murksiderock
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Has anyone been in a situation where they were still living with the person you're breaking up with? And to those who had children involved, how did you emotionally and mentally handle it?
We've been broken up since July. Still living together, I could move out tomorrow but the logistics favor me waiting until the lease ends in June (will have more money put away, extra 6 months in-home with my daughters, and there's always the hassle of being a felon looking for a respectable place to live, those background checks)...
Making this thread because within the last 4 days, I think I crossed that last emotional frontier. I'm completely through now, I always held out a belief or hope even, that we could reconcile at some point, but I felt something the other day that was new that told me I'm all the way out of it...
I'm not sure I was ever "in" love with her, but I do and did love her and appreciate alot of things about her, so it was hard to let it go mentally. Even in this cohabiting things we been doing since July, we blurred the lines, helped make it harder...
When this lease ends we're both moving to different cities. I'll have to get used to not seeing my daughters everyday, my oldest will be 3 in February, youngest turned 1 in October, I been with them every day of their lives and its beyond tough to imagine I wont be seeing them every day, I tear up a little whenever I have to think about that part. I have to learn to protect myself, because I dont trust her, and can't afford to let her snipe me on child support or keep my kids from me, but I also dont want to make the process difficult or have to go to court...
So for anyone who has navigated this, I'm accepting any and all advice. I haven't had a breakup with a woman I lived with since Spring 2012, and I was in a different space in my life, lotta shyt was different then. Ladies of The Coli, feel free to chime in as well, I'm all ears...
We've been broken up since July. Still living together, I could move out tomorrow but the logistics favor me waiting until the lease ends in June (will have more money put away, extra 6 months in-home with my daughters, and there's always the hassle of being a felon looking for a respectable place to live, those background checks)...
Making this thread because within the last 4 days, I think I crossed that last emotional frontier. I'm completely through now, I always held out a belief or hope even, that we could reconcile at some point, but I felt something the other day that was new that told me I'm all the way out of it...
I'm not sure I was ever "in" love with her, but I do and did love her and appreciate alot of things about her, so it was hard to let it go mentally. Even in this cohabiting things we been doing since July, we blurred the lines, helped make it harder...
When this lease ends we're both moving to different cities. I'll have to get used to not seeing my daughters everyday, my oldest will be 3 in February, youngest turned 1 in October, I been with them every day of their lives and its beyond tough to imagine I wont be seeing them every day, I tear up a little whenever I have to think about that part. I have to learn to protect myself, because I dont trust her, and can't afford to let her snipe me on child support or keep my kids from me, but I also dont want to make the process difficult or have to go to court...
So for anyone who has navigated this, I'm accepting any and all advice. I haven't had a breakup with a woman I lived with since Spring 2012, and I was in a different space in my life, lotta shyt was different then. Ladies of The Coli, feel free to chime in as well, I'm all ears...
as he forced to hear shorty throwing it back