Post Break up issues

[maxamusa]

Hopefully she doesn’t turn into a stud and the baby has two dads

 

[Doobie Doo]

I mean you want closure, talk to her bout the deception she had you under. Playing games with people lives and time is dangerous and shes lucky you arent a caveman.

You can cry it out. Sit in your confusion for a bit.

But you got a kid to raise. And a future to embrace. Focus on that as much as possible.

AIn't no point in giving closure. Because whatever questions you have to ask the real answer is always gonna be "Cuz I don't fuk with you like that."

But she ain't gonna tell you that. She's gonna lie and say it was something else

Why did you cheat?
Why did you lead me on?
Why did you act the way?
Why didn't you tell me you felt that way before the kid?
Why didn't you cook for me?
Why did you treat me the way you did"

Cuz she don't fukk with you like that.

But is she gonna tell you that when you confront her tho?

 

[Dirty Mcdrawz]

I'm embarrassed, I rather vent to strangers if that makes sense. I know some people will clown tf out of me, but I believe others will offer me real, helpful advice.

Therapist are strangers too. The Coli isn’t the place for helpful personal advice.

 

[HarlemHottie]

seek therapy cuz you clearly had issue before this.
for one, have a baby quickly and out of wedlock and still think it's "a solid foundation"... which you proved to be sorely mistaken as you dip at the first sign of adversity
2: thinking her sexual issues has anything to do with you
3: worrying about her having better or whatever
4: porno addiction

all indications of psychosis, respectfully

If women kept it this real with each other, the world would be a different place.

 

[maxamusa]

seek therapy cuz you clearly had issue before this.
for one, have a baby quickly and out of wedlock and still think it's "a solid foundation"... which you proved to be sorely mistaken as you dip at the first sign of adversity
2: thinking her sexual issues has anything to do with you
3: worrying about her having better or whatever
4: porno addiction

all indications of psychosis, respectfully

He was her future husband and the father of her children; he's the only person who's supposed to be concerned with her sexual issues

 

[MajesticLion]

alts

 

[shopthatwrecks]

Nothing has really changed in her behavior. She doesn’t go out... she’s an introverted homebody. The only new person in her life is a gay male friend from work.

he's not gay trust me ....and he knows all yalls buisness..

he piping ya girl and her friend.. the friend she wanted to come to u with ..


but u ....

and left

 

[Thatrogueassdiaz]

Man trust me if she was Queen Latifah style gay she couldn't let you seed her.

Most women who swing that way are on a spectrum. If you were paying bills and providing emotional labor she will miss that.

I'm not equipped to give you advice all I can do his give you shytty Red pill talking points

let shorty eat some funk box for a minute and she'll come running back to you.

Butch Dykes complain about being a short term resthaven for mad single Moms who eventually run back to Men all the time.

Just be there for your daughter Date other woman and if you want leave the door open.

She was probably cheating on you with a woman for a minute she might be back within 18 months.

Again shytty Red Pill talking points a Professional will clean this up but probably tell you the same thing.

This. OP she will eventually come back. It's up to you to decide whether you'll take her back. The trust is absolutely broken but some people are able to rebuild.

Breh that shyt happens to a lot of nikkas. It almost happened to me. Which is the reason I don't take bisexual women seriously anymore.

They want to be with a woman but they don't want to disappoint their parents especially if they dont have any siblings that can make them grandparents. They will drag rush any willing nikka down the aisle, get a baby or two out of it knowing they will have the benefits of a man's presence and money to help raise the child so they can brag about being independent.

Its the most fearful thing about marriage to me. Cuz I have been solid stable and consistent in all my relationships yet I always end up with some chick that's always switching up personalities every couple weeks.

As soon as I hear or read that a woman is bisexual I run the other way. That's nothing to play with.

I’m gonna say what you lacked is the ability to bring someone happiness who wasn’t happy with themselves…she likely has always been messing around with other people seeking validation to fill a void that can’t be filled by anything but her own self love which she clearly lacks. She’s a terrible woman and you won in the end. Seek therapy.

This. She absolutely violated your trust and wasted your time. OP don't blame yourself. There are a lot of awful women out there who do not respect themselves, their partner or someone else's time. What she did was mad foul, especially since you all have a kid together and she waited until after that to tell you about this. Yeah the trust is gone. And then you saying she is saying you're overreacting with no contact tells me all I need to know about her self accountability.

 

[VegetasHairline]

2022 posters!

 

[MicIsGod]

This. OP she will eventually come back. It's up to you to decide whether you'll take her back. The trust is absolutely broken but some people are able to rebuild.

As soon as I hear or read that a woman is bisexual I run the other way. That's nothing to play with.

This. She absolutely violated your trust and wasted your time. OP don't blame yourself. There are a lot of awful women out there who do not respect themselves, their partner or someone else's time. What she did was mad foul, especially since you all have a kid together and she waited until after that to tell you about this. Yeah the trust is gone. And then you saying she is saying you're overreacting with no contact tells me all I need to know about her self accountability.

Hate the buzz words but sounds like a “narcissist”
We had a kid together, thinking bout marriage, you leave me for young ma and im overreacting? She’s lost respect for you and likely doesn’t respect men at all. Wonder if she had a father in her life. Hope she can st least let the coparenting be peaceful for a fellow coli brehs sake.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

He was her future husband and the father of her children; he's the only person who's supposed to be concerned with her sexual issues

He can be concerned, he doesn't have to make her being gay about him. It's giving low self esteem or narcissism

 

[BunchePark]

keep ya head up big dog

 

[O.G.B]

she shouldve been comfortable enough to open up to u and u leavin was a cake move...u shoulda listen.. and not judged... wasnt too much of ya bestfriend or ride or die..

yall couldve got a menage with a broad like every 3months... let her play ...


u messed up a good thing.. because u emotional....

If his ex was down for 3 somes with other women, she would've put him up on game from the start. Breh was just a convenient lick (no pun intended).

 

[King_Kamala61]

My daughter’s mother and I were together for three years. We built a life....we had a child, plans to get married this fall, and what I thought was a solid foundation. But in June, everything changed. She came out to me and told me she’s been struggling with her sexuality for a long time... something she’d kept buried because of her religious upbringing and the fear of judgment from her family. As for why she finally decided to come out now, I can only guess. Maybe it took her years to accept herself, or the weight of hiding such a big part of who she is became too heavy. Maybe she reached a point where she needed to be honest with me out of respect


When she told me, I didn’t know how to process it. I packed up and left. Not out of hate... but out of shock, confusion, and heartbreak.


It’s hard not to turn inward and wonder, What did I lack? Was I not enough? I keep thinking about how I fell in love with someone who, in the end, wasn’t fully herself. And maybe she couldn’t be.... not with her background, not with the pressure she was under. But that doesn’t make it hurt any less. She was my best friend. My ride or die. The one I planned to spend forever with. Now I look back and question everything. It feels like the life we were building wasn’t as real as I believed it was.


Am I wrong for feeling resentful? I don’t know. I don’t fully understand the complexities of struggling with one’s sexuality. I don’t know what it’s like to live in fear of your truth. But I do know what it’s like to love someone completely, only to find out they were carrying something they couldn’t share with you and now because of all this, my daughter has to grow up in two different homes.



Since it happened, I’ve found myself spiraling into a huge porn addiction... especially lesbian porn, where I imagine women doing things to her. I didn’t understand why at first. But now I see it... it’s a way for my mind to rewrite the story. In those fantasies, its all bout control. In real life, I feel powerless.. like I couldn’t change what was happening. But in my sick fantasies, I get to shape the story, to feel some sense of power or involvement, even if it’s complicated or painful. This situation really messed up

This is cuck behavior where it should be none.

She is gay and been gay. She just telling you now. I would not be upset or sad. Y'all can still be married just her play in p*ssy and enjoy having a girlfriend. No need in breaking up.

 

[BuckFilly]

damn