Paying for a first date is the biggest sucker move

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

Find yourself a more independent woman breh. Last two first dates the girl paid for her own, didn't even expect me to pay. They knew I could but it wasn't even about that. They felt that they work, they can pay their own

 

[KinksandCoils]

let me just ask you this one thing

so you go out on a date, right away off the bat your not feeling this guy, you still going to order that 22.99 steak arent you, you'll still act chummy, laugh, and act like your having a good time, you'll still go to the movie after, and then he'll ask Teedot I had a great time lets do it again and you drop that text "i had fun but were not compatible" , now this dude wasted that 22.99 on that steak that 10 dollar movie ticket etc. and you knew like many women do quite eraly if there is no attraction , but your ok with that, your ok with a dude wasting money on you when you already know you'll never give him another date again.

thats your scenario


my scenario example

go out on a date, i pay for my quarter chicken, you pay for your steak, i pay for my movie ticket you pay for yours and popcorn, I say I had a great time , we should do this again - you say thanks I had a great time but i dont think we are compatible

I saved myself 30-40 bucks.

I wouldn't order anything that expensive. To me that's ridiculous to pick the most expensive thing on the menu. I'm not out to get anyone. And like I said before I wouldn't just drop a text like that. I wouldn't cut a man off for that.... I've said this several times. And if I'm going on a date wit u chances are the attraction is there unless u switch up and start acting crazy if u are so worried about money that's understandable but a guy shouldn't look for a women if he is so scared about spending his money.

 

[MikelArteta]

Find yourself a more independent woman breh. Last two first dates the girl paid for her own, didn't even expect me to pay. They knew I could but it wasn't even about that. They felt that they work, they can pay their own

 

[Turbulent]

As far as the sex goes i was being general about it. It was not just directed to u but men in general . I said before if u want to be taken serious than u pay if u don't want to be taken serious than don't. It's not a science to it. Like I said before up here. I'm only explaining to you how women think. At least quality ones. If you don't like it too bad. If u don't want to pay oh well be prepared to be not taken serious and looked like as a clown. When a woman goes and tells her friends how her date was we often ask if he paid.....it's hella embarrassing if he doesn't . a lot of us look at it as if he doesn't like us enough to spend money on us or he just A cheap ass. Either way its not a good look.

i don't care if you look at me as a clown for not paying for your meal just because i'm a man. it just means i'll never attract "quality" women like you and you'll never have the ability to attract "clowns" like me so i guess we both win.

When a woman goes and tells her friends how her date was we often ask if he paid.....it's hella embarrassing if he doesn't . a lot of us look at it as if he doesn't like us enough to spend money on us or he just A cheap ass. Either way its not a good look.

but see that's it right there. why would you even surround yourself with women who would ask you such a tacky question? why is it any of their business? if you had a good time with dude, why do you even care what your friends think and how they judge it all? see that's the type of chicks i'm trying to keep out of my circle anyway. I don't care about seeming cheap or like a clown. I know who i am, i know what i stand for and i don't buck under pressure. Any woman who lets her friends decide that they shouldn't date me because i didn't pay for their stupid movie ticket for whatever reason and didn't follow their social convention is a woman i probably don't want to spend time with anyway.

 

[Jahmal]

Rarely, but if you don't think a woman is worth buying dinner for, why ask her out in the first place? Fam, a dude can get a decent dinner for 2 for like 20 bucks, I'm not saying take the chick to a fancy restaurant or anything

The average decent lookingh guy spends atleast $200 a month on dates (dinner, drinks, comedy shows, movies, popcorn, gas, etc...)

That $200 a month can go towards a vacation to Brazil. Why waste your money feeding some chick?

 

[MikelArteta]

@Teedot

say a man just took you to a park and you sat on the bench for a few hours and he didnt spend a dime is that considered cheap?
is he now less of a man cuz he didnt spend any money

 

[The_Sheff]

1. Why you taking a chick to an expensive place on the first date to begin with? Find something fun to do for cheap. If you cant then thats on you.

2. If you consider 40 bucks a lot of money, for events that also include you, then I dont think a woman should expect much from you to begin with. If i spend 40 bucks total going bowling and eating Mexican later i dont see that as a waste. I like bowling and mexican food, if the chick doesnt call me back then whatever, i still had a good time.

 

[MAKAVELI25]

The average decent lookingh guy spends atleast $200 a month on dates (dinner, drinks, comedy shows, movies, popcorn, gas, etc...)

That $200 a month can go towards a vacation to Brazil. Why waste your money feeding some chick?

But if a chick is reciprocating then what's the problem? If I spent $200 on a chick in a month, you best believe she spent ATLEAST $150 on me that same month. Not all chicks are gold diggers, B

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

The average decent lookingh guy spends atleast $200 a month on dates (dinner, drinks, comedy shows, movies, popcorn, gas, etc...)

Noooooo in my view that is NOT the way to start things off. Yeah I can see the logic, take them to a show and have them laughing/good time etc.. but it's better that YOU can make them laugh. I never start out taking a girl to places where you had to buy tickets (i.e. shows, concerts, sporting events..) They start expecting that kind of shyt all the time. Will it guarantee you the puss? Maybe but so what. All it means is you threw down a couple hundred dollars plus gas, food or other expenses for a fukk. No different than being a trick.

 

[Lana Kane]

What kind of girls do y'all deal with? Seriously.

 

[KinksandCoils]

i don't care if you look at me as a clown for not paying for your meal just because i'm a man. it just means i'll never attract "quality" women like you and you'll never have the ability to attract "clowns" like me so i guess we both win.
but see that's it right there. why would you even surround yourself with women who would ask you such a tacky question? why is it any of their business? if you had a good time with dude, why do you even care what your friends think and how they judge it all? see that's the type of chicks i'm trying to keep out of my circle anyway. I don't care about seeming cheap or like a clown. I know who i am, i know what i stand for and i don't buck under pressure. Any woman who lets her friends decide that they shouldn't date me because i didn't pay for their stupid movie ticket for whatever reason and didn't follow their social convention is a woman i probably don't want to spend time with anyway.

Women behave differently than men. A friend that is really close to u will ask all sorts of personal questions that isn't their business anyways. It's no different than some of your boys asking u if u "hit " oh is that not personal? Is it not their business? Of course it's not.stop acting like people don't ask questions like that all the time. U would be surprised how many classy women act with their girls

But I'm sure u think that if a women is classy she would never step out of that especially with her girls . Either way if u don't want to pay than fine. It's your business.

 

[Jahmal]

1. Why you taking a chick to an expensive place on the first date to begin with? Find something fun to do for cheap. If you cant then thats on you.

2. If you consider 40 bucks a lot of money, for events that also include you, then I dont think a woman should expect much from you to begin with. If i spend 40 bucks total going bowling and eating Mexican later i dont see that as a waste. I like bowling and mexican food, if the chick doesnt call me back then whatever, i still had a good time.

Why not wait until you know the female is feeling you before you reach in your pocket and spend that bread. I like mexican food and bowling but I'm not taking a chick out with me to enjoy those until I know she is down for me. You n1ggaz just gambling with your money. might as well play the lotto.

 

[KinksandCoils]

@Teedot

say a man just took you to a park and you sat on the bench for a few hours and he didnt spend a dime is that considered cheap?
is he now less of a man cuz he didnt spend any money

Nope he isn't considered cheap.

 

[MikelArteta]

Nope he isn't considered cheap.

 

[KinksandCoils]

Nope he isn't considered cheap.

It also doesn't make him less of a man either