Need confirmation I bushed a chick appropriately...

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

This was scheduled a week after her bday tho....

But using what you said....if she wants to make her own arrangements go for it.....just do it on your own....that way I take someone wo wants to make the same arrangements

i mean, yeah i gathered that from the post. but like i said, you were already giving her mad option i assume to be nice to the bday girl. then one more option broke the camels back. it's too many levels of contradiction/confusion for me.
on one hand you want to be super nice, then snap at something minor (if she was willing to pay for her overage then that's nothing to you)
on one hand you don't want to commitment more of a fwb, but you want to control a major issue (a bday trip is a big deal to me)
so it's just confusing

ive met up with friends on legs of trips and did my friendly duties (chip in, buy a bday gift) without expectation of control of payback because.... that's what friends do lol (especially if they are paying for whatever overage on their own that's even better but you never discussed that with her to find out if she was actually trying to use you for an extra day or whatever you felt it was)
but apparently yall weren't all that friendly which in that case, you def should have left her alone. but i wouldn't have done it in a burn bridge type of way but thats just me shyt i wouldn't have even been smashing someone who i wasn't friendly with (at least friendly enough to justify a decent conversation rather than a block with no explanation) but that a WHOLE different issue lol.
and the reason why i dont do it.... because it leads to shyt like this!

 

[FcKuPaYmE]

exactly, if she aint your girl why do you care she staying one more day??you gonna be with her all but 1 day. How is that separate arrangement? You will get what you want out of the trip.

He say he financing the trip. Why? IDK

 

[Silver Surfer]

Honestly if you have the money and want to fuk the gir

I wouldn't do it though. I don't take sand to the beach. I know for sure after fukking i would turn degenerate and try some of the locals.

Bruh I go to very specific destinations for that....already researching my next

 

[Silver Surfer]

He say he financing the trip. Why? IDK

Should I first commit to her and her commit to me before weekend getaway?

 

[LauderdaleBoss]

The "works for whom" would have had my blood boiling immediately

Like bytch

Exactly, nikkas want dude to have a dialogue with a bytch that already dropped 2 red flags in just texting. bytches like that stay wanting 2nd chances, so they can just piss you off more.

I think the disconnect with most people is that dude was going to have a great weekend regardless if she went or not. Taking ole girl was just some friendly shyt that would have benefited her.

 

[Diondon]

She telling you what she finna do
on a trip you paying for?*sigh*

 

[Flywin Lannister]

But she’s been getting dikked down. We gotta stop thinking they’re doing us a favor by fukking them. It’s your money, for sure, but what’s the difference between just a girl friend and a girlfriend then in that case? I don’t open my wallet like that for any girl just like that. Look at the entitled behavior it breeds.

This. Btw that username post correlation is facts.

“I been fukking her all summer” is not a reason to PAY FOR HER HOLIDAY TO MEXICO

If her plans don’t work out she can come on a trip with you… that you will fully finance??


She is not your girlfriend. Time to grow up and live in reality:

Your bushing was 100% acceptable, but you also need to ask “How did it even ever get to this?” or you’ll keep putting yourself into this situation.

girlfriends or your wife gets things and you get things
friends with benefits get fukked, $ = always 50/50 (you pay a dinner, she pays a dinner)

For women CONFIDENCE is key. If you don’t have or at least show confidence and strength, they see a lick and a doormat.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Very true, bro. Everything depends on what type of female you’re dealing with tho.

One that’s worth spending that cash on, and taking on trips has to be wifey material for me these days otherwise the mindset has to be find em fukk em and flee

life is a gamble, only put up what you are willing to lose. Most dudes fail by continuing to toss money into the fire hoping for different results, instead of walking away.

 

[patscorpio]

Go back and apologize. Right now.

 

[FcKuPaYmE]

So quick question. Were yall both fukking other people? Were yall going out on dates or to eat and shyt? Were yall getting to know eachother outside of sex ..Or strictly just smashing.

If so why yall decided not to be in a relationship?

 

[MaxBundles]

Nikka why you care? She ain’t your girl. You gonna run through her the whole weekend. Who cares if she wants to stay an extra day?

mad insecure. You invited her and already made yourself 2nd option by saying “if you ain’t doing anything, then pick me…”

This here. Yall nikkas be trying mad hard and extra to seem alpha. You think you cool cause you bushed a chick like that? I understand if you explained then she acted irrationally but you had zero communication at all like you in high school.

 

[13473]

i'd have asked for clarification if she was paying that extra day, expecting me to or if we were splitting the costs of the trip before i reacted.

 

[Rell Lauren]

You made it clear that you two are just sleeping together hence why she feels comfortable enough to say she's staying an extra day. Even if you're paying for everything, she doesn't owe you anything as fukked up as it sounds. Your girlfriend would work with you. A girl you have sex with from time to time doesn't. Was she going to pay for the day herself? You may have ruined something good by jumping the gun.

 

[Mike809]

Is she older than 25 ? Because that's just asking for trouble.

 

[Roid Jones]

“I’m staying till Tuesday”

Not sure about this one breh