I’m not saying she needs to stay for the kids. I’m saying if you have kids, they come first. If the argument is “he dont care about the kids so I don’t have to either” then you’re taking up SOME of the responsibility of breaking the family up if he didn’t have intentions of leaving his family. This goes for both men and women regardless of who cheats.
If you got kids, you might have to take that L for their sake. If you decide to leave the family then no one wants to hear how hard it is for you if you chose to leave. The person who cheated stepped out on the marriage, not the family. I personally wouldn’t stay but I also wouldn’t leave then talk about the hardships I faced leaving. I also don’t have kids so I can just say “fukk it”. If I had kids and I prioritize a traditional family nucleus for my kid over my own feelings, then I stay. If I can’t prioritize that over myself, then I would go. But I won’t be under the delusion that she broke the family up. I’d say she broke our marriage and that made me break the family.
I don’t think either choice is wrong.
No one should stay in a relationship were they're being disrespected, humiliated and having their health being put at risk because their SO is raw dogging whoever wants it. Yes, a two a parent household is ideal but sometimes it's not and that's okay. The best thing for the kids is both parents being mature, respectful and having common goals for their kids, married or not. There are a lot of dysfunctional two parent households. Two parent household on the outside but inside it's nothing but chaos.
It’s hilarious whenever a woman leaves a cheater it’s “what about the kids” but men to abandon their families for any little thing it doesn’t even have to be cheating.
but leaving a man that publicly humiliates you is unforgivable.
And having your kids see you stay with a man that disrespected and humiliated you, especially if you have daughters? Those daughters will think being humiliated and disrespected is the norm. That sets up another set of problems. They don't think of things like that though. A lot of these men will get a much-needed wakeup call if they think they can have their cake and eat it too. Even if the woman does stay, she's not fully all in like she was before and or she considers his infidelity a green light to do her own thing. They're not ready for that conversation though.
If a man is not ready to fully commit to one woman being single is right there, it's not rock science. Single men in non-committed relationships don't have to answer to anyone and can smash whoever they want. But nah, they want to have options while being in a committed relations while their woman is only supposed look at and desire them until eternity. Make it make sense.
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