Older brehs why don't you believe younger brehs when it comes to dating?

[RickyDiBiase]

A person can start a thread like: "So I'd like some advice with women. I've been in the gym, getting in shape and putting myself out there, but it's been difficult trying to date. *explains plight*

And within the first 10 posts someone will say "You gotta put yourself out there. Get in the gym. Get in shape."

Here's a easier answer for young brehs:

Be fun to be around. Be a listener and then becoming a talker.

You're not going to hit a home run every time you go up to bat, but you can get on 1st, maybe 2nd base. So why not stay at it.

 

[Shadow]

And a lot of generic advice works, but people don't want to listen. Just like when you try to tell a fat person to count calories to lose weight, but it's too much work and they want that quick fix they heard about. "It's too simple, no way it can work! My thyroid and sugar n shyt!"

It's like, ok fine. Keep doing what you've been doing and get the same results.

It doesn't work for everyone because there's not a one size fits all answer for everything. There are people who have problems that prevent them from losing weight at same pace. There are people who have illnesses and injuries. There are people who have hormonal issues.

You'll see a breh who's skinny-fat and technically under the bmi for his height, but he has man breasts. Another breh might be technically in shape, but he has a gut due to a liver issue. Another breh might have been an athlete in school but he had injury, now he can't work out as often because his knees are messed up and he binge eats.

People carry their weight differently too. You can't just tell all of those brehs to count calories to lose weight and expect it to just work out. Because they all honestly need to visit the doctor beyond the healthy eating and working out to get them on track. Beyond that depression in black men is completely overlooked, dudes be going through it out here.

 

[Ahadi]

It all comes to maximizing yourself. It’s definitely gotten easier once I approach my early 30s.

Location matters. I’m from NYC (you get an amalgamation of women temperaments) but as I relocated to the south, women for the most part are extremely friendly.

It sucks, but youngER brehs, gotta hold out, stack and much paper, get your career / job situation straight & STAY ON TOP OF THE GYM and you’ll have leverage.

 

[Givethanks]

Dating is never easy; the biggest difference is today everyone is on social media but not social.

When I was a kid, I felt the same way as these young guys today but we had to go up to girls who were more or less scared than we were.

The fear of rejection is real; and you're gonna get rejected here and there that's life. The biggest issue is we failed this generation by putting them on game and just stunnin.

 

[SheWantTheD]

 

[semicko82]

To be honest a lot of younger people ( late teens to early 20s) think they know everything about life, so they're not trying to listen to some old head.

I was like that in my 20s. I thought I knew everything, but couldn't even scratch the surface

 

[badboys11]

Getting older over noticed something disturbing with my peers

Time capsules. Time bubble. Whatever the term it isn't important


What is important is for a lot of 40+yr olds, the world will always be 1996. From the music they listen to, the clothes they wear, and even sports opinions. It's 1996, everything that happened afterwards never happened, and any advice they give will work in 1996, not 2025

Some people are stuck in 2004. 2006 and 08 are also popular, 50 yrs old with grandkids bumping lil Wayne and dipset everywhere

They are out of touch and refuse to acknowledge reality, the world has passed them by and evolved.

Not everybody, but u see it on the threads here. Person been in a relationship for the past 5-10+ yrs trying to give dating advice. Things have changed quickly in the past couple of years, if your not out here hanging out in different cities over the weekend then respectfully shut the fukk up and go cut your grass.

These young fellas are living in a different world with different rules, a lot of advice I seen given would lead to police being called.


It's not 1999 anymore

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

I think we should start from the basics;

Are younger brehs out socializing?
Do younger brehs approach women?

 

[badboys11]

I have no advice to add but as an older gentleman, these younger girls are genuinely nice out here. Like I can go to events in Charlotte and sone younger chick will stroke up a conversation with me or something will happen where we end up talking for sone reason. I remember taking pictures at a protest, and two younger college aged girls came up to me and asked me to take pictures of them doing their thing and they would cash app me. They actually did it too. I’d like to know why it’s harder to date out here. Somebody please explain.

Look at this


Two women out and about see an older gentleman they can let their guard down around cause he's to old to pursue them. They pose for pictures to post on social media and thank the older gentleman for helping them

A woman in Charlotte sees an older gentleman and feels safe asking questions, unc won't hurt her in public

This turns into fuel to berate the youngsters.

Old man I hate to tell you this, but those same women will pull out their phones and look at a wall before they speak to someone in their age bracket in a big city as they walk down the street


Not to mention the girls u see out and about have usually gotten fukked in the morning and they getting fukked by a different guy at night. This is not 2005, bytches out here fukking before going out on dates so they won't get horny and wanna sleep with the night guy on the first date.

I would also asj, look how many older guys say, just get out and talk to people. Talking and finding somebody who doesn't have an only fans with a roster of perverted weirdos masturbating to her pictures at night are two diffwerent issues. I understand some men don't care about open relationships, but if your looking for more than casual sex in today's dating world good luck cause the prospects ain't good.

"Just go to the job and ask if they are hiring" does not work in today's world.

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

ask him what type his mama was...

 

[Tribal Outkast]

Look at this


Two women out and about see an older gentleman they can let their guard down around cause he's to old to pursue them. They pose for pictures to post on social media and thank the older gentleman for helping them

A woman in Charlotte sees an older gentleman and feels safe asking questions, unc won't hurt her in public

This turns into fuel to berate the youngsters.

Old man I hate to tell you this, but those same women will pull out their phones and look at a wall before they speak to someone in their age bracket in a big city as they walk down the street


Not to mention the girls u see out and about have usually gotten fukked in the morning and they getting fukked by a different guy at night. This is not 2005, bytches out here fukking before going out on dates so they won't get horny and wanna sleep with the night guy on the first date.

I would also asj, look how many older guys say, just get out and talk to people. Talking and finding somebody who doesn't have an only fans with a roster of perverted weirdos masturbating to her pictures at night are two diffwerent issues. I understand some men don't care about open relationships, but if your looking for more than casual sex in today's dating world good luck cause the prospects ain't good.

"Just go to the job and ask if they are hiring" does not work in today's world.

You acting like I said I’m 80 years old or some shyt I’m married so I ain’t talking to nobody else now. I’m saying in Charlotte, women will literally start conversations with you. I’m not even talking on some trying to get your number shyt. I mean have a conversation.. you know what that leads to usually??? Exchanging information.

Let me say this.

There are women outside
Go talk to them
That is all

 

[Mandarin Duck]

You acting like I said I’m 80 years old or some shyt I’m married so I ain’t talking to nobody else now. I’m saying in Charlotte, women will literally start conversations with you. I’m not even talking on some trying to get your number shyt. I mean have a conversation.. you know what that leads to usually??? Exchanging information.

Let me say this.

There are women outside
Go talk to them
That is all

That's rare male or female nowadays, and that's a part of the problem.

People don't even initiate general conversations with strangers of the same sex anymore let alone the opposite sex.

 

[badboys11]

You acting like I said I’m 80 years old or some shyt I’m married so I ain’t talking to nobody else now. I’m saying in Charlotte, women will literally start conversations with you. I’m not even talking on some trying to get your number shyt. I mean have a conversation.. you know what that leads to usually??? Exchanging information.

Let me say this.

There are women outside
Go talk to them
That is all

You're not understanding


Are u over 40?

Your old to the young generation, an elder. Someone girls will seek out in crowded areas if you're clean because they feel safe


Not to mention, Charlotte is the banking capital of the South. Place is flooded with female bankers. I've seen all female batte rap cyphers take place right next to the hornets arena, that big shopping area 2 am in the morning. That's a unique situation. Most cities have way more men than women walking around

Young kids tell ya hanging outside and talking to randoms doesn't get u anywhere, mean while married men in they 40s refuse to believe the world has changed.

 

[MuzzyP]

It doesn't work for everyone because there's not a one size fits all answer for everything. There are people who have problems that prevent them from losing weight at same pace. There are people who have illnesses and injuries. There are people who have hormonal issues.

You'll see a breh who's skinny-fat and technically under the bmi for his height, but he has man breasts. Another breh might be technically in shape, but he has a gut due to a liver issue. Another breh might have been an athlete in school but he had injury, now he can't work out as often because his knees are messed up and he binge eats.

People carry their weight differently too. You can't just tell all of those brehs to count calories to lose weight and expect it to just work out. Because they all honestly need to visit the doctor beyond the healthy eating and working out to get them on track. Beyond that depression in black men is completely overlooked, dudes be going through it out here.

Sure, outliers always exist. General advice is that way because it covers the largest amount of people. For those with special circumstances, they will need a more specialized approach. On that I agree. However, there is overlap, and many basic things still apply.

 

[The ADD]

Question for the younger brehs dealing with this. Knowing that older breha are disconnected from current day circumstances. Do you prefer we not comment on related threads?