Older brehs why don't you believe younger brehs when it comes to dating?

[Scaaar]

Yeah but what is “stuff”? I think that some of their pushback, “stuff” a broad term. What hobbies do young people even have that are “outside”?

"Stuff" is whatever hobbies or goals you're interested in doing or pursuing. It can be book clubs, chess clubs, gym, hiking, run clubs, art shows, sports, etc. whatever you enjoy doing or want to try doing. It's spring/summer time and perfect to be outside and interact with people with similar interests instead of being on a dating app hoping to match with someone thats similar

 

[Tribal Outkast]

They don’t see you as a threat anymore unc

What are you saying? Please expound.

 

[The ADD]

"Stuff" is whatever hobbies or goals you're interested in doing or pursuing. It can be book clubs, chess clubs, gym, hiking, run clubs, art shows, sports, etc. whatever you enjoy doing or want to try doing. It's spring/summer time and perfect to be outside and interact with people with similar interests instead of being on a dating app hoping to match with someone thats similar

But let’s call it fair. If people aren’t interested in those things then telling to just do them isn’t terribly helpful. Gym, hiking and even sports aren’t likely to be high volume in targets.

I get what you are saying but that advice isn’t always a finger snap to the issue. I can see their frustration with that being the primary advice.

 

[Digital Shaman]

Same way how boomers dont understand how expensive it is now compared to when they were young.

 

[Scaaar]

But let’s call it fair. If people aren’t interested in those things then telling to just do them isn’t terribly helpful. Gym, hiking and even sports aren’t likely to be high volume in targets.

I get what you are saying but that advice isn’t always a finger snap to the issue. I can see their frustration with that being the primary advice.

So they have no hobbies that require them to leave the house and meet and interact with people? If they don't then that's a them problem especially if they want to meet and date people. Staying in the house hoping that someone shows up at your door isn't the answer. Plus people swear they're done with dating apps because they believe it's rigged isn't the answer either. So there's one option left. If they choose not to go outside their comfort zone then more power to them. But don't whine about your lack of options either.

 

[King Poetic]

Being a older bro in a marriage

I already know the game has changed for younger brehs because of social media and social media simps

Women today don’t need to date or find love, because you have JBO type nikkas sending chicks $100 just for feet pics, angle ass shots, etc etc..

Chicks like no more going out looking for love and other shyt when i can easily get $1,000 a week for just showing JBO nikkas my toes…

Now don’t get me wrong there still some women looking for a man, but in this day and age where people barely go out or they face is stuck to the phone and waiting on likes, it’s going to be difficult finding a chick

 

[Apollo Creed]

So they have no hobbies that require them to leave the house and meet and interact with people? If they don't then that's a them problem especially if they want to meet and date people. Staying in the house hoping that someone shows up at your door isn't the answer. Plus people swear they're done with dating apps because they believe it's rigged isn't the answer either. So there's one option left. If they choose not to go outside their comfort zone then more power to them. But don't whine about your lack of options either.

thats the funny dynamic with life and human nature.

many Men and women of today don't have a life or real friends no hobbies or shyt.

These women don't have hobbies don't go no where, have alcohol and porn additions (look at all the memes about sex toys and fake sophistication of being liquor enthusiast). But push come to shove that same woman can go in the bathroom take 3 selfies and get on an app and be blown up by desperate men. She can literally not say shyt (cause she has nothing to talk about) and the man will be break dancing just for the hopes of sex lol.

You Gender Swap and that same man would be seen as an Incel who needs to pay for photoshoots because his bathroom selfies are terrible.

I call this out because people tend to over simplify reality and it's why people should only talk about their own gender paired with the rules of their generation. A nikka who played the game in 1970 can't tell you shyt about the rules of 2025, at a bare minimum they can talk about the fundamentals of human nature BUT most folks are too un educated or inexperienced from a wisdom standpoint to do so. There is a reason Griots speak in allegory because the info they are providing is universal so they deliver examples in a way you can extract the meaning and apply it in a context that makes sense for you, the Griot isn't shaming you or telling you you need look in the yellow pages for a bytch and if you don't you are a failure lol

 

[Apollo Creed]

Being a older bro in a marriage

I already know the game has changed for younger brehs because of social media and social media simps

Women today don’t need to date or find love, because you have JBO type nikkas sending chicks $100 just for feet pics, angle ass shots, etc etc..

Chicks like no more going out looking for love and other shyt when i can easily get $1,000 a week for just showing JBO nikkas my toes…

Now don’t get me wrong there still some women looking for a man, but in this day and age where people barely go out or they face is stuck to the phone and waiting on likes, it’s going to be difficult finding a chick

I would say FOLKS WITH SENSE who are married now (as in have time in the game) should if anything be forming stronger bonds with seeing how fukked up society is lol cause aint shyt out in these streets.

 

[Ohene]

The game doesn’t change much only the players in it and maybe the tools to meeting people, but human nature usually plays the same over generations.

A lot of these young brehs were raised on smartphones, tablets, and other devices and they never learned proper social skills or how to operate and handle people without a screen in their face.

Just like any other skill the art of socialization needs to occasionally be practiced and more often practiced if you desire to be good at it. Most of these young brehs don’t know how to read body language, non-verbal cues, or the appropriate behavior when dealing with the opposite sex.

This doesn’t even get into how a lot of these young brehs lack older more seasoned men to look to for guidance in their own families and social circles.

Nope

 

[Ohene]

Getting older over noticed something disturbing with my peers

Time capsules. Time bubble. Whatever the term it isn't important


What is important is for a lot of 40+yr olds, the world will always be 1996. From the music they listen to, the clothes they wear, and even sports opinions. It's 1996, everything that happened afterwards never happened, and any advice they give will work in 1996, not 2025

Some people are stuck in 2004. 2006 and 08 are also popular, 50 yrs old with grandkids bumping lil Wayne and diaper everywhere

They are out of touch and refuse to acknowledge reality, the world has passed them by and evolved.

Not everybody, but u see it on the threads here. Person been in a relationship for the past 5-10+ yrs trying to give dating advice. Things have changed quickly in the past couple of years, if your not out here hanging out in different cities over the weekend then respectfully shut the fukk up and go cut your grass.

These young fellas are living in a different world with different rules, a lot of advice I seen given would lead to police being called.


It's not 1999 anymore

Thank you

 

[Scaaar]

thats the funny dynamic with life and human nature.

many Men and women of today don't have a life or real friends no hobbies or shyt.

These women don't have hobbies don't go no where, have alcohol and porn additions (look at all the memes about sex toys and fake sophistication of being liquor enthusiast). But push come to shove that same woman can go in the bathroom take 3 selfies and get on an app and be blown up by desperate men. She can literally not say shyt (cause she has nothing to talk about) and the man will be break dancing just for the hopes of sex lol.

You Gender Swap and that same man would be seen as an Incel who needs to pay for photoshoots because his bathroom selfies are terrible.

I call this out because people tend to over simplify reality and it's why people should only talk about their own gender paired with the rules of their generation. A nikka who played the game in 1970 can't tell you shyt about the rules of 2025, at a bare minimum they can talk about the fundamentals of human nature BUT most folks are too un educated or inexperienced from a wisdom standpoint to do so. There is a reason Griots speak in allegory because the info they are providing is universal so they deliver examples in a way you can extract the meaning and apply it in a context that makes sense for you, the Griot isn't shaming you or telling you you need look in the yellow pages for a bytch and if you don't you are a failure lol

Yeah there's a double standard when it comes to dating. But that's life there are a myriad of double standards out here. But why complain about it? Use the ones that are to your advantage and then try to mitigate the ones that aren't. Sitting around complaining about the rules to the game doesn't help. Everyone knows women have an easier time getting men to have sex with them. Especially men that lack sexual discipline and will sleep with any and everything. But both sides assume the risk dealing with folks like that. Why would you as a man be trying to take mirror pics to get women? Especially if you're not sexually appealing to them? That's where you present yourself through your hobbies and goals that define you and let the cards fall. Some will like it and choose to up and some won't. But you can't be looking at women mad because they got more matches lol. That's crazy

 

[winb83]

The fundamentals of basic human interaction haven't changed much since the beginning of humanity. If you develop your gift of gab there isn't ever going to be some generational gap you can't navigate.

 

[Apollo Creed]

Yeah there's a double standard when it comes to dating. But that's life there are a myriad of double standards out here. But why complain about it? Use the ones that are to your advantage and then try to mitigate the ones that aren't. Sitting around complaining about the rules to the game doesn't help. Everyone knows women have an easier time getting men to have sex with them. Especially men that lack sexual discipline and will sleep with any and everything. But both sides assume the risk dealing with folks like that. Why would you as a man be trying to take mirror pics to get women? Especially if you're not sexually appealing to them? That's where you present yourself through your hobbies and goals that define you and let the cards fall. Some will like it and choose to up and some won't. But you can't be looking at women mad because they got more matches lol. That's crazy

I assume you are talking anout people complaining and not me. Because there is a disingenuous tactic gynocrats have a habit of doing when people are simply stating environmental facts to shame it from being acknowledged. If i tell you it is raining outside that isnt complaining, it is stating facts so people can act accordingly

 

[Neuromancer]

The apps are designed around women because they know if women are there then men will always be there.

This sounds like the club marketing strategy with ladies get in free.

 

[Mike Nasty]

People don't even initiate general conversations with strangers of the same sex anymore let alone the opposite sex.

I noticed this at work. I've made whole round trips with younger guys and we never say a word. I thought it was just me cause I'm fine with silence, but someone told me several other guys have said the same thing.