Need help with my social skills (especially with females)
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im disappointed at this thread, every coli nikka always be talking about how they got hoes on hoes. But only a few people gave any decent advice in here
basically. don't be a creep, don't get discouraged by rejections, it's really all a numbers game until you get a little bit of charm and confidence
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To answer the OP's question, i already know your problem. Engineering, shut-in, studying all the time, overly logical, doesnt have many social interactions each day, low self esteem, thinks a lot.
Thats like walking onto a basketball court 50 pounds overweight, out of shape, and wearing flip flops in a 5 on 5 game. you are gonna get destroyed in the club
Girls are emotional creatures and thrive off feeling good / lots of emotions.
To talk to a girl, you have to make an attempt to be more extroverted.
What that mean? It means being social and making an attempt to have a conversation with a few strangers each day.
When we was little our parents said, Don't talk to strangers. That's good for a kid, but as a man you need to be able to
look people in the eye when you speak
smile and be laid back from time to time
make others laugh
make witty remarks and be quick off the cuff
project your voice and be loud
It comes partly from your testosterone being high / feeling good and partly from frequent and repeated social interactions.
look breh. Girls are not going to run up to you and there are no fairy tales ending with you resucing her and falling into your arms. Girls wont be your girlfriend out of pity. There is no sex charity for losers on this planet.
Get your swag up. I am not good looking at all. But....i know how to improve a girls day with just a fun conversation.
good luck
Thats like walking onto a basketball court 50 pounds overweight, out of shape, and wearing flip flops in a 5 on 5 game. you are gonna get destroyed in the club
Girls are emotional creatures and thrive off feeling good / lots of emotions.
To talk to a girl, you have to make an attempt to be more extroverted.
What that mean? It means being social and making an attempt to have a conversation with a few strangers each day.
When we was little our parents said, Don't talk to strangers. That's good for a kid, but as a man you need to be able to
look people in the eye when you speak
smile and be laid back from time to time
make others laugh
make witty remarks and be quick off the cuff
project your voice and be loud
It comes partly from your testosterone being high / feeling good and partly from frequent and repeated social interactions.
look breh. Girls are not going to run up to you and there are no fairy tales ending with you resucing her and falling into your arms. Girls wont be your girlfriend out of pity. There is no sex charity for losers on this planet.
Get your swag up. I am not good looking at all. But....i know how to improve a girls day with just a fun conversation.
good luck
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California Burrito
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Before you even talk to women make sure your happy with yourself.
What's your go to hobby? What gives you that invincible "let's get it!" attitude? Once you get that down, approach women with that carefree, going in attitude.
What's your go to hobby? What gives you that invincible "let's get it!" attitude? Once you get that down, approach women with that carefree, going in attitude.
BasedPrime
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Once your in #UglyTeam it's for life breh 
s3ven_LvLs
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c'mon brehs i'm serious here, i came to you guys first because i thought you guys could help a nikka out and provide some good advice
Bruh women need stuff to do. They look for you to be the one having fun so that they can chime in. Like previously said be little bit more extroverted. Don't talk to women with intention of marrying them or even having a relationship. If a girl is on you and you think she is OK then go ahead and entertain her for a bit. I swear when you get one woman it starts a cascade of women attracting towards you out of nowhere. Women are more comfortable talking to men who already have a gf and/or get women.
This is a fact. As far as talking to the starbucks chick come at her with directions. Ask her if she is willing to do something for you and if she says yes tell her to go ahead and put your number in my phone, don't ask for it. If she says no, then simply reply "Ok. I understand" and go about your business and have fun somewhere else. Next time she sees you (assuming that you are having fun at the time.) it will make her feel like she missing out and she might renege on her past judgement.
One more thing I think nikkas struggle with is too much porn. If anything it fukks up your perception of life and ability to do work. nikkas done seen a bytch juggle 3 different dikks at the same time but get nervous to ask for a number at the mall
. Its backwards nowadays.
just straight up hander her my phone and don't say a word? ight then.
i am happy with myself, but what does having hobby have to do with this?
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dark_magic
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Do you have any friends that are social butterflies? Hang with them for a bit and observe.
Go out more. Join social activities. Join social clubs. Observe people and take notes.
Check out youtube for social skills as well as material on EQ (Emotional Quotient) as well as emotional intelligence.
Check out some game resources such as therationalmale.com.
If you can travel a bit, try different towns and cities. Each will have their vibe.
Females are big on emotions. You'll want to emote with them. Take note of how females communicate with each other. You'll want to modify that a bit as a male emoting with a female.
Play communications by ear. Also, don't be afraid to experiment.
Get people talking about themselves. Also, find and stoke peoples' passions.
As more ideas come to me, I'll throw them out.
Also, who you know is just as important as what you know. Try hanging out with people in different circles. That should make for some easy connections.
You'll know when you are in your stride when you relax and things just click.
Since you are a engineering student, you may want to do some investigation on social engineering from a standpoint of what makes people tick.
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The only reason i find it harder to talk to females than homies is cuz females nowdays literally have jacc shyt to talk about. seriously, this generation succs ass(20 years old)
PikaDaDon
Thunderbolt Them Suckers
Yeah most women are boring but that's part of the problem. Most women today are fukking crazy. You can't even simply say 'hi' to them without them wanting to call the cops. Unless you're extremely attractive and/or exude wealth they won't bother with the average Joe.
Today's women are like this:
i knew this cool ass dude that just talked to women with enough game and smoothness to make the hardest lesbian ready to spread her legs.
one time we were working together in soho in downtown manhattan. he was posted up doing his usual "good morning" routine to all the pretty pawgs and paags and he must have said it to the wrong girl. she kept walking and turned around and came back like
"why would u do that?"
"why would i do what?say good morning?"
"you are sexually harrassing me. i am someone's daughter and i dont need random men catcalling me in the street all day
"miss all i did was say good morning to u"
she walked away and we were all fukking mindblown at that. she was tearing up and my boy was terrified that she would complain about him to our bosses.
s3ven_LvLs
All Star
just straight up hander her my phone and don't say a word? ight then.
i am happy with myself, but what does having hobby have to do with this?
Yeah basically I mean talk to her a little bit but don't just hand her the phone and not say shyt then she not gonna respect you for not providing enough direction. If she says no don't bytch up just say something like " OK so you're not gonna put your number in my phone OK I understand
. Have a nice day." She will think you are another guy who worships women but later on if she sees being happy she will feel like she is missing out. The point is to view her as an add-on to life not her being the main focus.