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He didn’t “do” anything. That’s what makes your irrational accusations so funny. He had dreams and goals that I fully supported. One of those goals gave him a great opportunity that was in another state. That’s all. While I loved him, I had my own things going on. My own goals that are currently flourishing, that meant I couldn’t leave. And the state that he moved tooYea, not for me. I’ll even go a step further in that, if we were married, I STILL wouldn’t have been willing to move. I just wouldn’t. And I’m totally glad we didn’t have to go through a divorce process.
The great news is, he’s a 3hr drive away so he still faithfully comes to get the kids.
Contrary to popular Coli belief, not all relationships have to end in drama and negativity.
How would I know before hand that a job offer he would receive years down the road would be in a another state? How would HE even know that?So u purposely had a baby out of wedlock? U planned to be a babymom?
First thing u stated in this thread was "you should know before you even get into a relationship with the person." And u spoke of "terrible communication skills."
So u knew beforehand that you wanted to be a babymom with the babydaddy 3 hours away before u made the baby? That was the plan beforehand?
You’re really losing it here. You’re so worried about winning this “debate”, that you’re not even making sense anymore.
How would I know before hand that a job offer he would receive years down the road would be in a another state? How would HE even know that?
Just saying.
And if you do a long distance relationship, somebody would eventually have to relocate. I wasn’t relocating to his new state. Were we supposed to be long distance for next 60 years or...?
What does knowing somebody have to do with them moving? You’re trying to equate somebody magically becoming a deadbeat parent to a parent that moved out of state
That’s a cold ass car right there. shyt a Tesla 1300.
I'm just responding to your original comment about seeing red flags before having a baby. Everything u have stated as a reason why u did not get married doesn't seem like good reasons at all. Obviously things weren't properly planned before u had the baby. I'm not equating anything. I'm just confused at how u came in here saying that a person should see things before having a baby yet u had a baby with a person when both of ya'll werent steady in your careers.
Based on the info u provided...if a woman rejects my plans to get married and wasn't willing to move with me while I'm making a power move to get paper and provide for my family then thats a red flag against her. It says she's not really commited to me and on top of that I have to travel 3 hours to see my kid all because she's not down to make this power move? So in this case its your BD who shoulda been looking at red flags.
I'm just responding to your original comment about seeing red flags before having a baby. Everything u have stated as a reason why u did not get married doesn't seem like good reasons at all. Obviously things weren't properly planned before u had the baby. I'm not equating anything. I'm just confused at how u came in here saying that a person should see things before having a baby yet u had a baby with a person when both of ya'll werent steady in your careers.
Based on the info u provided...if a woman rejects my plans to get married and wasn't willing to move with me while I'm making a power move to get paper and provide for my family then thats a red flag against her. It says she's not really commited to me and on top of that I have to travel 3 hours to see my kid all because she's not down to make this power move? So in this case its your BD who shoulda been looking at red flags.
