NOBODY wants to HANG OUT Anymore... Here's Why( 12 minute doc)

[Wildin]

I'm not looking for one where I'm burning myself out and putting in more effort than the other person.

And on the opposite side of the coin, you have those people that are willing to put in the effort, but the other person says "fukk it, block".

Like the video says communication and social skills have taken a hit. Someone can really be willing to step up and have that conversation or put in work and because of the current state of relationships and the game...that other person may just cut it off because it's awkward, especially if they don't have the social skills or communication skills to process and proceed. They feel like they don't have time so deal with the bullshyt when they can "be happy by myself" or meet someone new quickly.

 

[O.Red]

There seems to be two segments of people
People who have limited friend groups and don't go anywhere
And people who are in the mix and packing all the restaurants, clubs, and lounges every weekend
Sometimes I feel like all the doom and gloom reports of Americans turning into Hikikomori is overblown and the result of an echo chamber of people online
GO OUTSIDE. There are tons of people hanging out together. I did it last night, it's not a myth

There are tons of people still hanging out yesterday, but there are tons of people holing up inside too. It's not overblown, it's a natural response to the state of affairs

 

[Pazzy]

If nobody wants to hang out with me, thats fine. its not going to stop me from going to the movies, the beach, the park, and do whatever activity i want to do that i can do by and with myself anyway. My life doesnt stop because you dont want to be in. dont be mad at me when i go to such and such place or doing such and such thing etc that you also were interested in going to because you didnt want to hang out with me. I too have a problem opening up but at least i know what i need to do and what my problem is. Motherfukkers be having big egos for no fukking reason, think mismanaging their insecurities is helping them when its only creating bigger and more problems for themselves. But folks dont want to listen though. They know everything even what they dont know.

 

[ba'al]

And on the opposite side of the coin, you have those people that are willing to put in the effort, but the other person says "fukk it, block".

Like the video says communication and social skills have taken a hit. Someone can really be willing to step up and have that conversation or put in work and because of the current state of relationships and the game...that other person may just cut it off because it's awkward, especially if they don't have the social skills or communication skills to process and proceed. They feel like they don't have time so deal with the bullshyt when they can "be happy by myself" or meet someone new quickly.

How much effort is too much? How long do you have to put up with someone before cutting them off?

For me if I spent years dealing with you, spent money on you, sacrificed my free time and even work time on a few occasions and you show your ass to me you are getting cut off. If that makes me not sociable so, be it. Can't shame me into being the "good friend" that always have to babysit and do the heavy lifting. The person not trying is never villainized it's always the person trying to keep shyt afloat.

And off behavioral pattern recognition you can start to save time when you see certain character flaws in people. If I'm out with a cat and we just met, and he like to get pissy drunk and spazz out on people I don't need to invest hours and years into that mfer. Life is short as it is

Also, I think some people have shytty family members who they know are shytty people and like to unload that person onto their "friends".

 

[BrentWoodSean38]

People only give you the time of day if they can benefit from you, at least with my experience. All relationships are conditional. Friend I gifted $50 to got into the habit of asking me for loans. When I ignored him but recently sent IG follow request he ignored it. He would have accepted it by now if I loaned him money .

With girls if you can’t give them the money, or a ride somewhere, you better have something unique or else you are worthless to them. People will be consistent for a long time, then Bam, they will turn on you on some petty shyt my own family did it to me several times. Best to just be on your own these days fukk having a friend. If you not my existing friend, a potential bytch or my actual bytch

 

[Monoblock]

Social media/technology as a whole has ruined natural human interaction.

 

[the cac mamba]

. This chick I was talking to literally blocked me on all socials over a back and forth over the Diddy trial

why, what was your position on the issue

 

[DaddyFresh]

It's tiring unless you a pup. I went on a date last night that went great. But damn I was like this shyt be too time consuming lmao. I've realized prioritizing making the most of my time. Working out, healthy home cooked meals , quality sleep etc. it's hard to prioritize all those things and work and still have hella time to hang out and communicate with ppl

 

[ba'al]

People only give you the time of day if they can benefit from you, at least with my experience. All relationships are conditional. Friend I gifted $50 to got into the habit of asking me for loans. When I ignored him but recently sent IG follow request he ignored it. He would have accepted it by now if I loaned him money .

With girls if you can’t give them the money, or a ride somewhere, you better have something unique or else you are worthless to them. People will be consistent for a long time, then Bam, they will turn on you on some petty shyt my own family did it to me several times. Best to just be on your own these days fukk having a friend. If you not my existing friend, a potential bytch or my actual bytch

I won't say all but a lot of people. Mfers go keep asking for "loans" until you say NO nikka!.

Then when you say no everyone and they momma think you're the bad guy. Not the nikka with his hand out. Dude will be in some new shoes and still not paid you back.

N-O. I love you but N-O NO!

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Another thing is People are so eager and quick to cut you off just off a disagreement alone. This chick I was talking too literally blocked me on all socials over a back and forth over the Diddy trial

Like people really live vicariously through these weirdos

“I got the ick”

How you just met this person for 6 min

 

[MikelArteta]

Low key outside of church , the coli and work I think I talk to one person I did like 5 years ago

People come and go

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Social media and Covid ruined social interactions. I’ve noticed that people are a lot more grimy/less trustworthy, on edge/aggressive towards strangers compared to 10 years ago.

Strangers became friends overnight
No background checks


People weren’t afraid at all

 

[BrentWoodSean38]

I won't say all but a lot of people. Mfers go keep asking for "loans" until you say NO nikka!.

Then when you say no everyone and they momma think you're the bad guy. Not the nikka with his hand out. Dude will be in some new shoes and still not paid you back.

N-O. I love you but N-O NO!

Exactly. People will buy weed and jacks and not care about paying you back. I know someone doing that right now

 

[O.G.B]

Man, my own brother threaten to beat my ass and he stop talking to me for 8 months because I told this nikka to clean up after his dog (cuz there was dog turd all over the hallway) when I was over his crib.

I wanted to make a thread about it but it was too personal for me.

Don't know you or your brother, but I can understand him getting upset, even if you were right in context because you should never tell another man what he should/shouldn't do in his own home. However, if he does the same to you as well, then it shouldn’t have been an issue, & there’s probably something else going on that made him turn his anger towards you.

 

[Shadow King]

Technology is separating those who like being around people from those who was forced to in the past.

This.

There seems to be two segments of people
People who have limited friend groups and don't go anywhere
And people who are in the mix and packing all the restaurants, clubs, and lounges every weekend
Sometimes I feel like all the doom and gloom reports of Americans turning into Hikikomori is overblown and the result of an echo chamber of people online
GO OUTSIDE. There are tons of people hanging out together. I did it last night, it's not a myth

And yet I see people outside at gatherings and events all the time on social media so someone is lying.

@Ski Mask somewhat answered this. This is a country of 350M people with most of it being concentrated metro areas. We will always be able to have/find gatherings of people if you look for them.

The thing is how often are the same people going out, and young people are going out less than previous generations.

It's all about the angst of the generation in the "Pair Up and Make a Family" age bracket not participating in the traditional social contract at the desired rate.