NIGERIAN mother CRASHES OUT on ADOS/FBA daughter in law - "In OUR CULTURE you are supposed to take your Mother in law's PLATE. RESPECT ME!"

[RaspberryFitted]

She’s lucky that’s a NICE NICE Black American woman

Because a regular nice Black American person would’ve stomped out anyone with a funny accent getting disrespectful like that

Glad we off that Old World behavior mostly

what is a “regular nice” Black American?

There’s Black Americans that be on this type of timing too

 

[UpAndComing]

I have never been to Nigeria so I do not know...Nigerian posters can get me squared away if I'm in error.

I've not studied the country extensively, but I know it was colonized by the British.

I only bring that up because anytime I see some shyt like this - when someone is adamant about making someone else put themselves in a subservient role - I instantly start thinking their culture has Western European influence...cause what the fukk is that even about, especially to this degree?

I could be wrong, and like someone else alluded to here, this could be just for the cameras.

I'll just say if I was ole girl, I'd be out. Can't imagine what that situation would like if she had kids and that was their grandmother.

You basically answered your own question. No offense, but absolute gibberish nonsense you just spewed in your post

 

[UpAndComing]

respect isn't servitude.

You really live in your own bubble. To assume everyone in this world are supposed to curtail their way of life to the way you view the world

Probably the same person who travels to Japan, eats in a restaurant, and gets angry they don't make Philly Cheesesteaks

 

[levitate]

Tradition/customs > couple's feeling

If you can't put up with that then marry your own, or a culture that is more like your own.

A lot of you don't realize that traditions/cultures/customs don't bend to you.

In the wife’s culture, she doesn’t haven’t take the plate. Why should the mother impose her culture on her? She married the husband not his mother. Respect for culture goes both ways.

Furthermore, instead of blowing up over something incredibly insignificant, the mother should have acted like an adult instead of an entitled, petulant child.

 

[levitate]

I’ve been to Nigeria and everyone I’m friends with has “house help”

Surprised they didn’t try to sell them to your white husband for guns and butter.

 

[RaspberryFitted]

In the wife’s culture, she doesn’t haven’t take the plate. Why should the mother impose her culture on her? She married the husband not his mother. Respect for culture goes both ways.

Furthermore, instead of blowing up over something incredibly insignificant, the mother should have acted like an adult instead of an entitled, petulant child.

the middle ground for this is what the man’s definition of culture is, because he is the one she married.

If his definition of culture is aligned with the mother then either abide by it or divorce

 

[levitate]

the middle ground for this is what the man’s definition of culture is, because he is the one she married.

Misogyny!

“He is the one she married”.

But, also “she is the one he married”.

 

[Bushmaster69]

In the wife’s culture, she doesn’t haven’t take the plate. Why should the mother impose her culture on her? She married the husband not his mother. Respect for culture goes both ways.

Furthermore, instead of blowing up over something incredibly insignificant, the mother should have acted like an adult instead of an entitled, petulant child.

No, she is marrying into the husband's culture. Not the other way around.

If she or anyone else can't handle it, go marry your own or a similar culture.

Picking up the plate shows respect. It signifies how she views the mom. That's small to you but significant to others.

Sounds like you have limited or no interactions with the typical Yoruba. Her behaviour isn't uncommon. They are just animated and very loud. It's how they express themselves.

 

[Bushmaster69]

And here we go!

Yes the MIL is completely in the wrong. But on the flip side Nigerian MILs be flipping out on Nigerian wives ALL THE TIME too

It’s a funny culture

Facts.

They don't understand Nigerian cultures. No one is safe.

Wait until they see how househelps are treated in Nigeria by the women of the house.

 

[Coco Loco]

What show is this from btw? And did the uncle help the situation at all?

Family or Fiancé

 

[Deafheaven]

I was a groomsmen for my best dude who is Nigerian.

Was some of the most long winded, extra, respect your elders, jesus is king shyt I ever experienced. We had a regular wedding and tradiotonal one and I guess one of the elders from their og village wanted to talk and bro just grabbed that mic and got on a soapbox and you could tell everyone was like wtf, but my boy was like we cant do nothing he an elder They take that shyt mad serious, so this clip while fake is not shocking if real. old crodie went on for at least a half n hour I

He regular corporate bro like me. that wedding had to cost like a year in salary. Nigerian culture seems...wild

 

[levitate]

No, she is marrying into the husband's culture. Not the other way around.

Man, get outta here with this 5000BC definition of marriage…

They are both marrying into each other’s culture.


Ole dowry paying ass…

 

[The Fade]

Facts.

They don't understand Nigerian cultures. No one is safe.

Wait until they see how househelps are treated in Nigeria by the women of the house.

Nah we fine with y’all gatekeeping that superior rich culture to y’all selves. Aggressively, expeditiously, wholeheartedly

 

[xXMASHERXx]

No, she is marrying into the husband's culture. Not the other way around.

If she or anyone else can't handle it, go marry your own or a similar culture.

Picking up the plate shows respect. It signifies how she views the mom. That's small to you but significant to others.

Sounds like you have limited or no interactions with the typical Yoruba. Her behaviour isn't uncommon. They are just animated and very loud. It's how they express themselves.

Shouldn't the son have prepared his wife for this? Isn't it his role to lead, teach, and guide his family? Either he didn't do that or he chose a woman who was unwilling to accept his culture which means he failed at choosing a proper woman. So again, shouldn't that energy be directed towards her son?

 

[Premeditated]

Shouldn't that energy be directed at her son for not teaching his wife?

Nigerian women baby their sons and absorb them of personal accountabilities.....