"No flowers, no planned dates, just “wyd” texts & 50/50"

[dora_da_destroyer]

To be cool with putting in work the next man doesn’t have to

Again, y’all are conflating sex with relationships. Yes, you need to work for a relationship. Sex isn’t the end goal of a relationship. Sex is the objective of being FWB, being FWB is not about the things you’d do with or for someone you’re being serious with, it’s about coming over, smashing, and keeping it movin

 

[Gunz&Butta]

Damn, snitch on yourself, brehette. If dudes are only sending you wyd texts

 

[Rozay Oro]

Damn, snitch on yourself, brehette. If dudes are only sending you wyd texts

A lot of these girls deserve that. Most just want attention and waste most brehs time.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Damn, snitch on yourself, brehette. If dudes are only sending you wyd texts

majority tell on themselves and show why they need to stick to their lanes as squares. You can see all that hot girl stuff is getting to them hence the spikes in alcoholism, drug use, and depression.

 

[the bossman]

To be cool with putting in work the next man doesn’t have to

Some of y'all got this weird ass obsession with what a broad has done with other dudes before you.

So long as she treating YOU the way YOU like why do you care what happened before you with another nikka?

 

[Ziggiy]

Do women deserve better brehs?

Women who appreciate and reciprocate deserve better

 

[KidJSoul]

Again, y’all are conflating sex with relationships. Yes, you need to work for a relationship. Sex isn’t the end goal of a relationship. Sex is the objective of being FWB, being FWB is not about the things you’d do with or for someone you’re being serious with, it’s about coming over, smashing, and keeping it movin

Yes, that is what should be the case. What happens in reality is that a lot of these chicks don't give you much in the beginning of a relationship. They expect you to take care of that. Sometimes legit treat their one-off flings better than the man they are dating. Not just sexually.

And again, the women who don't do this don't wear a sign on their heads. It's hard to sniff out.


And again, some of these chicks, if they are really feeling you, are gonna have sex with you early on anyway, making the whole thing one big charade anyway.

 

[KidJSoul]

Some of y'all got this weird ass obsession with what a broad has done with other dudes before you.

So long as she treating YOU the way YOU like why do you care what happened before you with another nikka?

No one likes knowing they put in more effort or put up with more shyt than others to possibly get worse - especially if the relationship didn't work out.

 

[RareHunter]

Yeah I think that’s true. Like someone said dudes think if you do or have what society or the media tells you need to attract a woman then she should be attracted by o you which is often not the case.

further as women generally like when money is spent on them, many dudes see interactions with woman as transactional since they don’t see women as human beings with agency but as glorified sex dolls

to the last part, nah I wasn’t like that I just didn’t get play/female attention when I was younger for a myriad of reason

Again, y’all are conflating sex with relationships. Yes, you need to work for a relationship. Sex isn’t the end goal of a relationship. Sex is the objective of being FWB, being FWB is not about the things you’d do with or for someone you’re being serious with, it’s about coming over, smashing, and keeping it movin

Your mind is conflated. No man worthwhile with common sense is gonna work harder to be in a relationship with you, knowing u give up p*ssy to a dude u so called don’t like, unless he’s green or over 38. It makes no sense to work for a relationship in today’s time, less u find a women that doesn’t operate like u, out the gate (no offense). In reality a women can cheerlead for u and motivate u, but if you’re capable u can do way more than she can for u.

 

[the bossman]

No one likes knowing they put in more effort or put up with more shyt than others to possibly get worse - especially if the relationship didn't work out.

I wouldn't know because I wouldn't be asking some insecure shyt like "hey how much “effort"did the last guy you were with put in? And I wouldn't care either

Can you imagine you knee deep in some guts and instead of enjoying this broad in the moment, the only thing you wondering is how long it took compared to another guy in the past?

This broad invite you to her spot to cook you a meal but only thing in the back of your mind is "I aint gonna enjoy this unless I know for a fact it didn't take more days to get here than the last guy she was with"

Got this bad ass broad kickin it with you and the only thing you can do instead of enjoying the moment is think about her with other nikkas. You don't see how insecure that is?

 

[KidJSoul]

I wouldn't know because I wouldn't be asking some insecure shyt like "hey how much “effort"did the last guy you were with put in? And I wouldn't care either

Can you imagine you knee deep in some guts and instead of enjoying this broad in the moment, the only thing you wondering is how long it took compared to another guy in the past?

This broad invite you to her spot to cook you a meal but only thing in the back of your mind is "I aint gonna enjoy this unless I know for a fact it didn't take more days to get here than the last guy she was with"

Got this bad ass broad kickin it with you and the only thing you can do instead of enjoying the moment is think about her with other nikkas. You don't see how insecure that is?

Stop Being obtuse with the fantasies like that. It's not difficult to understand. Just be observant.

 

[the bossman]

Stop Being obtuse with the fantasies like that. It's not difficult to understand. Just be observant.

Observe what exactly breh? Only thing I'm observing is how she responding to me and how she treating me. What else should I be observing?

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Your mind is conflated. No man worthwhile with common sense is gonna work harder to be in a relationship with you, knowing u give up p*ssy to a dude u so called don’t like, unless he’s green or over 38. It makes no sense to work for a relationship in today’s time, less u find a women that doesn’t operate like u, out the gate (no offense). In reality a women can cheerlead for u and motivate u, but if you’re capable u can do way more than she can for u.

LMAO...if the end goal isn't sex, they absolutely will work harder as will I. You've never had a relationship and wanna keep speaking on what people pursuing/in relationships do. You should sit this one out. as for the bolded, unless you're referring solely to physical/athletic feats, this is very wrong.

edit: @the bossman summed it up perfectly, only insecure people are gonna care about what, when and how you did something else with someone else. you should be focused on what the two of you are building and what the person you're dating does for you/adds to your life. are you happy with him/her? do they treat you respectfully? do yall have a connection? do you want the same things in life? that's all that matters.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Some of y'all got this weird ass obsession with what a broad has done with other dudes before you.

So long as she treating YOU the way YOU like why do you care what happened before you with another nikka?

you need to be clear with context. If you are talking personal time sure maybe, but if chick did porn, stripped, etc. then you on your own

 

[1LurkerChick9]

I feel like this is a early 20s things.

Surely grown men aren’t texting all the time vs calling and refusing dates…right?

These threads always make me more appreciative of my SO