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Glad you overcame the adversities breh. And this is why the saying it takes a village to raise a child. I've seen people with mothers like this and at times it makes me sick to my stomach that a mother can carry a child yet bring nothing but hell to that childs life, especially when I think of my mother who sacrificed alot for me. And please don't take this as me attacking your mom as I'm not trying to do that what so ever, and forgive me if it comes across as that. But back to my point, it really gets to me when children go through suffering like this when children don't ask to be born, it's one reason why I never made fun of other kids growing up because I know the struggles I experienced, and you never know what someone else is going through.

All I can say is you a good dude man, because if I went through that, I wouldn't say I would hate my mother per say, but I'm the type to cut all communication with anyone I deem toxic just out of wanting to protect those I care about.

Props to you and once again please dont take this as me attacking your mom.

Nah I dont take it personally. I'm able to have different conversations about my mom, because I'm a realist. Nothing you said was disrespectful....

My mom never recovered from trauma in her own youth, and when we dont deal with that ourselves, our kids inherit our trauma plus the new obstacles they have to go thru themselves. 100% agree, it ain't on the kids to fix it, they didn't ask to be here!

Lotta people harmed my mom in different ways at different times, physically and emotionally, and they not off the hook for that, they gotta wear that. My mom still chose to have kids and made decisions to not be an active parent and those decisions made shyt tougher for us than it needed to be. She has had to wear that...

But I love my mother, always have, and embraced having a positive relationship with her even when literally everyone else around me told me not to. Everyone. Having her in my life since I was 21, makes up for the essentially 21 years I didn't have her. It doesn't change that she wasn't there, no doubt about it, and I wish I had her when I was a kid, but my life has been enriched by having her now and I appreciate the journey. She's grown and so have I and I'm certainly a better person for it...
 

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Nah I dont take it personally. I'm able to have different conversations about my mom, because I'm a realist. Nothing you said was disrespectful....

My mom never recovered from trauma in her own youth, and when we dont deal with that ourselves, our kids inherit our trauma plus the new obstacles they have to go thru themselves. 100% agree, it ain't on the kids to fix it, they didn't ask to be here!

Lotta people harmed my mom in different ways at different times, physically and emotionally, and they not off the hook for that, they gotta wear that. My mom still chose to have kids and made decisions to not be an active parent and those decisions made shyt tougher for us than it needed to be. She has had to wear that...

But I love my mother, always have, and embraced having a positive relationship with her even when literally everyone else around me told me not to. Everyone. Having her in my life since I was 21, makes up for the essentially 21 years I didn't have her. It doesn't change that she wasn't there, no doubt about it, and I wish I had her when I was a kid, but my life has been enriched by having her now and I appreciate the journey. She's grown and so have I and I'm certainly a better person for it...

yeah I feel you. I always say its interesting that those of us who overcame a ton of struggle and made it to live 'normal lives', imagine what we'd be if we have the 100% "ideal" up bringing. But to that same point you can argue if there is anything such as an 'ideal' upbringing, and we are strong due to our struggles. who knows.
 

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yeah I feel you. I always say its interesting that those of us who overcame a ton of struggle and made it to live 'normal lives', imagine what we'd be if we have the 100% "ideal" up bringing. But to that same point you can argue if there is anything such as an 'ideal' upbringing, and we are strong due to our struggles. who knows.

Oh there's an ideal upbringing, but the problem is Black America today and for the foreseeable future, if not forever, continues to suffer from the legacy of the broken families...

This is probably best saved for another thread, but remember our introduction to the Europeanized United States was with muhfukkas snatching us from our families and bringing us to a foreign land, then further decimating our patched-together framework thru the selling and trading of us throughout the US...

That impacted us on so many levels and was 100% by design, we're living with that today and probably forever...
 

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