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Are you happy with what you do tho, do you feel like you could be more happier?
Observations from a "Successful" Black Male
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I matured a lot after starting college. When most people ask me to go out or do random stuff I usually say no think about and change my mind if necessary. People get all happy and emotional when "friends?" ask what you doing tonight.
The Prince of All Saiyans
Formerly Jisoo Stan & @Twitter
I thI agree with a lot of that list breh, especially the friend part. I'm graduating next year with a degree in finance and I got some homeboys that I been cool with since middle school but all they wanna do is turn up EVERYDAY. I be trying not to come off like I`m speaking down on them cause we all got our faults but damn its starting to get to late in life for all this play and no work. I can`t drop dese dudes cuz they been wit me for a long time, maybe I just need to motivate em so we all can
Life is good. I got an engineering degree from a top school, I make good money, and am on the verge of making even more. Here are the observations of a young nikka that made it. Mr. Hate Coffee is by no means an expert on life, take it for what you will.
Observations from a "Successful" Black Male
-It's going to be hard to keep the same friends. People will resent you for life decisions they made. Be a stand up guy no matter what tho.
-Even women that make more than you will expect you to pay for the dates.
-No matter how well you're doing, the harsh reality that your high school friends and your immediate family ARE NOT doing well keeps you from being completely free.
-Women want a man with a good job and career, but get mad at you when you're heavily involved with said career and don't have a lot of free time.
-Meeting other young blacks who have money and ambitions changed my whole life. If anyone is stuck in a rut, I suggest you change your friendship circle. It can open your mind.
-Money isn't everything. I had the most stress in my life when I made my most money.
-Nothing turns you intofaster than working a desk job.
-White people have different rules when it comes to snitching. Don't tell em shyt. I've seen guys at work stab each other in the back repeatedly and go out for beers and play golf afterwards. I still don't understand this.
-Getting a new job/promotion/degree isn't really going to make you happy. Especially if you're not passionate about your work.
-Owning a house was overrated. Way more upkeep and headaches than I realized. If I could do it again, I'd cop a cheap place to live in and then rent out.
-Our generation is royally getting screwed. All that "Follow Your Dreams" stuff we grew up on has fukked a lot of 20 somethings up. And they're bitter about it.
-Don't assume that someone at work is cool cuz they're black. It's an amazing amount of Toms in the work world.
-Never talk politics or religion with coworkers. Even outside of work.
-You can go back to the hood, but don't get caught up in hood drama.
-Success is relative. There will always be someone younger with more accolades to make you feel like you could do better.
-People from your past will come to you for money. Dont' feel bad saying NO. Just cuz I got bread and no kids doesn't mean I don't have my own problems.
-Journey > the destination. College was harder and I was broke but it was more fulfilling.
-Most women I went to school with were high achievers and very driven. But once they got into the corporate world they realized that having a job is boring and secretly wish someone with more money would come and make them a housewife.
-Generation Y females tend to be ridiculously entitled and will hop from job to job until they find one that makes them feel all warm and fuzzy inside. The truth is, this job doesn't exist for most of us. So they resign to the point above.
-Adults are the most delusional people in this world. The older I get, the harder it is to be honest with folks. You have to manage people's twisted perception of themselves. It keeps the riff raff down.
-Young blacks are some of the most creative people in the world yet incredibility limited at the same time.
-Everybody settles. EVERYBODY. Whether it be on a job or a mate. We all settle. At least I'm honest with myself.
-Chicks be using the shyt out of me. Luckily I see it coming. I get asked to be someone's date to a wedding every other month. So demonic.
-Whenever someone asks what you're doing at a specific time or date, ALWAYS tell them you're doing something important. More often than not they want a favor.
This post reminds me of my dad
Plus try not to make friends at work
The Prince of All Saiyans
Formerly Jisoo Stan & @Twitter
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The thing to always remember is that success is relative
If you're measuring it by ' making it' in the corporate world then with my background I've learnt that you simply have to wear the required mask to do so. It's not that hard but you have to be careful not to lose your real self along the way.
I've been around real influential people and to be honest they're nowhere near as intelligent, resourceful or happy as nikkaz I knew from the hood growing up.You definitely make some points I can relate to though strangely I wouldn't class myself as successful.
My opinion on perceived success can be summed up by this cartoon:
If you're measuring it by ' making it' in the corporate world then with my background I've learnt that you simply have to wear the required mask to do so. It's not that hard but you have to be careful not to lose your real self along the way.
I've been around real influential people and to be honest they're nowhere near as intelligent, resourceful or happy as nikkaz I knew from the hood growing up.You definitely make some points I can relate to though strangely I wouldn't class myself as successful.
My opinion on perceived success can be summed up by this cartoon:
There's actually 4 of us on this board. All IE's . @iamstr8fire
hilarious....
But cosign this thread. I agree with most of the thoughts.
- I do love owning my own home
- rental property sucks with horrible tenants. If you gonna rent a place out, make sure it's in a desirable location (not the hood). Hood tenants are the fukkin worse.
When you have better places in better neighborhoods to rent, people tend to want to take care of your shyt more- having a good mate is rediculously important, esp in this day and age. 2 career oriented people gotta be on the same page. I travel 80 percent of the time so my ole lady is pretty much a single mom during the week. Thankfully she has a job where she works at home the vast majority of the time and when she does have to travel, her retired mom can come up and help.
- I haven't run into any real c00ns during my career as crazy as that sounds. But at the same time, there aren't many of "us" in senior positions regardless. The ones I've come across are cool and real as fukk thankfully.
- the whole "I know you got it" shyt REALLY pisses me off when it comes to nikkaz.
- you gotta broaden your horizons and open yourself up because you are going to be dealing with white people. They can be interesting, but watch dem mufukkaz when they say slick shyt and check em.
Mr Hate Coffee
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I actually love my job but I've grown tired of the location. I"m also tired of being an executor and want to go into strategy. So I'm bout to go to business school. I got accepted to Duke, Cornell, and Northwestern. Still trying to pick one.
I'm 30 now but I was 28 when I typed all of this. I was going thru some old notes and figured I'd share. My views haven't changed a bit tho.
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I like what I do at my desk but trying to avoid this one.Good points though breh.
Fellow yellow jacket. What kind of engineering did you major in?
Mr Hate Coffee
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Good points though breh.
IE. There are 4 others on this board alone from GT. Scroll up and see.
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Re*p*spect breh. Like these types of post.
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thats nice man, you got any advice on how to make it in life if you have no money?
ribs is touching