Psychologists explains why men cheat.

[Bboystyle]

Dont need a psychologist to know that men are program to mate. Its been in our DNA since the beginning of man. Its one of our primal insticts that will never leave us.

 

[mag357]

-So this is the same as cheating to you?

You're fantasizing about cheating

Either u a person that thinks cheating is wrong or you don't.

It's like a nikka saying murdering is wrong.
But day dreams about murdering MFers twice a week with a smile on his face

 

[In The Zone '98]

Many of your married co workers are sleeping with each other

And you don't even know it

 

[tuckgod]

Stop taking advice from Neanderthals still figuring out their place in the world.

We are not the same species.

 

[Gloxina]

complicated subject, with lots of variables. context and circumstances are important. but read a book about it, and there was a profile of likely 'cheaters' men and women, a lot had to do with lack of risk aversion, and a draw towards a rush or thrill. Drawn towards risky behavior.

high risk tolerance
draw towards a rush
ability to compartmentalize.
poor impulsive control
it's something like that. everyone is going to have their own personal reasons. but there is some psychology at play in it.

like I would be someone exactly like that, aside from the impulsive control, y morally ambivalent in addition, calculating, has had addictions to cocaine and alcohol, seductive, doesn't feel bound by rules. it would be a screaming red flag if someone knew all that about me.

Yes, yes it would.



Here’s the funny thing. The ppl who recognize it pretty quickly are the ppl who are just like you, or highly perceptive ppl who are the opposite.


You ever have those moments when you meet someone new and after a short time y’all lock eyes like “I see you” ? It’s funny when y’all pick up on each other’s similarities and traumas based on conversation and reactions, plus mixing in physical attraction.


Doesn’t happen often, but when it does I disengage. I already know it’ll turn explosive at some point because we’re too similar Lol

 

[Gloxina]

Many of your married co workers are sleeping with each other

And you don't even know it

This is also some real, problematic shyt too.

 

[Gloxina]

Weak men (and women) who have not mastered their own bodies or their own desires.
And instead of having the maturity and to be open and honest and end the relationship, they resort to subterfuge

Discipline is the number 1 lacking quality in people these days.

Its rare to find a man or women who has true discipline and who can resist temptations and urges.

This is really all that needs to be said

 

[AllHolosEve]

You're fantasizing about cheating
Either u a person that thinks cheating is wrong or you don't.
It's like a nikka saying murdering is wrong.
But day dreams about murdering MFers twice a week with a smile on his face

-I think cheating is wrong & I'm fine with porn. I don't believe in "emotion cheating" & I'm not fantasizing about fukkin any of the lesbians I watch doing their thing.

-Day dreaming about killing people is fine as long as you're not acting on it. You act like having morals means you can't have feelings & thoughts.

 

[Gloxina]

-I think cheating is wrong & I'm fine with porn. I don't believe in "emotion cheating" & I'm not fantasizing about fukkin any of the lesbians I watch doing their thing.

-Day dreaming about killing people is fine as long as you're not acting on it. You act like having morals means you can't have feelings & thoughts.

Everyone has crazy thoughts. Emotional regulation, control and morals are what keep us from actually doing and saying bad things.

 

[Bboystyle]

-I think cheating is wrong & I'm fine with porn. I don't believe in "emotion cheating" & I'm not fantasizing about fukkin any of the lesbians I watch doing their thing.

-Day dreaming about killing people is fine as long as you're not acting on it. You act like having morals means you can't have feelings & thoughts.

Day dreaming about killing people means you a ticking time bomb waiting to go off. Who tf day dreams about murdering people? psychopaths.

 

[re'up]

What’s the title of the book

The book is called Cheatingland (2022)

it's not GREAT, but it's research based and analytical, it's a few strong steps up from a clickbait article listicle.

with a lot of personal stories, from anonymous people. Race is never mentioned, but pretty sure the author and a lot of his subject are black, just due to the linguistics.

 

[The Half-Blood FKA Prince]

Yeah as a man u cant let ya dikk be running u. Ive never cheated. If u dont take me serious i just stop taking u serious. Its not even cheating cause u stopped being my chick when u was unfaithful. U roster status now and will be treated accordingly.

Ive never cheated in my life. I have to claim u before i can cheat on u and ill be got damned if ima claim a hoe.

 

[re'up]

Yes, yes it would.



Here’s the funny thing. The ppl who recognize it pretty quickly are the ppl who are just like you, or highly perceptive ppl who are the opposite.


You ever have those moments when you meet someone new and after a short time y’all lock eyes like “I see you” ? It’s funny when y’all pick up on each other’s similarities and traumas based on conversation and reactions, plus mixing in physical attraction.


Doesn’t happen often, but when it does I disengage. I already know it’ll turn explosive at some point because we’re too similar Lol

wow. know that feeling exactly. Happens pretty frequently, but not enough for my tastes, and that's always the moments and the ones I love the most.

 

[Black Panther]

Hours of pleasure aren't worth years of pain. Especially if you got kids.

If you have a good relationship and family it's not worth the risk. I don't care how fine she is, how hard she's throwing it at you, or how many steps you take to make sure no one finds out. The juice usually isn't worth the squeeze. What's more important is addressing (with your partner and a therapist) why you're tying sexual conquest to personal validation.


That being said, the dudes in here talkbout they don't masturbate be the main ones beating off to weird shït.

Let me keep it 100% real for a second, because men don't talk about sexual health nearly as much as women do:

Don't feel ashamed to beat off every once in a while--and be 100% honest about it with your girl. It might keep you from doing something stupid. It's also an effective stress reliever, pain reliever, and STD-free.

It's a problem if you're doing it everyday, multiple times a day, of course. At that point it's an addiction. Just be honest about your sexual preferences with your girl--ALL THE WAY HONEST--it'll only help your relationship.

 

[Gloxina]

wow. know that feeling exactly. Happens pretty frequently, but not enough for my tastes, and that's always the moments and the ones I love the most.

Dawg. No.

Unless you’ve both dealt with your trauma…it’s going to be an explosive mess.


Very passionate…

But not good for long term

Lmao