PANIC Time: If you're around 30 (flabby and sick) and still single.

[homiedontplaydat]

the first marriage on average lasts 7 years, its all butterflies and daisies now but come back to me in a few years.

marriage is dead, it has zero benefits to men only to women offering them security and children

Ive been with my wife 7 years already, 4 years dating, 3 years married.

And trust im aware of the divorce statistics, just like u single guys should be aware of that new gonorreha strain, but that dont stop yall from sharing all these dimes yall supposedly smashing now does it

Dont play me like i dont know marriage takes work, i live this, and its not always easy. But to me its worth it. The feeling i get waking up in the same house as my children everyday with a beautiful women that i love and respect is worth giving up the benefits of single life. Its not for everybody but it works for me.

 

[Anothergirl]

Feel good rhetoric. You don't have to be a corporate slave to make money. I wish people would change their outlook on the ways of making money.

If you don't want to bring a child into the world, fine. If you want to stop your gene line, fine. If you don't feel it necessary to go further and farther than those before you, fine. I guess you can conveniently chop all that up under "rejecting the American Dream"

Like I understand what y'all are saying, but I also have a responsibility to my family currently and in the future. I'm not willing to just say "fukk it all" and sacrifice my family's future because of something I feel for the moment or even something I felt for a couple of years. It's bigger than me.

When I work to make money, I'm not thinking "paying bills, rent due". Im thinking, how can this benefit my family for generations to come. Short sightedness is not beneficial. Just because I think the capitalistic structure of society is stupid doesn't mean I'm not willing to afford my kids or grandkids or etc. any less than what they deserve or what I can earn for them. I'll grit my teeth through it all if it means things get better or easier for them even if they don't exist yet.

You and your feelings only last for a lifetime. Ya family name and legacy lasts forever if you can make it.

^^^waste of time ....your trying to reason with dudes that indentify more with the concept of "YOLO" than honoring their family name and furthering their family legacy though often hard and "self-less" actions.

 

[Anothergirl]

1.So what you're sayin is da cheatin n shyt is no biggie as long as da parents are financially well off? Like yeah it's a turd but it's a polished turd wit diamonds in it?

2. lmao like kids from a well off 2 parent household are immune to being born a homosexual and or suffer from chemical imbalances/botched chromosome levels. (if dat's what you were referring to).

You're smarter than dis AG. Wtf breh.

i'm not saying any of that breh. i have my ideas about what would begin to fix a very fukked up community that's all....and imo it's starts and ends with strong family foundations. something that's severely lacking. the income discrepancies and incarceration rates are directly related. well just have to agree to disagree on this one i guess.

 

[muse]

yall motherfukkers clueless

got rid of the HIV

 

[Malta]

I'm not only talking success in the terms of the "American dream" (something I never mentioned). I'm just talking about achieving what you want to do. And I'm also talking only talking about dudes who are on that whole "I don't wanna get married" kick. I'm not suggesting to give up time for money, but I do also see a little something wrong in being adamantly against commitment at that stage of maturity once you get to a certain age, especially if your reason is "I'm at my peak" or "I'm getting p*ssy". Not trading "time for money" has nothing to do being so afraid of committing to something. And the part about what's he's experienced is irrelevant, cause there are definitely a lot of things he hasn't experienced that someone else has that may be more or just just as valuable of an experience. I doubt someone who has experience the joy of childbirth with a great partner would really give that up to travel 20 countries when then could just as well do that at any moment in their life.

Well, in this day and age you're not getting married in this country without a solid career, so trading time for money is inevitable if you want to actually marry. The American dream is all encompassing with clear steps, once you have the career, the next step is the wife, after the wife is the kids or the house. That is why I mentioned the American dream. I've never asked my friend if he plans on getting married, but he seems to be 50/50 on having kids. A lot of the dudes have said they have no plans of getting married anytime soon, only a few have outright said they have zero intentions of doing it.

And honestly my dude, take it from someone with kids, you're not traveling to 20 countries with a job and kids, it ain't happening. I've been to around 15 countries myself before they were born, since they were born I haven't left the country

Like, if you were to ask your friend if he'd want a woman who would stick with him on some life time shyt, and he said straight up said "No. Never", that wouldn't be strange to you?

Some people are honestly just wired differently, I'll get married to my girl someday, but I can't say it's strange that some men don't want to get married. I'm not in their shoes, I don't know what is driving them, some people just aren't cut out to be with another person for the rest of their lives. If they recognize that and are up front with it I'm not going to knock them. There are married couples that don't want kids, I don't think that's strange either, not everyone wants the same things.

 

[OG_StankBrefs]

^^^waste of time ....your trying to reason with dudes that indentify more with the concept of "YOLO" than honoring their family name and furthering their family legacy though often hard and "self-less" actions.

Not sure if dis was directed at me since i'm on da other side but lemme just say just because a person is in no rush to get married or doesn't want too doesn't mean dey are not wanting to "honor their family name and further their family legacy through often hard and self-less actions" Dat is such a ridiculous statement ma. Dere are single people out chea who've adopted kids and/or put dat same focus/energy into spreadin positiveness into children through youth programs, charities,etc. Dere is more than one way to leave your legacy on dis planet besides givin somebody your last name. Not everybody fits into dat precious lil mold yo.

You mah dawg but come da fukk own AG.

i'm not saying any of that breh. i have my ideas about what would begin to fix a very fukked up community that's all....and imo it's starts and ends with strong family foundations. something that's severely lacking. the income discrepancies and incarceration rates are directly related. well just have to agree to disagree on this one i guess.

Yeah.

Da world will keep spinnin doe.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

Im 33, Single, Own Place, Drive a Jag , and Make more money that most you muthafukas


Now you tell me who Won?

@L@CaT What year is your jag and what's your take home every pay period? Don't be on here fronting with a 96 jaguar and bringin home 2,000/mo fronting like you balling nikka

I remember on allhiphop some nikka tried to pull the same thing. Talking bout "I'm young, gotta crib by the beach, and pushing a BMW "

Come to find out dude is renting an apartment that's like 5 blocks from the beach and was pushing a old ass bmw with a KBB of like 11k. Fraudulent ass nikkas man

 

[Doobie Doo]

Feel good rhetoric. You don't have to be a corporate slave to make money. I wish people would change their outlook on the ways of making money.

If you don't want to bring a child into the world, fine. If you want to stop your gene line, fine. If you don't feel it necessary to go further and farther than those before you, fine. I guess you can conveniently chop all that up under "rejecting the American Dream"

Like I understand what y'all are saying, but I also have a responsibility to my family currently and in the future. I'm not willing to just say "fukk it all" and sacrifice my family's future because of something I feel for the moment or even something I felt for a couple of years. It's bigger than me.

When I work to make money, I'm not thinking "paying bills, rent due". Im thinking, how can this benefit my family for generations to come. Short sightedness is not beneficial. Just because I think the capitalistic structure of society is stupid doesn't mean I'm not willing to afford my kids or grandkids or etc. any less than what they deserve or what I can earn for them. I'll grit my teeth through it all if it means things get better or easier for them even if they don't exist yet.

You and your feelings only last for a lifetime. Ya family name and legacy lasts forever if you can make it.

The point of my post is happiness trumps money. I look at life different than you cause I don't have any kids nor wife nor family to support. I agree that if you do have kids and/or wife supporting your family is job #1 but if you are single and a bachelor like me then live the life you want to live.

I agree that you don't need to be a corporate slave to make money. I started doing my own thing with film, tv and music because I got laid off 3 times in the past 3 years. But be real here, how many people are going to pursue what makes them happy versus what they need to do to make money? Honestly not a lot of people have the balls to pursue their true love cuz I didn't. I'm doing it now cuz I'm aware at how fukked up the economy is and how much I loathe looking for a job, having to kiss ass, working your ass off making money for a company that gives you crumbs in return and couldn't give two shyts about you as a person.

My last job was the breaking point, I worked for a credit card company setting up merchant accounts for small business owners. I broke the company sales records for largest single deal closed when I secured an account worth $3.4 million (the average account me and my team usually closed was between 50-100K). I was the man that week, everybody in the office kissed my ass and I got a call from the CEO in Cali commending me on a job well done. Less than 3 weeks later we had an office meeting telling us some merger they were doing with a company in Texas didn't go thru. Then next week they pull me into an office and tell me they can't afford to keep me on and me and three others were laid off. I single handily saved the entire company in the month of September 2011 which is what they told me, but they couldn't afford to keep me on, does that shyt even make sense? Who wants to spend their entire life like that, busting your ass for crumbs while being undervalued like that, not me.

 

[jalamanta]

All you 30 something nikkas who claim to look great, have a lot of money, nice car and smashing dimes, you need to post pics.

Cause then that car will turn out to be Honda civic and dimes turn out to be hood rats. You probably look like a brother of too.

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[Anothergirl]

Not sure if dis was directed at me since i'm on da other side but lemme just say just because a person is in no rush to get married or doesn't want too doesn't mean

nah not directed at you at all babe.... i'm taking about the immature "YOLO" crowd that posts up in these types of threads. i've seen that senitiment on here a few times before as if ones OWN actions don't speak on behalf of and affect your entire family. i'm a firm beliver in honoring my family name(honor another lost trait these days) even if that means having to sometimes do things that sometimes take me out of my comfort zone and put my intrests on the back burner.

 

[↓R↑LYB]

All you 30 something nikkas who claim to look great, have a lot of money, nice car and smashing dimes, you need to post pics.

Cause then that car will turn out to be Honda civic and dimes turn out to be hood rats. You probably look like a brother of too.

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Man you know these nikkas on here got condos right in downtown duckberg. These nikkas is fronting like they pushin 2013 M6's, making 200k a year, and have 4% body fat year round.

I just turned 30 and found a wonderful women I wanna spend the rest of my life with. We don't ever argue, fight, or get on each other nerves. Plus she make a mean quiche

Either way I'm happy, but what do I know, I'm just another lost nikka.

 

[Malta]

i'm a firm beliver in honoring my family name(honor another lost trait these days) even if that means having to sometimes do things that sometimes take me out of my comfort zone and put my intrests on the back burner.

Same here, my father told me when I was younger that the last name dies with me if I didn't have a son, had me like

 

[OG_StankBrefs]

nah not directed at you at all babe.... i'm taking about the immature "YOLO" crowd that posts up in these types of threads. i've seen that senitiment on here a few times before as if ones OWN actions don't speak on behalf of and affect your entire family. i'm a firm beliver in honoring my family name(honor another lost trait these days) even if that means having to sometimes do things that sometimes take me out of my comfort zone and put my intrests on the back burner.

If I didn't have an allergy to fur yo...

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[OG_StankBrefs]

Same here, my father told me when I was younger that the last name dies with me if I didn't have a son, had me like

nikka now you know you aint da only mufukka walkin around wit dat last name. You shoulda hit pops wit da

 

[LezJepzin]

I'M 31 THIS YEAR. I WON'T LIE. I NEED A LIL SNIFLES JR SOON BREH. I'M TRYING MY HARDEST TO HOLD OUT FOR A WIFE BUT shyt IS GETTING OUT OF HAND. MY UNCLE TOLD ME TO COME DOWN SOUTH AND SCOOP A COUNTRY GIRL TO MARRY. MIGHT HAVE TO DO THAT. HAVING A HARD TIME FINDING ONE TO SETTLE DOWN WITH.

I'm 31 and I'm in the same dilemma. The dating pool is pretty bleak where I'm at and I don't want to take care of someone else's kids in order to come up. I have my own apt, money aite but could be a lot better look great, get a lot of attention from females and in great physical shape from years of running. As for being in my 30s because of my parents My parents were in good shape then and now. My friends in GA want me to take a trip down south to see the women down there. I'm taking them up on that offer next year when I go to ATL & Panama City for Spring Break .

My problem though is that Ive been holding out for a chick of color but its almost impossible around here to land one that isn't single, no kids and isn't batshyt crazy. Otherwise, I would've got a snow bunny years ago.

But I'll probably end up with a white chick cause I get way more attention from them anyway I don't have a biological clock and I enjoy my freedom at the moment to really worry about it though.