Also I find that many who constantly harp on about submission seem to have the least amount of experience with relationships. They can only parrot what other men have told them and other urban legends.
Now coming from the country, 3 generations of marriages at least 30+ years, on my dads side of the family and my mom's side of the family, no OOW babies, no divorces, I've had many examples of what marriage looks like including my own parents who have been married for 44 years.
Believe it or not, and this could just be because country people are pragmatists, but submission is a duel phenomenon. Women submit to men and men submit to women. Why? Because it's not about who rules, so much as its about who is good at what.
My dad is a great leader but my mother is more financially savvy. So he makes a lot of the decisions but he gives her ALL the money. They learned this about themselves early on in their marriage b/c she'll pay bills on time and is good with saving whereas my dad is too financially impulsive. However he has good business acumen. So when he needs money to invest in his business, it's there because he trusted his wife's strengths and she gives it to him because she trusts in his strengths. The point is a good leader knows his strengths and his limitations. But also leadership is shared in a good relationship. People lead in the areas they are good at and want their partners to lead in their own right as well.
These are lessons you learn the more you experience interactions with the opposite sex. But some of ya'll are so bitter and resentful of anything female and so awfully eager to prove your manhood b/c you feel it's under attack that it's impossible to trust that you'll be able handle the responsibility of submission w/o abusing it. It's kinda sad and some will blame everybody and everything except taking a look in the mirror.
Now coming from the country, 3 generations of marriages at least 30+ years, on my dads side of the family and my mom's side of the family, no OOW babies, no divorces, I've had many examples of what marriage looks like including my own parents who have been married for 44 years.
Believe it or not, and this could just be because country people are pragmatists, but submission is a duel phenomenon. Women submit to men and men submit to women. Why? Because it's not about who rules, so much as its about who is good at what.
My dad is a great leader but my mother is more financially savvy. So he makes a lot of the decisions but he gives her ALL the money. They learned this about themselves early on in their marriage b/c she'll pay bills on time and is good with saving whereas my dad is too financially impulsive. However he has good business acumen. So when he needs money to invest in his business, it's there because he trusted his wife's strengths and she gives it to him because she trusts in his strengths. The point is a good leader knows his strengths and his limitations. But also leadership is shared in a good relationship. People lead in the areas they are good at and want their partners to lead in their own right as well.
These are lessons you learn the more you experience interactions with the opposite sex. But some of ya'll are so bitter and resentful of anything female and so awfully eager to prove your manhood b/c you feel it's under attack that it's impossible to trust that you'll be able handle the responsibility of submission w/o abusing it. It's kinda sad and some will blame everybody and everything except taking a look in the mirror.
All of the mouth and combativeness just leaves most of them alone in the bushes. 
