New York Times: Men, where have you gone? Please come back

[SmarkMero]

Why are there no articles on women’s behaviors and unreal expectations when it comes to dating?
Like them believing that there’s some 6 foot 6 figure earner out there waiting to marry them when they’re average or below average.

They just don't go viral..

Welcome to the femosphere, the latest dark, toxic corner of the internet… for women

‘Femcel’ influencers urge their followers to give up on gender equality and use men for financial gain – in the name of feminism

www.theguardian.com

Forget incels, meet ‘femcels’ – the generation embracing ‘toxic femininity’

They identify as ‘femcels’ – a female spin on involuntary celibate men, who worship at the altar of ‘Gone Girl’ and valourise sociopathy. But is this very online way of life a worthy pushback to regressive ideas of femininity, or just another way to make women feel bad about themselves, asks...

www.independent.co.uk

How Femcels are becoming the new Incels

This month, the release of Adolescence exposed the disturbing male incel movement affecting teens in the UK. But now more and more women are describing themselves with the label.

www.dailymail.co.uk

The radical 'femcel' movement urging women to give up men forever

South Korea's 4B movement has four rules. Number one? No sex.

metro.co.uk

Exploring the darker corners of Reddit through the femcel community

Western University, in vibrant London, Ontario, delivers an academic and student experience second to none.

www.fims.uwo.ca

 

[UnQuantized]

Women don't deserve good, emotionally available men

 

[The ADD]

Women don't deserve good, emotionally available men

 

[tay1]

Dudes are starting to act more like hoez. All this incel, red pill BS is partly to blame.

 

[Rekkapryde]

Colombia
PR
DR
Brazil
Panama

Non Westernized and/or Non Social Media addicted

 

[2 Up 2 Down]

Yall still dating women in 2025??????

 

[The ADD]

Non Westernized and/or Non Social Media addicted

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

Bye.

 

[Bumblebreh]

Man at some point we gotta stop with the Google debating and stat battles and use common sense

Is 80/20 distribution an exact 1:1 science? No but let's not pretend like very similar have/have not distributions don't explicitly exist right in front of our noses

And hence why I said there has never been an accurate way to quantify the actual numbers, common sense will obviously tell you that there are men that do not struggle with women. But there can be multiple variables.
The 80/20 is inconclusive because it is based on a very dated app metric, but it does not apply in real life. Because in real life, most people do not have access to so many options.

 

[The Intergalactic Koala]

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[karim]

Right in time for the recession.



ChatGPT summary -

Here are the key points from Rachel Drucker’s Modern Love essay “Men, Where Have You Gone? Please Come Back” (published June 20, 2025) based on the Reddit thread summary :

1. A cultural shift in male presence

• Many men have withdrawn from vulnerability and intimacy, not through aggression but through indifference. They are no longer fully “present” on dates or in connections.

2. From real connection to “directionless orbiting”

• The author laments the rise of “situationships”: casual emoji check-ins and flirtation without real commitment or movement forward—an abdication of emotional ownership.

3. Emotional retreat and convenience culture

• Men increasingly prefer curated, frictionless digital experiences—scrolling, filters, passive engagement—over the messy process of genuine human connection.

4. The erosion of intimacy rituals

• Shared rituals—like lingering over breakfast after a one-night stand—have largely disappeared, replaced by walled-off experiences and missed moments of closeness.

5. A call for rediscovering presence

• The author invites men to return with authenticity and willingness, not perfection—highlighting the need for breath, eye contact, emotional presence, and simply being with each other.

Standout Quotes from the Essay

“The way many men had quietly withdrawn from intimacy and vulnerability. Not with violence or resistance, but with indifference.”

“What I won’t entertain is directionless orbiting … We call it a situationship. But mostly, it’s avoidance.”

In essence, Drucker explores how male emotional absence, driven by digital convenience and cultural burnout, is reshaping romantic rituals. She believes women continue to show up—waiting for men to show up with intention. And her plea is simple: “Come back—not with fireworks, but with your whole, beautiful, imperfect heart.”

Matt Taibibi is another grifter peddling rightwing grievances and resentment. Why do coli-posters keep sharing these clowns?

 

[feelosofer]

What's happening is the that women are feeling the pain of men simply walking away.

And the (white) men that have money who are divorced are taking Asians and Latinas as second wives.

 

[ORDER_66]

Dudes are starting to act more like hoez. All this incel, red pill BS is partly to blame.

So to rectify this you want men to suffer to date women who treat them like shyt constantly... in a never ending game of cat and mouse??? i mean cmon man...

 

[JNew]

Single mother house holds
Pussified men
Garbage women


Yeah smart men are laying low until this storm passes.

But tbh this article is just pandering to women.

 

[Diondon]

Dating is a cesspool