Post the biggest issues right now in your life

[86\*/98]

It's cold and my excema is fukking with me.

I'm pretty good at the moment.

 

[agnosticlady]

1.. college loan...shyt won't be paid off even when im gone

2...my hair.... the shyt grows back to a afro in 4 days... I could be bald and shyt grows back quick... my beard fukking grows back in 3..

3...time... every time im off from work the fukking time flies by...when im at work shyt goes slow as fukk

1. That's why I started off at community college. One of my biggest fears was taking out mass amounts of loans. Even now I know that I will have to take out loans for my masters. Deciding if I want to be a midwife or a speech pathologist.

2. Yeah my guy has the same problem. he has to be clean cut at his job, and his hair grows back immediately. He hates shaving.

 

[agnosticlady]

It's cold and my excema is fukking with me.

I'm pretty good at the moment.

Have you tried bathing in oatmeal? Also try using some non fragrance body oil. Have you tried the Shea moisture eczema soap?

 

[The Guru]

Wishing you the best. Prayers.

Thank you. I'm sure it's fine.

 

[86\*/98]

Have you tried bathing in oatmeal? Also try using some non fragrance body oil. Have you tried the Shea moisture eczema soap?

I'll give that soap a try, I only put on aveeno excema therapy lotion to alleviate the irritation at the moment. I don't see that oatmeal bath happening though.

Good looking out.

 

[PlainSight]

Perfectionism
Lack of confidence is the cause I feel - I always feel shytty when I don't finish things, or haven't done something people wanted me to do even if I didn't want to do it. Being weighed down by the expectations of others aswell. I can remember being told by an astrologer I once met that I had to start going with the flow a lot more and making more of an effort to trust in my art to make money and bring me happiness, and that I couldn't do that if I wasted time trying to get things to be perfect.

The older I got, the more I took that to heart and realized it's the truth. Efficiency is not perfection, it's merely the foundation, the platform. Since that, I've been making more effort to finish things and waste less time tweaking it.

 

[awkwardblackgirl]

 

[agnosticlady]

Perfectionism
Lack of confidence is the cause I feel - I always feel shytty when I don't finish things, or haven't done something people wanted me to do even if I didn't want to do it. Being weighed down by the expectations of others aswell. I can remember being told by an astrologer I once met that I had to start going with the flow a lot more and making more of an effort to trust in my art to make money and bring me happiness, and that I couldn't do that if I wasted time trying to get things to be perfect.

The older I got, the more I took that to heart and realized it's the truth. Efficiency is not perfection, it's merely the foundation, the platform. Since that, I've been making more effort to finish things and waste less time tweaking it.

I like that.....I'm trying to to choose the right career path. I would spends moments worrying over what I want to major in. I thought I enjoyed speech pathology, but it just doesn't fulfill me. I'm considering becoming a neonatal nurse, midwife, or a pediatric nurse. At first I was afraid of the idea of messing up, but what you said about perfection makes a lot of sense.

 

[Lo-Co]

finding time for a job.

 

[Lo-Co]

Perfectionism
Lack of confidence is the cause I feel - I always feel shytty when I don't finish things, or haven't done something people wanted me to do even if I didn't want to do it. Being weighed down by the expectations of others aswell. I can remember being told by an astrologer I once met that I had to start going with the flow a lot more and making more of an effort to trust in my art to make money and bring me happiness, and that I couldn't do that if I wasted time trying to get things to be perfect.

The older I got, the more I took that to heart and realized it's the truth. Efficiency is not perfection, it's merely the foundation, the platform. Since that, I've been making more effort to finish things and waste less time tweaking it.

i feel like at times im not as good as my brother. like i need to be on his level immediately. he has his business degree and hes making good money. im here scratching and clawing to get good grades and build confidence. plus i feel like people treat me like im 10 years old.

 

[PlainSight]

i feel like at times im not as good as my brother. like i need to be on his level immediately. he has his business degree and hes making good money. im here scratching and clawing to get good grades and build confidence. plus i feel like people treat me like im 10 years old.

In a strange way, I know that feel.
In my case, my brother is younger than I am - but he's very headstrong and aggressive, and bless him, he keeps encouraging me to be more so. I get the childlike thing - that's something I've dealt with from family for a long time. In my case, I can't say I'm struggling to live up to my lil bro - more like I'm struggling to live up to the fanfare that was given to me as a child and not yet fulfilled the potential.

I was supposed to be the superstar - people look at me now with this wistful "you should be rich and in a mansion" look and it's like........honestly I know it seems weird but that's never been a prerequisite for a happy life for me, and it jars people that I don't long for these things the way others do. Sure, I'd like to be financially free, but I'd like lots of other people to be financially free and happy too, not just me! I guess I needed time to figure out what I wanted out of life (still do), and maybe you do to.

Guess onus is on us to ignore our own doubts and go with our gut.

 

[EA]

Self-confidence issues rooted in the fact that I grew up thinking I was ugly. I know I'm a good catch on paper and I'm not ugly but I don't think women find me attractive like that despite the fact that I often have good relationships with the women I interact with.

 

[TEH]

remaining focused

stop wasting time / posting on message boards / recreation while working

going to bed on time

 

[Milk N Cookies]

My biggest issue is my job, I'm okay with it but not content. I do t see a career in it. Maybe I'll try to get in with the post office or something maybe work for school district where I can build up a good retirement fund.

 

[Lo-Co]

In a strange way, I know that feel.
In my case, my brother is younger than I am - but he's very headstrong and aggressive, and bless him, he keeps encouraging me to be more so. I get the childlike thing - that's something I've dealt with from family for a long time. In my case, I can't say I'm struggling to live up to my lil bro - more like I'm struggling to live up to the fanfare that was given to me as a child and not yet fulfilled the potential.

I was supposed to be the superstar - people look at me now with this wistful "you should be rich and in a mansion" look and it's like........honestly I know it seems weird but that's never been a prerequisite for a happy life for me, and it jars people that I don't long for these things the way others do. Sure, I'd like to be financially free, but I'd like lots of other people to be financially free and happy too, not just me! I guess I needed time to figure out what I wanted out of life (still do), and maybe you do to.

Guess onus is on us to ignore our own doubts and go with our gut.

very true. i feel like the fanfare of expected success was minimal for most people in my family. i was always smart, and did good in school. yet i always revolted against my societal norms and molds that i was put into. im a twin but still the runt of the family. i feel like i dont get respect at all. its like my brother encourages me to do better, he told me he doesnt want me to feel like theres pressure. sometimes things feel like being some sort of mutant to people when i explain myself.