No diss to parents in here but "Kids are a blessing" is a ..

[dr. pill biden]

My parents were married at 24, and had their kids at 27, 29, and 32 after they both finished their grad degrees. I was planned for, BUT my mother had 3 or 4 miscarriages before me and my brother. If the people who desperately want them can't get them, how can kids NOT be a blessing?

 

[Silver Surfer]

My parents were married at 24, and had their kids at 27, 29, and 32 after they both finished their grad degrees. I was planned for, BUT my mother had 3 or 4 miscarriages before me and my brother. If the people who desperately want them can't get them, how can kids NOT be a blessing?

Exactly...there are people who cant even have children

 

[MeachTheMonster]

"Having babies is a blessing, but anything that happens afterwards might not be." That mentality is why black people won't ever be shyt. You justify and glorify having babies just for the sake of having babies and experiencing the "miracle" of child birth. You could give less than a fukk about the quality of life that your kids have. Black people treat having babies like everyone else treats marriage. It's not the fruitfulness of the marriage itself that matters. It's just the wedding DAY that matters to some people. Same thing with black people and having babies. It's not the fruitfulness of the child's life that matters. It's just the DAY the child was born. You have babies so that YOU can feel some type of validation. And then you wonder why the kids out of wedlock rate is so high in your community. Black people in America are so mentally fukked up it's not even fukking funny. People in here STILL posted up in the ghetto saying "well imma jus have a baby anyway because it's a blessing. who cares if the baby gets hungry? that's AFTER the fact! All that matters is I give birth and get the title of an honorary strong black woman/good black man." Black people don't give two shyts about their kids. If you guys did you wouldn't be having kids out of wedlock and while you're poor. The deficiency mindset in the black community is disgusting.

If you have babies out of wedlock you failed your children. If you have children and you still live in the ghetto you FAILED your children. You failed them. Accept that shyt. I'm tired of these dumb nikkas coming on here and justifying bullshyt!

The ignorance and racism in this post is astounding. First off "people in the ghetto" aren't the only ones having unplanned babies. Second being married does not automaticaly make the child or the parents better off. It is best that a child has both patents, but marriage is not the only way to achieve that.

Have you ever been to the "ghetto" as you call it. There are plenty of loving successful families that live in the "ghetto". It is easy for you to say "just get a job and move out the ghetto" but it doesn't work that way. White people have generations of wealth that go back hundreds of years. Black people just got the right to be somewhat equal citizens 60 years ago. So should we have been able to generate the same kind of wealth in 60 that white people took hundreds of years to do? Rather you want to admit it or not we are still climbing out if a hole.

And y'all always like to quote this black unwed babies statistic like it means something. 48% of the entire population of women under 30 have kids out of wedlock. So if it is a problem it isn't only a black problem it's an American problem. But the numbers don't mean anything cause there are plenty of situations that parents can be unwed, but the children are wanted and taken care of. And there are plenty of married parents that don't take care of their kids.

Lastly ALL babies are blessings because life in itself is a blessing. With all of the death that happens, and all the hurtles that life has to clear in order happen. It is a blessing to the world ANYTIME life can prevail again. This has nothing to do with planned/unplanned married/unmarried. Life itself is our blessing.

 

[Sharp]

You've never experienced love until you have a child that loved you and thinks the world of you. That feeling is the best thing in the world

 

[Sierra Mist]

The ignorance and racism in this post is astounding. First off "people in the ghetto" aren't the only ones having unplanned babies. Second being married does not automaticaly make the child or the parents better off. It is best that a child has both patents, but marriage is not the only way to achieve that.

Have you ever been to the "ghetto" as you call it. There are plenty of loving successful families that live in the "ghetto". It is easy for you to say "just get a job and move out the ghetto" but it doesn't work that way. White people have generations of wealth that go back hundreds of years. Black people just got the right to be somewhat equal citizens 60 years ago. So should we have been able to generate the same kind of wealth in 60 that white people took hundreds of years to do? Rather you want to admit it or not we are still climbing out if a hole.

And y'all always like to quote this black unwed babies statistic like it means something. 48% of the entire population of women under 30 have kids out of wedlock. So if it is a problem it isn't only a black problem it's an American problem. But the numbers don't mean anything cause there are plenty of situations that parents can be unwed, but the children are wanted and taken care of. And there are plenty of married parents that don't take care of their kids.

Lastly ALL babies are blessings because life in itself is a blessing. With all of the death that happens, and all the hurtles that life has to clear in order happen. It is a blessing to the world ANYTIME life can prevail again. This has nothing to do with planned/unplanned married/unmarried. Life itself is our blessing.

It's not racism. African Americans have made it a CULTURE to glorify the bullshyt. Do you think other groups of people are sitting up here saying "let's just have babies whether we can afford them or not?" Hell no. Yes there are exceptions but only black people in America have made it a culture to think it's ok to have unplanned babies out of wedlock. Yes white people had a head start, but does that stop black people from going out, getting an education and getting higher paid jobs? No it's not. The culture of dissing smart people and saying they "act white" or "talk white" because they don't sound like Plies after he had some sizzurp and cornbread is to blame. No one is stopping you from getting an education. Stop blaming the past when you have control over the future. The white man isn't making it so that black people only want to "keep it hood/real/thorough". That's all the deficiency mindset that black people have created themselves. If the ghetto is so amazing then why isn't it a golden city? People love to preach about how "great" the ghetto is but then use how fukked up the ghetto is as an excuse.

People outside of the ghetto also have unplanned pregnancies but if you compare the percentages the people in the ghetto have exponentially more unplanned pregnancies than people with affluence. shyt. Most of the people with money have less kids in general than broke people. The issue is I'm not attack people. I'm calling out the culture, because no one ever wants to do that. They think it's too ominous and that it will hurt people's feelings. fukk THAT.

And here we are with this airy fairy, nuts and berries, Tyler Perry bullshyt. Yea all life is a blessing. That's such an altruistic, humanitarian thing to say but it's false! Life isn't a blessing when you're starving. You can't smell the roses when you're worrying about where you're next meal is coming from. Everyone is born and everyone will die, but not everyone lives. It's like the pilot said in the movie Wall-E, "I don't want to survive, I want to live." Survivors are just LOSERS that haven't died yet.

 

[SecretLover]

it's a blessing i dont mind sacrificing cause i live for Jeziah..wouldn't trade being a parent, if anything it has made me a stronger woman , hes my everything ,he motivates me & impowers me to be everything i can be, i love my son more then anything, Know that !

mother & son = endless love .

 

[BillBanneker]

My parents were married at 24, and had their kids at 27, 29, and 32 after they both finished their grad degrees. I was planned for, BUT my mother had 3 or 4 miscarriages before me and my brother. If the people who desperately want them can't get them, how can kids NOT be a blessing?

Yeah, I always find it weird that people that really desire children but can't/or is really difficult to have them, and then the people who are pretty much are a baby making factory.

 

[MeachTheMonster]

It's not racism. African Americans have made it a CULTURE to glorify the bullshyt. Do you think other groups of people are sitting up here saying "let's just have babies whether we can afford them or not?" Hell no. Yes there are exceptions but only black people in America have made it a culture to think it's ok to have unplanned babies out of wedlock. Yes white people had a head start, but does that stop black people from going out, getting an education and getting higher paid jobs? No it's not. The culture of dissing smart people and saying they "act white" or "talk white" because they don't sound like Plies after he had some sizzurp and cornbread is to blame. No one is stopping you from getting an education. Stop blaming the past when you have control over the future. The white man isn't making it so that black people only want to "keep it hood/real/thorough". That's all the deficiency mindset that black people have created themselves. If the ghetto is so amazing then why isn't it a golden city? People love to preach about how "great" the ghetto is but then use how fukked up the ghetto is as an excuse.

People outside of the ghetto also have unplanned pregnancies but if you compare the percentages the people in the ghetto have exponentially more unplanned pregnancies than people with affluence. shyt. Most of the people with money have less kids in general than broke people. The issue is I'm not attack people. I'm calling out the culture, because no one ever wants to do that. They think it's too ominous and that it will hurt people's feelings. fukk THAT.

And here we are with this airy fairy, nuts and berries, Tyler Perry bullshyt. Yea all life is a blessing. That's such an altruistic, humanitarian thing to say but it's false! Life isn't a blessing when you're starving. You can't smell the roses when you're worrying about where you're next meal is coming from. Everyone is born and everyone will die, but not everyone will live. It's like the pilot said in the movie Wall-E, "I don't want to survive, I want to live." Survivors are just LOSERS that haven't died yet.

It is racism because this "mindset" you keep talking about is not true to most black people. I am black and have lived in the hood and the subburbs, and I have never heard anyone glorify unwanted babies. Yes there are some fringe idiots but they don't speak for black people as a hole. You sir are racist because you want to take the negativity of "some" and project it on the entire race of people.

No one is "blaming the past" just stating real concrete facts. You say that poor black people should just go to school and get a job and they will be equal, but it's not that simple. For example I was in the 8th grade my brother in the 12th, I was going to school in the suburbs while my brother was going in the city. My brother had to borrow my math book to pass his graduation tests because for one he didn't have a math book do to no funding. Two the math book available at the school was outdated and confusing and it didn't cover all of the areas he needed to pass the test. So did the kids at my brothers school have an equal chance to the kids at mine?

Also people with more money have more abortions. So is it ok for me to say that ALL white people have the mentality of just having babies for the fukk of it just cause they can afford an abortion?

are you really quoting a Disney movie for life lessons? And I have no clue what my statement has to do with Tyler perry. I just said with so much death and darkness in the universe statistically ANY new life is a miracle. Therefore a blessing. Even if that life goes on to be Jeffery dahmer, because even though he killed a bunch of people. He also saved lives by raising awareness on crazy mufukkas. So that lady that saw the dahmer story this morning and decided not to go on the midnight walk, missing the serial killer she would have run into that night has Jeffry dhamer to thank for her life. What I mean by all this is the universe is too large and varied to say that something is or isn't a blessing due to it's perceived success. The fact that we are all here is a blessing.

 

[SafeForWork]

buncha bullshyt..especially if those children werent planned.

Im willing to bet 4 out of 5 parents' quality of life has gotten worse after having children

If all kids were such a blessing..whats up with all the rampant abuse,neglect, infanticide,poverty these kids are facing day in and day out?

Props to parents who started sacrificing more and grinding harder to provide a better life for their kids though..

dumb, selfish, demonic thread. how can children not be a blessing? wasn't your dumb ass a child one day? how can a new life not be a blessing? because someone is responsible for it?

what a dumb ass thread.

 

[MikelArteta]

What's your excuse, you have no kids and you have no social life?

I'm a recluse and anti social I'm the first to admit it.

But that's my choice I hve no responsibilities or little heathens to look after.

 

[Sierra Mist]

It is racism because this "mindset" you keep talking about is not true to most black people. I am black and have lived in the hood and the subburbs, and I have never heard anyone glorify unwanted babies. Yes there are some fringe idiots but they don't speak for black people as a hole. You sir are racist because you want to take the negativity of "some" and project it on the entire race of people.

No one is "blaming the past" just stating real concrete facts. You say that poor black people should just go to school and get a job and they will be equal, but it's not that simple. For example I was in the 8th grade my brother in the 12th, I was going to school in the suburbs while my brother was going in the city. My brother had to borrow my math book to pass his graduation tests because for one he didn't have a math book do to no funding. Two the math book available at the school was outdated and confusing and it didn't cover all of the areas he needed to pass the test. So did the kids at my brothers school have an equal chance to the kids at mine?

Also people with more money have more abortions. So is it ok for me to say that ALL white people have the mentality of just having babies for the fukk of it just cause they can afford an abortion?

are you really quoting a Disney movie for life lessons? And I have no clue what my statement has to do with Tyler perry. I just said with so much death and darkness in the universe statistically ANY new life is a miracle. Therefore a blessing. Even if that life goes on to be Jeffery dahmer, because even though he killed a bunch of people. He also saved lives by raising awareness on crazy mufukkas. So that lady that saw the dahmer story this morning and decided not to go on the midnight walk, missing the serial killer she would have run into that night has Jeffry dhamer to thank for her life. What I mean by all this is the universe is too large and varied to say that something is or isn't a blessing due to it's perceived success. The fact that we are all here is a blessing.

There are people who come to America with nothing but the clothes on their back and can't speak English but they work their asses off in school so that they can acquire wealth. You're giving me nothing but excuses. Yes I quoted a Disney movie but does that make the message false? No it doesn't. You're saying that it's not a culture but people in this very thread subscribe to the mentality I just described for you all this very morning, ladies and gentlemen. And I'm sorry. If I'm starving I'm not blessed. That's just something that rich people told poor people to make them stay poor. Since you want to go into it so deeply let's talk about this term "blessing". The poorer you are in every society the more religious you are. The more affluent you are the more agnostic or atheist you are. Funny how THAT works. You've been indoctrinated to believe that even if you're broke, diseased, starving and alone that you are blessed. That's the stupidest thing ever. If everyone is blessed then no one is blessed. If everyone is beautiful then no one is beautiful. Good can't exist without bad to compare it to. You can't have light without dark. You can't have cold without hot.
Stop making excuses for failure. Start using those excuses as obstacles instead of a dead end. If you were born to parents who didn't have the proper amount for resources to raise you then I'm sorry. I'm sorry your parents failed you. What I don't get is why people perpetuate the cycle instead of making shyt better.

 

[BlvdBrawler]

How bout u explain to me then what exactly makes that child a 'blessing' fukk boy?
And a blessing to who??an alcoholic father who beats it every night?
A pedo who molests that child like its nothing?

And step parents are the worst when it comes to abuse...you're lucky you were raised by one who was engineered differently

And why were u unplanned?was your mom a dumb ho who didnt know anything bout birth control?

Is it that hard to believe that parents love their children?

 

[MeachTheMonster]

There are people who come to America with nothing but the clothes on their back and can't speak English but they work their asses off in school so that they can acquire wealth. You're giving me nothing but excuses. Yes I quoted a Disney movie but does that make the message false? No it doesn't. You're saying that it's not a culture but people in this very thread subscribe to the mentality I just described for you all this very morning, ladies and gentlemen. And I'm sorry. If I'm starving I'm not blessed. That's just something that rich people told poor people to make them stay poor. Since you want to go into it so deeply let's talk about this term "blessing". The poorer you are in every society the more religious you are. The more affluent you are the more agnostic or atheist you are. Funny how THAT works. You've been indoctrinated to believe that even if you're broke, diseased, starving and alone that you are blessed. That's the stupidest thing ever. If everyone is blessed then no one is blessed. If everyone is beautiful then no one is beautiful. Good can't exist without bad to compare it to. You can't have light without dark. You can't have cold without hot.
Stop making excuses for failure. Start using those excuses as obstacles instead of a dead end. If you were born to parents who didn't have the proper amount for resources to raise you then I'm sorry. I'm sorry your parents failed you. What I don't get is why people perpetuate the cycle instead of making shyt better.

There are people that come to America and live in poverty forever as well. And there are black people who overcome their obsticals and acquire wealth. I just gave you a very real scenario of the challenges that poor people face.

I havn't seen anyone in this thread glorify unwanted children. Who said it was a good idea to have unwanted children?

I agree with you on the bolded. I'm not arguing that everyone is blessed or in a good position just because they are alive. I'm arguing that the fact that life happened in the first place is the blessing. The blessing starts and ends there.


By your own analogy GOOD=LIFE BAD=NOT LIFE
Life couldn't exist without not life therefore life itself is a blessing.

My grandmother is 90 years old. Not to far removed from slavery in America. Is it her fault she was poor and did she "fail" my parents? My parents made a descent living for themselves and me but we would still be considered poor. Did they "fail" me? It's easy for you to say just go get a job and stop being poor but it doesn't work like that. Just like you said there can be no rich without poor so if everybody just went out and got rich society would not function correctly. Your logic just doesn't make sense.

The majority of black people are trying to overcome those obstacles and change the cycle. Black people as a whole have contantly elevated our position in society. From the civil rights movement to the first black President it is in black peoples culture to rise above adversity. Racist people like you want to take the negative and project it on all of us while forgetting the very recent history that put us in the hole in the first place.

What are you doing to change the cycle?

 

[Hollywood Co]

How could bringing life into this world not be a blessing? A good portion of yall talking shyt about having kids in non perfect conditions were blessings too. Folks are so focused on the potential of missing out on things that have little substance in the grand scheme of things. Yall are so focused of things of the flesh its almost sickening.

Giving Life and molding someone of your seed into respectable person trumps anything you guys have listed in this thread and I don't even have kids.

Yall have no scope.

 

[Sierra Mist]

You nikkas are eating too many nuts and berries right now. Now you know why people like you struggle in life and people like me don't. "It's not a culture." Yeah right. This isn't about some mystical moons or some "higher power" or some "otherworldy divine principle." This is reality. You guys are the type of people who would say shyt like "we can feed a family with love" or "we can build a business with character and knowledge of self." The nuts and berries are killing me right now.