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the bossman said:
Some of y'all got this weird ass obsession with what a broad has done with other dudes before you.

So long as she treating YOU the way YOU like why do you care what happened before you with another nikka?
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This is naive breh . Past actions dictate future actions. Most people have trauma and issues that present themself early if you pay attention.

if you looking for something serious at least
 
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the bossman said:
Some of y'all got this weird ass obsession with what a broad has done with other dudes before you.

So long as she treating YOU the way YOU like why do you care what happened before you with another nikka?
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dora_da_destroyer said:
LMAO...if the end goal isn't sex, they absolutely will work harder as will I. You've never had a relationship and wanna keep speaking on what people pursuing/in relationships do. You should sit this one out. as for the bolded, unless you're referring solely to physical/athletic feats, this is very wrong.

edit: @the bossman summed it up perfectly, only insecure people are gonna care about what, when and how you did something else with someone else. you should be focused on what the two of you are building and what the person you're dating does for you/adds to your life. are you happy with him/her? do they treat you respectfully? do yall have a connection? do you want the same things in life? that's all that matters.
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I have had relationships, I just can’t understand your logic. Are u married? How old are u? How many “relationships “ do you plan to have?

Also insecure? Lol. There’s a reason this keeps coming up. The proof is in the society, no need for me to continue this “debate”.
 
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BigMan said:
Most people have trauma and issues that present themself early if you pay attention.

if you looking for something serious at least
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This is part of how is she treating you. If she has traumatic issues like you said the shyt will come out on its own with the way she interacts with you as long as you're paying attention like you said. You can then decide if you willing to deal with it or bounce. What is naive in that?
 
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Sex Luthor said:
Ask a woman out for a coffee date for the first date and see how fast they curve you. My thing is if she won't hangout with me on a coffee date, they aren't really into me. Only what I can do for them.

It's crazy how women ruin the dating process but then blame men. Men can't cold approach, have a simple first date, can't be working on himself or have any issues. While they sleep on a pallet on the floor, no job but always going out, dating for meals and have to be picked up bc they don't have a car. Can't make this up breh
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Seen this a few times. It's always the extra ones too. smh.

Broke bourgeois.
 
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RareHunter said:
I have had relationships, I just can’t understand your logic. Are u married? How old are u? How many “relationships “ do you plan to have?
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what isn't to understand? you meet someone, hang out a few times or have a few convos and assess them: do you like them? are they someone you can see yourself pursuing a serious relationship with? are they someone you're physically attracted to but not interested in being with for whatever reason? if this third is true, you then ask yourself, well could you have a physical relationship with them? if so, you may go the FWB route - single people need to get laid too. my FWB have been that only, i don't spend time on the phone with them, i'm not trying to bond or connect or become emotionally intimate, i'm not doing things for them nor expecting things from them. i want to link up, have sex, and leave/send them home.


if they are someone you're interested in the possibility of having a real relationship with - you put in effort to get to know them, plan dates, spend time, talk, open up emotionally, share, show affection, you show interest in supporting them or getting to know other aspects of their lives, meet friends, family, etc. i'm not seeing how you can't see the difference in the effort you put into someone you're seriously pursuing vs someone you just have a sexual relationship with.

i'm happily partnered
 
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the bossman said:
This is part of how is she treating you. If she has traumatic issues like you said the shyt will come out on its own with the way she interacts with you as long as you're paying attention like you said. You can then decide if you willing to deal with it or bounce. What is naive in that?
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It doesn’t matter. The fact is you have to make them guilty till otherwise bro. I’ve had girls with boyfriend lately at all my places of work within the last 2 yrs slide thru. I’m sure they treat their boyfriend nice and never talked bad about them. This ain’t 1950. The marriage rates and single family homes are increasing for a reason. A women can treat me nice and have fixed 100 guys in the past, but am I gonna put real effort? U can’t have chivalry and be modern at the same time.
 
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dora_da_destroyer said:
what isn't to understand? you meet someone, hang out a few times or have a few convos and assess them: do you like them? are they someone you can see yourself pursuing a serious relationship with? are they someone you're physically attracted to but not interested in being with for whatever reason? if this third is true, you then ask yourself, well could you have a physical relationship with them? if so, you may go the FWB route - single people need to get laid too. my FWB have been that only, i don't spend time on the phone with them, i'm not trying to bond or connect or become emotionally intimate, i'm not doing things for them nor expecting things from them. i want to link up, have sex, and leave/send them home.


if they are someone you're interested in the possibility of having a real relationship with - you put in effort to get to know them, plan dates, spend time, talk, open up emotionally, share, show affection, you show interest in supporting them or getting to know other aspects of their lives, meet friends, family, etc. i'm not seeing how you can't see the difference in the effort you put into someone you're seriously pursuing vs someone you just have a sexual relationship with.

i'm happily partnered
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So technically single. Nuff said.
 
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It doesn’t matter. The fact is you have to make them guilty till otherwise bro. I’ve had girls with boyfriend lately at all my places of work within the last 2 yrs slide thru. I’m sure they treat their boyfriend nice and never talked bad about them. This ain’t 1950. The marriage rates and single family homes are increasing for a reason. A women can treat me nice and have fixed 100 guys in the past, but am I gonna put real effort? U can’t have chivalry and be modern at the same time. That’s the argument of this thread. When women ask men out and pay for dates in mass (not really attractive), then sure, it would be “equal”.
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Slow down breh. you jumping all over the place with your points from broads who cheat to marriage rates to gender equality. What are you getting at in general?
 
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The M.I.C. said:
Stop it.

I’m tired of the intellectual dishonesty on this forum in regards to the modern dating dynamics going on.

You cappin’ motherfukkers know exactly what the issues are.
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like dudes complaining bout not getting matches on tinder
when its userbase is 78 percent male :dead:

or how about thousand of simps on IG..
 
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