Death is better?.....your family in pain from your act is better?....if you would have said she woke up every day in excruciating pain or some shyt...maybe I get it....she said she had friends, family and things to keep her busy....hell she described all the food she like....most nikkas eat pork and beans
physical and mental pain aren't that far apart...
i've been hit by a truck and had my collarbone poking out my neck. had to learn how to switch my eye dominance, learn to write again, couldn't brush my own hair for damn near 6 months. couldn't sleep, pissed blood, all that shyt... pain is real. and just like strong mental fortitude will get you through a lot of physical pain, strong physical will do the same for you mentally.
but even with all the shyt that came along with the injury, it
still wasn't worse than some of my worst days dealing with depression once i was "good". some of the days that I should've been the happiest were the most gutwrenching experiences I've ever had to tolerate. that's what depression is. and its what so hard to explain to people who've never endured it.
shyt, my suicidal thoughts didn't even manifest with hanging myself or overdosing - i was a danger junkie. if there was a high risk situation, i was in that bytch head first while everyone else was still looking for a plan... and in the military? you can absolutely believe that my bullshyt was reinforced tenfold. the environment you're in plays a part and depression or any other mental trauma molds itself to your surroundings before you hit a wall. i see it in my old neighborhood too and its why i think "hood ptsd" is a thing. "this is all i got, and if i die banging then i die banging" "im going to die anyways may as well get money" etc, so on and so forth. those blinders and left / right limits are common for anyone mentally suffocating. moral compasses and perspectives warp. its why so many in medical fields go through shyt too even though they know better than anyone how to identify these issues. it comes across in different ways and
everyone's 'cry for help' will not sound the same.
but again, its just not something you understand completely until you're swimming at the same depth as those who've been there. i'm eternally grateful for a friend of mine who helped me grasp how off the deep end i was by essentially mirroring my own symptoms. not everyone is gonna have that however