"No flowers, no planned dates, just “wyd” texts & 50/50"

[Action Mike]

What's the incentive for a man today to "date" every woman he's interested in instead of come over and smash?

This is what women arguing about this don't understand, or even care to try to.

Dating pools are a mess and men are just making logical defensive decisions with what we're presented with.

 

[Apollo Creed]

What's the incentive for a man today to "date" every woman he's interested in instead of come over and smash?

This is what women arguing about this don't understand, or even care to try to.

Dating pools are a mess and men are just making logical defensive decisions.

any man going on a date with someone he isn't sleeping with in 2021 is an idiot.

If you want to go out to eat with a woman take your mom, sister, daughter.


aint no grown ass man looking for new friends

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

To me it rarely works.. most women I've dealt with who said they are cool with that end up getting jealous when i am talkin to someone else or start tracking my moves, where I'm at, who I'm with.. etc..

It can cause as many headaches as an actual relationship..

Far as the "how would a man know i got a side dude" it always comes out one way or another, sometimes it be your own friends who tell on you, sometimes the way you answer a question..

It's not about sex. It's about whether a man feels you are the type of person he wants to take seriously. As I said, people will tell on themselves one way or another.

not even sure what the first half of this is on...there are many women who fall into a FWB situation that they don't want to be in, those are the ones who end up catching feelings or being jealous...that's a whole other topic


please don't use the term side dude, because, to me, that denotes someone you're seeing/cheating with when you're in a relationship or married - i do not condone cheating. a cut buddy, jumpoff, FWB, whatever you want to call it is someone you just have a sexual relationship with, for me, they came into play in times when i was single


lastly, there is nothing to tell on, until there is a mutually agreed upon commitment between two people, there's nothing wrong with talking to/dating or fukking someone else. when yall get to the point where you want to be exclusive, both people should (hopefully) stop seeing those other people. and from my experience, oftentimes those other connections have already been deaded prior to becoming official since we've established we like each other and are spending more time together

 

[Jone2three45]

Men, protect your time and assets.

Don’t be so quick to wine and dine, vet everything out.

Most men will always get it for free.

Team fwb/ side dude is an army, better yet the navy.

 

[Jone2three45]

any man going on a date with someone he isn't sleeping with in 2021 is an idiot.

If you want to go out to eat with a woman take your mom, sister, daughter.


aint no grown ass man looking for new friends

 

[Apollo Creed]

LOL if a chick was a porn star shyt would probably be all over the internet. You'd find out quick one way or another.

I'm talking specifically to this mentality of worrying about what she did with the last nikka.

Yall really out here Google searching or asking these broads how many days was it before you cooked for the last nikka you dealt with? How many days did it take for you to fukk the last nikka you was with?

If we already fukking or if she's cooking for you and you're happy with the situation why would you care? How does that change yalls dynamic? Yall worrying about shyt that is irrelevant

i`m not yall. You're a grown man, be right and exact with the words you use.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Men, protect your time and assets.

Don’t be so quick to wine and dine, vet everything out.

Most men will always get it for free.

Team fwb/ side dude is an army, better yet the navy.

chick go to work and got direct deposit the same way you do. it's 2021, all that 'a man is supposed to' stuff is dead in the dating world. The same way a man cant tell a woman what to do, a woman cant tell a man what to do either. So there is really nothing to debate. Any man doing something he doesn't want to do is an idiot or still a boy and lacks the wisdom of manhood.

 

[RareHunter]

bruh is the typical dysfunctional, avoidant, pessimist with no positive experiences of love & committed relationships.

smh...you're doing the same thing, looking at it through a prism of sex.

no, no one who just wants to smash is going to want to do the extras when the other person who simply wanted to smash was able to do nothing and get it...no shyt.


someone who is trying to build a relationship with you is not focused on just sex, sex does not a relationship make and it doesn't sustain a relationship, a real connection does, so if the point is to build a real connection, you both do the work to establish that. and it doesn't require money to get to know someone


lastly, yall have no clue what someone else did/does with other people. i've never had a first date in a park and asked if they took the previous person they went on a first date with to a $100 dinner - i don't care, that does not effect what the two of us are doing how would you even know a woman had sex with a man after mcdonald's while you're getting no sex after Ruth Chris? this is what you're thinking of when planning or on a date?

In the Bible, if I read it correctly sex/leniage was the only reason to get married. It actually said it was better for a man to be alone if they could help it. Relationships are a newer feminine concept. I come from a different background. Connections don’t work on average, and only last so long. I’m guessing it doesn’t matter if you’re in relationship after relationship. I get what you’re saying, but the debate is assuming the man knows you have a fwb . Obviously irl no ones gonna go thru the trouble that’s why one breh said he wish women had signs on their head, however because alotta brehs are noticing a pattern, it’s becoming a “chicken wings and fries we don’t go on dates culture”.

 

[Action Mike]

someone who is trying to build a relationship with you is not focused on just sex, sex does not a relationship make and it doesn't sustain a relationship, a real connection does, so if the point is to build a real connection, you both do the work to establish that.

Sex does sustain a relationship, especially for men.

This is one point of many from a female view point that has you typing paragraphs and confused.

 

[Apollo Creed]

In the Bible, if I read it correctly sex/leniage was the only reason to get married. It actually said it was better for a man to be alone if they could help it. Relationships are a newer feminine concept. I come from a different background. Connections don’t work on average, and only last so long. I’m guessing it doesn’t matter if you’re in relationship after relationship. I get what you’re saying, but the debate is assuming the man knows you have a fwb . Obviously irl no ones gonna go thru the trouble that’s why one breh said he wish women had signs on their head, however because alotta brehs are noticing a pattern, it’s becoming a “chicken wings and fries we don’t go on dates culture”.

them getting wings is a blessing in itself. IF you really rock with someone all you should be seeking is conversation and time with them. you can have that on the front porch of your house, at the mark, in a car, etc. Anything else babble.

 

[dora_da_destroyer]

Sex does sustain a relationship, especially for men.

no, it doesn't. i know plenty of couples, including my bro and his BM, and me and my ex, who had a great sexual relationship while a whole bunch of other shyt was broken. sex is not the thing that makes you stay with someone for years/a lifetime. sex is, however, an important part of a relationship and can contribute to things falling apart if one person stops wanting to engage in sex, but a relationship is much more than sex, and good sex aint gonna rescue a struggling relationship.

 

[Action Mike]

lastly, there is nothing to tell on, until there is a mutually agreed upon commitment between two people, there's nothing wrong with talking to/dating or fukking someone else.

Get your wallets out fellas, this sounds like a good deal for your time and resources

 

[Action Mike]

no, it doesn't. i know plenty of couples, including my bro and his BM, and me and my ex, who had a great sexual relationship while a whole bunch of other shyt was broken. sex is not the thing that makes you stay with someone for years/a lifetime. sex is, however, an important part of a relationship and can contribute to things falling apart if one person stops wanting to engage in sex, but a relationship is much more than sex, and good sex aint gonna rescue a struggling relationship.

I didnt say it was the only thing.

Can a relationship from a man's point of view survive without sex? No, hence sustain.

 

[The Fade]

It’s hot girl summer

Go spend the plugs money, not mines

 

[Apollo Creed]

Get your wallets out fellas, this sounds like a good deal for your time and resources

and they wonder why the STD numbers look how they do