGHT NOW is more fulfilling and makes ME happier. sure, i can do my own chores and grocery shoppin, and do what i gotta do but i welcome anything that takes any sort of load off my back. why not? if theres a better more efficient way of doing things, why not do it? ill BE lazy, fukk it, whatever makes me happy. i said its not for everyone and everyone is different. i said you gotta choose wisely because im aware of the she devils out there BUT, i got a good one as of now. the 7 year itch you quoted is actually now 3 YEARS on average.. i made it passed that hump, so far so good. and when 7 years rolls around, guess what, i'll do what i gotta do to keep us happy; whether that means counseling, marriage retreats, vacation, whatever. ive hit rough patches like everyone, and i know those pass and things get good again when you weather the storm. and my wife i not some complacent slob, she is proactive at making this work and always improving our situation too. are you tellin me YOU'D be to weak or lazy to be able to do that? so you rather avoid it completely. good for you fam. whatever makes you happy. and if i gotta introduce my wife to the bushes one day, then ima do that too, no problem and i will weather that and be good again too. and YES, i DO make more money now because in my profession, you can clearly see the difference on paper that i get more money specifically because im married and with a child. a child may cost money, but that extra money offsets that, as well as the dual income that comes in from my wife. so how you gonna tell me i dont make more money!? you do my taxes? you see everything i got now compared to what i had as a single guy? if you knew me personally this would not even be debatable. the point of this thread was voicing MY opinion on MY situation, and showing people that its all good for me, im happy, and anyone CAN be too in the context of marriage. thats all. be mad if you want

ive + repped you, dapped you, respected, and taken your advice on things before.. so why are you trying to rain on my parade? idk why people gotta hate on a young nikka for bein happy and doin it a different way than them.. thats some hoe shyt

 

[RicanFury]

so your basically saying your not responsible enough to manage your time and freedom, and you need a women/babysitter to do it for you.

That being single your weak and fall to the world vices and spend money foolishly. So you get consistent sex from one person so does anyone in a committed relationship, difference is if your mariage ends or if a 7 year itch or a sexless marriage your stuck.

THere is a difference between being alone and loneliness, secondly no one has to be alone if they don';t want to, some of the most lonely people are out there married.

And you have a son, of course hes great everyone says that, at one moment you said you have more money and yet the next you hvae a 2.5 year old kid, raising kids are expensive its laughable and downright insulting for you to insist you have more money know married with a kid and a mortgage than you would if you were single with no kids and rent insulting.


a prenup doesn't protect you from divorce, the women you love is gone, the children you love adn that are yours are now being raised by another man who sees them more than you, you've only been married for four years the avg first marriage lasts for 7 years, when she feels like not having sex with yu what are you going to do? when she doesn't love you anymore or needs space what you going to do?

 

[Rocket Scientist]

more power to you bro ,im not gonna down ya happiness

 

[kevm3]

Props on you getting back into making your marriage work out. Sometimes it takes time apart to realize what you have.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

1. you can be a committed relationship and have your girl on the ill or get a vasectomy and still doing that.

2. are you so physically incapable you cant go to the grocery store and buy food?

3. not having kids or a wife and all your money is yours>>>>>>>>having a son and chick with the same name as you

4. loneliness is a state of mind


I think we often confuse the two terms with each other. Being alone does not automatically mean we are lonely, but most women would try and describe it that way.

We often try and cure loneliness by seeking out other human company to fill the void, which, by the way, only temporarily fills the gap. Being alone and content does not constitute loneliness.

Like I said, the terms are often confused. It's much the same as when we hear people say they are depressed when in fact they are not, they are just sad or feeling down. The word depression is wrongly used to describe a natural feeling of feeling sad or pissed off or disappointed.

Many great mystics and spiritual leaders tell us that to be alone and content we need to die to the drug of needing people. Once we have gone "cold turkey" and ween ourselves off the drug of appraisal and affirmation etc etc we can then enjoy and love the company of others but not desperately need them, in fact we don't need them at all, at least not for emotional fulfillment.

In short, we can love everyone but cling to no one once we die to the need of people.

Cosign breh. I've had god knows how many bytches in my lifetime try to tell me I was gonna be miserable and lonely because I never wanted kids or to get married.

Chicks will try to shame you into getting with em sometimes, it's so demonic

 

[↓R↑LYB]

The only thing here is SEX.

Married dudes have more sex than single dudes and you don't have to use condoms.

All the other stuff in the OP is blah

@ using condoms when I was single. I was single for like 4 years and was going raw the majority of the time.

 

[Newzz]

lol at nikkas trying to act like because THEY couldnt keep their marriage together.....nobody else can



@beezy, you made the right decision breh....just as I knew you would. I love being with my wife for all the exact same reasons you mentioned in your op.

A great marriage is better than anything else in the world. Nothing better than living with a woman who respects you, treats you like the man you are, and loves you more than anything.

breh....I'm happy for you

 

[Bean]

to you fam. marriage is a beautiful thing and i hope yours last til the end. that bein said at that bs in your post.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

As a divorced man who still believes in the institution of marriage all I can say is.... and @ these dudes coming here parroting feminist propaganda against marriage believing THEY thought it up.​

 

[winb83]

In reality, i feel like in a good marriage you can have your cake and eat it too; because i have the advantages i listed above, AND i can still do most of the things i wanna do and buy whatever i wanna buy. I can still go out with the nikkas and do what i want, i can still travel, i can still have hobbies and shyt i had goin on as a single guy, and truth be told, if i wanted to smash random hoes still, i could do that on the low.

marriage is by no means perfect, but i think if you get it right and have a good girl its a way more fulfilling life. and if what you fear is divorce, then get a prenup. problem solved. i know theres gonna be guys sayin it'll get worse or whatever, but i been doin this for 4 years so its not the honeymoon stage.. and ive met people out there thats been together happily for YEARS so its possible.

if you win the lottery you can be rich the problem is there's no way to guarantee or even make it more probable you'll win the lottery. all you can really do is play and hope. same with your good girl good marriage theory.

while if you win the lottery you'll be rich the gamble of marriage is far worse than that of the lottery. once you win the lotto you've won it forever and you're in control of your winnings. you can win at marriage years 1-3 and in the 4th year have it blow up in your face and fail and significantly lower your quality of life to be worse than that of what it was when you were single.

you really have no control over how your marriage plays out. there are things you can do to try and make it work but its success or failure hing on the person you married and their whims. you can do everything right and have it fail due to them.

in single life you are always in control of the way things go. in married life you give up control to random luck and another person's whims and when it all comes down to it the risk is not worth the reward if for nothing else the fact that at any moment the reward can be snatched away from you.

its like playing the lotto and if you win you get the check but at any given moment the state can step in and take whatever winnings you have away from you and there's nothing you can do to stop it. on top of that they can take actually more than you won, a portion of your current income monthly for example.

the problem with marriage is its a business decision that people have tried to make into an emotional one. if you remove romance from marriage and approach it from a business standpoint it works but emotions ruin marriage by turning it into a shytty gamble.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

if you remove romance from marriage and approach it from a business standpoint

Stop parroting feminist propaganda.......

"Since marriage constitutes slavery for women, it is clear that the women's movement must concentrate on attacking this institution. Freedom for women cannot be won without the abolition of marriage." -- Sheila Cronin, the leader of the feminist organization NOW

 

[winb83]

Stop parroting feminist propaganda.......

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i'm not. the idea of romantic marriage is silly. marriage for money and or power is smart if emotions are removed from it. arranged marriages between people to combine family assets. marriages were infidelity is irrelevant because love and or monogamy are not a condition of the marriage or even a factor.

we're married because my money plus your money = more money

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we're married because right now in the moment i feel a certain way about you and you feel a certain way about me.

when i was a kid i loved Power Rangers. at some point i outgrew them and now i could give a fukk less about them. emotions and people themselves change. gambling off emotional states is stupid.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

the idea of romantic marriage is silly.

"In a patriarchal society, all heterosexual intercourse is rape because women, as a group, are not strong enough to give meaningful consent."
-- Catharine MacKinnon

"There are no boundaries between affectionate sex and slavery in (the male) world. Distinctions between pleasure and danger are academic; the dirty-laundrylist of 'sex acts'...includes rape, foot binding, fellatio, intercourse, auto eroticism, incest, anal intercourse, use and production of pornography, cunnilingus, sexual harassment, and murder."
-- Judith Levine

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[winb83]

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none of that women as victims of men crap has anything to do with marriage being better off left as a business decision.

those women are clearly man hating nutjobs.