Providing ≠ "gold digging"

[DrX]

I'm black you dumbass.

well take ya jiggaboo ass to bed because me and her trying to politic

 

[Dwolf]

Ok I'm gonna admit I didn't write this, but it's dead on:

People may disagree with me on this and that's just fine...but this notion that wanting a man who is capable of providing is equivalent to being a "golddigger" is beyond ridiculous. MLK and Malcolm X are probably turning in their graves from some of the misinformation that is being spread by some of our own men regarding basic things that men have always been expected to do. I hate to see men who are so inherently strong, become complacent and content with expecting women to pick up the slack. We are better than this.

I'm in my late 20's now. I've been married for about 3 and a half years. Over time, I've seen men of various ages, both on the net and in real life, talk about how "shallow" women are for wanting a man who wants the best for himself and her as well. To them, wanting a man who goes after what he wants or is not content with doing the minimum, is being a golddigger. When did accepting the minimum from men become the norm? Shouldn't you want a man to be the best he can be? I even have an aunt who got upset with me once because I did not want to date a man with 2 kids who worked at Burger King. The money he got from work went straight to child support so he couldn't even afford to go anywhere but expected me to "ride it out" and pass up other men who made better decisions with their lives.

Let's be real, the average everyday black woman is NOT a golddigger. Men act as if there are bunch of black Bill Gates out here and we're all chasing behind them. Um, no. Most of the black women I know are dating men who make about the same amount as they do. Then there are many who are dating men who make less than them too, so I find it comical whenever men state that "all we care about is money". Men are supposed to provide and it's been that way since the beginning of time. We didn't make the rules.

I've seen women give chances to men who had nothing to their name, then end up a single mother with a deadbeat baby daddy because they listened to everyone else about how they should give the man a shot. In fact, many women, even the ones who you may think are "stuck up", have dated broke men before and know from experience that nothing good comes from it unless he is seriously motivated and ambitious, but many broke men are not. Many women have been used or played by broke men so eventually they realize that they get the short end of the stick from it. Women have a lot to risk when dating broke men.

For ages a man's role has been to protect & provide. If you don't want to do those things, that is fine, but don't get mad at the women who are attracted to men who can. If anything, you should direct those emotions towards the men who are surpassing you financially and use it as motivation to do better. I rarely see men getting mad at men with more money than them, they just get mad at the women who want them. I could have settled, but I am GLAD I didn't. Black women, don't let anyone tell you that you are wrong for wanting an ambitious intelligent black man who has his priorities straight. You are not wrong for not wanting to deal with baby mama drama, wanting to be courted, and not wanting a man who floats through life like a lost puppy dog. That is all.

Post articles with no source brehs.

 

[DrX]

right now the black women is aiding the system of white supremacy

 

[blackestofpanthers]

this cac

*fixed

 

[Couth]

For a years a womens role has been to support and nurture. If a female isn't willing to do that? She shouldn't expect a dime from me.

Most females now a days are not supportive or nurturing. You guys expect to be independent when it comes to your cash, your personal life, the decisions you make. But when it comes to my money suddenly you're a co-dependent? FOH


If you have a job you should not expect a man to support you. Its almost 2015. You're a liberated independent woman. Support yourself.

the only reason the average black women isn't a gold digger is cuz shes average. Rich nikkas aren't tricking on average females. Most females gold dig if they have the ability to gold dig.

Like y'all complain so much about the way shyt used to be. When y'all had to get married young and you didn't have enough rights, and you had to stay in the house and cook and all this bullshyt. Now the world has evolved to the point where both genders can be independent, yet y'all still wanna have your cake and eat it too? Sickening.

honestly most of you girls who won't give a dude a chance unless he "supports you" are gonna end up losing. I'm the type of dude who has no problem supporting a female IF she can show me that she likes me for me first. That shes willing to build together. If a female is all about the cash from the jump she'll never get a dime out of me, or any other nikka with half a brain. Unless shes like a 10/10 and if thats the case she'll be dating pro ballers anyway.

 

[MayQueen]

Post articles with no source brehs.

It's an opinion based on experience, not an article.

 

[Citi Trends]

im not providing for any adult and im just being honest

im not your daddy

 

[Ashley Banks]

*fixed

 

[MayQueen]

right now the black women is aiding the system of white supremacy

False. Black women do not have the power to do that. If black women had that kind of power, the black community that they have been left to run on their own would be in much better shape.

 

[MayQueen]

stop supporting white supremacy

I'm not.

 

[Citi Trends]

i mean i get the whole provide and protect and coddle and what not back in the day but now that shyt is just really creepy to me and a turnoff

 

[MayQueen]

i mean i get the whole provide and protect and coddle and what not back in the day but now that shyt is just really creepy to me and a turnoff

How is it creepy and a turn off? This is not coddling at all.

 

[DrX]

False. Black women do not have the power to do that. If black women had that kind of power, the black community that they have been left to run on their own would be in much better shape.

oh yall not? why arent black women using their education to open business and not chase jobs? why do blk women take their children out the child father life out of spite? why do BW go to the court and put harsh child support on BM? why do black women try to get brothers fired @ the office? why do BW have high expectations for BM, but low of any other race? why do BW follow white feminism ?

 

[MayQueen]

oh yall not? why arent black women using their education to open business and not chase jobs? why do blk women take their children out the child father life out of spite? why do BW go to the court and put harsh child support on BM? why do black women try to get brothers fired @ the office? why do BW have high expectations for BM, but low of any other race?

Are you kidding me? You can not take a child away from their father, if he wants to see his kids he will make it happen. Why shouldn't black men provide for their kids? Black women have high expectations of black men because black men are "their" men. As much as some black men try to distance themselves from black women they are still connected. You should be flattered that more is expected of you, try to meet those expectations.



I can't help you with losing your office job, breh.

 

[Citi Trends]

How is it creepy and a turn off? This is not coddling at all.

idk its just weird
the active need for a man to basically take care of you like a child when you're grown adult screams you want to call me daddy in bed