Post Break up issues

[MikelArteta]

Thank you bros... I’m really struggling with the fact that she’s probably going to get more out of being with women... better sex, a deeper emotional connection, things I couldn’t give her. It’s hard not to feel like I’m being compared to something I can’t compete with. That uncertainty, that ambiguity of not knowing exactly where I fit anymore... is what messes with my head the most. I want to accept it, but my brain keeps grabbing onto those thoughts, making it hard to move forward or find peace. What is better? Thinking that she’ll have “better” experiences with someone else gotta be my brain’s way of trying to understand why it happened and where I fit in the story now. I need to start reframing these unhealthy thoughts. This situation really messed with my self confidence and self esteem.

Any breakup we all think that, our ex is going to find someone "better than us" , she's prob getting rammed right now, will she miss me blah blah. But like I said its out of our control. Breakups suck no matter that caused it, been there always wondering what they up to, checking their social media etc. Best thing you can do is no contact unless it has to do with say your daughter. Exercise, get enough sleep, journal read. It sucks but really the only thing that has helped through my life is TIME. Right now it sucks but if you do the right steps 6 months or a year from now you'll look back and be

 

[Wiseborn]

Thank you bros... I’m really struggling with the fact that she’s probably going to get more out of being with women... better sex, a deeper emotional connection, things I couldn’t give her. It’s hard not to feel like I’m being compared to something I can’t compete with. That uncertainty, that ambiguity of not knowing exactly where I fit anymore... is what messes with my head the most. I want to accept it, but my brain keeps grabbing onto those thoughts, making it hard to move forward or find peace. What is better? Thinking that she’ll have “better” experiences with someone else gotta be my brain’s way of trying to understand why it happened and where I fit in the story now. I need to start reframing these unhealthy thoughts. This situation really messed with my self confidence and self esteem.

Man trust me if she was Queen Latifah style gay she couldn't let you seed her.

Most women who swing that way are on a spectrum. If you were paying bills and providing emotional labor she will miss that.

I'm not equipped to give you advice all I can do his give you shytty Red pill talking points

let shorty eat some funk box for a minute and she'll come running back to you.

Butch Dykes complain about being a short term resthaven for mad single Moms who eventually run back to Men all the time.

Just be there for your daughter Date other woman and if you want leave the door open.

She was probably cheating on you with a woman for a minute she might be back within 18 months.

Again shytty Red Pill talking points a Professional will clean this up but probably tell you the same thing.

 

[Wiseborn]

Projection.

Well prove me wrong walk him through his emotional with care and grace. Or prove me right and roast him

 

[Doobie Doo]

My daughter’s mother and I were together for three years. We built a life....we had a child, plans to get married this fall, and what I thought was a solid foundation. But in June, everything changed. She came out to me and told me she’s been struggling with her sexuality for a long time... something she’d kept buried because of her religious upbringing and the fear of judgment from her family. As for why she finally decided to come out now, I can only guess. Maybe it took her years to accept herself, or the weight of hiding such a big part of who she is became too heavy. Maybe she reached a point where she needed to be honest with me out of respect


When she told me, I didn’t know how to process it. I packed up and left. Not out of hate... but out of shock, confusion, and heartbreak.


It’s hard not to turn inward and wonder, What did I lack? Was I not enough? I keep thinking about how I fell in love with someone who, in the end, wasn’t fully herself. And maybe she couldn’t be.... not with her background, not with the pressure she was under. But that doesn’t make it hurt any less. She was my best friend. My ride or die. The one I planned to spend forever with. Now I look back and question everything. It feels like the life we were building wasn’t as real as I believed it was.


Am I wrong for feeling resentful? I don’t know. I don’t fully understand the complexities of struggling with one’s sexuality. I don’t know what it’s like to live in fear of your truth. But I do know what it’s like to love someone completely, only to find out they were carrying something they couldn’t share with you and now because of all this, my daughter has to grow up in two different homes.



Since it happened, I’ve found myself spiraling into a huge porn addiction... especially lesbian porn, where I imagine women doing things to her. I didn’t understand why at first. But now I see it... it’s a way for my mind to rewrite the story. In those fantasies, its all bout control. In real life, I feel powerless.. like I couldn’t change what was happening. But in my sick fantasies, I get to shape the story, to feel some sense of power or involvement, even if it’s complicated or painful. This situation really messed up

Good, you saved time, emotions and resources in the process. She was gonna leave in June of 2025 or June 2028 etc...The question is how much would you have built together before she ripped the foundation out from you? One kid is enough but two kids, three kids and a mortage. and a joint bank account etc.

Better to rip the band aid now then keep getting deeper and deeper.

You should be pissed, biches be lying and deceitful and can't figure shyt out meanwhile they tying up your life with their bullshyt. Now she in the way of you building a real foundation with a real chick cuz of her undecisive shyt.

And her sexuality isn't some mystery to her she been knew what she was she was just BSing herself and tying your life up at the sametime. She just wanted to fulfill her biological need of reproduction and walking down the aisle at your expense. Then when she gets the baby she can finally be with a woman.

 

[Kunty McPhuck]

The long term struggle while might be true its not the full reason. Id say something has changed in her life. Has she been turned? I.e. has patterns of her behaviour changed. Has she been going out alot more than usual recently? Does she have new friends? That you've only recently met or only heard about?

 

[Kooze4524]

Any breakup we all think that, our ex is going to find someone "better than us" , she's prob getting rammed right now, will she miss me blah blah. But like I said its out of our control. Breakups suck no matter that caused it, been there always wondering what they up to, checking their social media etc. Best thing you can do is no contact unless it has to do with say your daughter. Exercise, get enough sleep, journal read. It sucks but really the only thing that has helped through my life is TIME. Right now it sucks but if you do the right steps 6 months or a year from now you'll look back and be

Thank you again bro, we only talk through email now, and her mom is the one who drops off our daughter to me. She thinks I’m being over the top by keeping communication so limited, but I have to do what’s best for me. Right now, this is the only way I can protect my peace and not get caught up in emotions I’m not ready to deal with.

 

[Kooze4524]

The long term struggle while might be true its not the full reason. Id say something has changed in her life. Has she been turned? I.e. has patterns of her behaviour changed. Has she been going out alot more than usual recently? Does she have new friends? That you've only recently met or only heard about?

Nothing has really changed in her behavior. She doesn’t go out... she’s an introverted homebody. The only new person in her life is a gay male friend from work.

 

[Jasonmask]

Post this on your main

 

[Kooze4524]

Good, you saved time, emotions and resources in the process. She was gonna leave in June of 2025 or June 2028 etc...The question is how much would you have built together before she ripped the foundation out from you? One kid is enough but two kids, three kids and a mortage. and a joint bank account etc.

Better to rip the band aid now then keep getting deeper and deeper.

You should be pissed, biches be lying and deceitful and can't figure shyt out meanwhile they tying up your life with their bullshyt. Now she in the way of you building a real foundation with a real chick cuz of her undecisive shyt.

And her sexuality isn't some mystery to her she been knew what she was she was just BSing herself and tying your life up at the sametime. She just wanted to fulfill her biological need of reproduction and walking down the aisle at your expense. Then when she gets the baby she can finally be with a woman.

I hope she never tells me this part, I am crashing out.


Being made to feel like a means to an end, rather than a partner.

 

[O.G.B]

 

[Doobie Doo]

I hope she never tells me this part, I am crashing out.


Being made to feel like a means to an end, rather than a partner.

Breh that shyt happens to a lot of nikkas. It almost happened to me. Which is the reason I don't take bisexual women seriously anymore.

They want to be with a woman but they don't want to disappoint their parents especially if they dont have any siblings that can make them grandparents. They will drag rush any willing nikka down the aisle, get a baby or two out of it knowing they will have the benefits of a man's presence and money to help raise the child so they can brag about being independent.

Its the most fearful thing about marriage to me. Cuz I have been solid stable and consistent in all my relationships yet I always end up with some chick that's always switching up personalities every couple weeks.

 

[Doobie Doo]

Don’t beat yourself up. This tramp set you up by putting on a façade for you & her family/friends as a straight woman, all while knowing she was struggling with her sexuality & wanted to pursue other women (or men, as this might be a ruse to get new side dikk as well).

Now she gets to go off & explore her "sexuality” while you’re left holding the bag. Also keep in mind she’s probably not telling her family/friends the real reason the relationship ended, so be ready to be cast as the fall guy/bad guy, & start getting your ducks in a row because she’ll likely drum up reasons/excuses to blame you for the breakup.



No, you should feel very "resentful" because your ex played games with your emotions/potential goals/future along with bringing a child into the fray, all while trying to sort out her sexuality/future path during your relationship, which was in question long before you got with her.

This. SHe will throw your azz under the bus in a heartbeat.

However her friends ain't dumb, they know she ain't shyt if she always got a new nikka she boo'd up with.

 

[O.G.B]

 

[Savvir]

this is what happens when you can't hit that back wall....

 

[O.G.B]

And her sexuality isn't some mystery to her she been knew what she was she was just BSing herself and tying your life up at the sametime. She just wanted to fulfill her biological need of reproduction and walking down the aisle at your expense. Then when she gets the baby she can finally be with a woman.

Bingo!