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[iBrowse]

I let it be know off rip that I'm not looking for new friends with women...but It's one I never really had that conversation with yet. We hit concerts ups and dope DJ sets around town. I paid for one of them, but we usually goes dutch. She's attractive, so I've took my shot a couple of times with suble curves as a result. So I asked her today, just to be clear, "We are just friends, right...nothing past that stage..." Why didn't I get a clear answer. I feel like with a clear response I can get the perks of using the attractive friend to get other girls. Coli brehettes, what's the logic behind this lack FZ commitment.

Sounds like she doesn't want you but wants you around for the usual reasons

 

[Black Magisterialness]

The Friend Zone is a beta male, fukkboi invention for people who have their frail egos bruised with the notion that not every female on earth wants to fukk them.

 

[Action Mike]

Friendzone is rejection, see it that way and move on

 

[PeridotPuss]

Are you hooking her up in any way for these concerts? You keep mentioning them. ...like u got backstage connects or something. ....if she's not telling you you're JUST her friend then there's something you do she doesn't want to lose. ..or she v really doesn't know how she feels yet

I doubt she really likes you romantically though....

 

[Arishok]

stay away from wishy washy bytches they are the worst.
she doesn't want you, but she also doesn't want other woman to have you. she wants to keep you around in her pocket as a back up option. climb the fukk up out of there if she gets jealous, that's her problem. you made your move(s), she curved you, move on. she had her chance and didn't take it

An issue I'm currently dealing with

This is why I hate that I'm dating a guy with a lot of female friends. He don't get it but I KNOW these chicks coming out the woodwork with that "I miss u" bs cuz he got a girl and is no longer in their back pocket as the shoulder to cry on.

I'm trying to think of a way to explain this to him but I feel like it's going to end up going in one ear, out the other and his mind gone keep saying "she just a friend. She don't mean no harm".

I trust him enough not to cheat but I don't trust those kind of chicks

 

[The Mad Titan]

If a woman wants to try something with you, there will be absolutely no second guessing it. If you asked her and she didn't say no but didn't say yes that means no. Trust me Fam, she might "like" you but its not enough to make a move and there's nothing on your part that you can do to change or speed that up nor should you try too.


If your cool with just being her friend and friend only then keep hanging out with her, if you doing "extra" which most us nikka do when we like a chick. Cut it out NOW, if she sticks around you got a friend is she gets distance then you never had a friend just a sponge.

 

[Action Mike]

Funny thing is, if this chick gets married tomorrow even that 'friendship' is out the window.

Such a waste of time.

 

[Fun Sized Psycho]

I agree with @At30wecashout @PeridotPuss & @karim
She's not interested in you, but she's keeping you around for something. If she saw you as just friends she would have said that, with NO issue.

But when you say you've done everything BUT smash, what does that mean? Y'all kissed? Sexually touched each other?

 

[karim]

An issue I'm currently dealing with

This is why I hate that I'm dating a guy with a lot of female friends. He don't get it but I KNOW these chicks coming out the woodwork with that "I miss u" bs cuz he got a girl and is no longer in their back pocket as the shoulder to cry on.

I'm trying to think of a way to explain this to him but I feel like it's going to end up going in one ear, out the other and his mind gone keep saying "she just a friend. She don't mean no harm".

I trust him enough not to cheat but I don't trust those kind of chicks

if he's not cheating, where is the problem? either you trust him, or you don't

 

[Arishok]

if he's not cheating, where is the problem? either you trust him, or you don't

Because I don't like phony people and I don't want my man to have phony friends trying to set him up.

 

[karim]

I let it be know off rip that I'm not looking for new friends with women...but It's one I never really had that conversation with yet. We hit concerts ups and dope DJ sets around town. I paid for one of them, but we usually goes dutch. She's attractive, so I've took my shot a couple of times with suble curves as a result. So I asked her today, just to be clear, "We are just friends, right...nothing past that stage..." Why didn't I get a clear answer. I feel like with a clear response I can get the perks of using the attractive friend to get other girls. Coli brehettes, what's the logic behind this lack FZ commitment.

I forgot to say this in my original post, the logic is simple:
Most woman have a ranked list of guys they are seeing. There is the number one they want and back up options they keep around in case number one doesn't work out. If you're number one, than things are easy and straightforward. She's going to meet up with you whenever you ask, she's going to hit you up by herself and she is not going to curve you when you make a move. If you're not number one, things are more complicated. She will keep you around but how far she will let you go, how much time she will spend with you and how often she will hit you up depends on how high you are ranked on her list. She will spend as much time and energy on you as is necessary to keep you around and interested until she finds out if things are going to work out with number one. Depending on her moral believes she might sleep with you, but she will not commit. If she get's her number one, she will go cold on you, unless she is one of those girls who thrive on male attention, then she will keep teasing you, because she loves to be pursued. If number one chooses somebody else or fukks up (although you really have to put effort into fukking up if you're number one) you will move up the list.

Of course there are exceptions to the rule, but from my experience, this is how it normally works. And another thing that my experience taught me is that you do not want to stick around if you're not number one, because it leads to frustration more often than not.

 

[karim]

Because I don't like phony people and I don't want my man to have phony friends trying to set him up.

why worry about them setting him up if you know he is not going to cheat? If you can trust him, he is going to tell these girls "I got a girl" if they try anything.

 

[Action Mike]

if he's not cheating, where is the problem? either you trust him, or you don't

To be fair if my girl had a gang of male friends....

 

[karim]

To be fair if my girl had a gang of male friends....

then you don't trust her

 

[skokiaan]

Brobro these hoes ain't rocket science she had to be fukking somebody and if it hasn't been you then well you know



She might really enjoy your company tho and where you choose to go with that is your business

i cried inside reading this, felt like i was the one being friendzoned