Put Yourselves First Guys - Don’t Get Used.

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As I said in another post, it’s mutual, we both are getting what we want out of the relationship. I’m not sure why it’s wrong if his mindset is consistent sex if that is also mine, because it means we both are on the same page.

Arguably the very fact that I am a single mom shows how I’ve always felt about marriage—I didn’t value it then and still don’t now. I only wanted a child. My son’s father did want to get married—by the time the baby came I was over him(for a variety of reasons) and I left.

Also I have a friend who just got engaged, she has two children—she’s 38 and she desperately wanted marriage, and that is why she is happily engaged. She made that clear to her boyfriend and 1 year later he popped the question. Some woman want more than companionship, even if they have children. They want that commitment and that wedding.


I will probably have another child, (like 90% likely). So me having a child already isn’t why I don’t care about it. I also don’t see what’s wrong with a relationship lol. Y’all are acting like it’s weird to be okay with being in a relationship.

I told my boyfriend I’m open to a marriage where we don’t live together—like maybe living next door or even getting a duplex.:ld:


He has 1 child—a 5 year old daughter, not multiple kids lol. He also would love to get married. Many previously married men are more likely to marry again because I think they get used to that arrangement and want it again just with someone else lol.

Here is just one example of how cold it can get for you out here if you’re not careful.

Dated him, knew he wanted to get married and she didn’t, stuck it out long enough to get the baby, then left once the goal was reached.

The “variety of reasons” didn’t stop her from dating him, getting pregnant with and keeping his child, or getting her to get what she wanted from him(or any man really) in the interim i.e sex and attention, but afterwards they did keep her from giving him what he wanted and gave her justification to leave the relationship.

They’ll date you, use you for what they want out of you, and then by the time they get what they want they will coincidentally be over you move on when they’re ready.

Put yourselves first guys.
 
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These modern women today wonder why they have hard time with relationships

no disrespect , but what’s up with having a child and not having the father around and now step daddy government has to step in, parents are going to be used to baby sit, etc, etc…

feel sorry for all these young nikkas out here
 

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Why are y’all in a woman’s business? Does she owe you an accounting of her life/views?

That’s why it’s not wise to even share with these strange ass dudes, you can respectfully share something and they want to throw it in your e-face. Foh
 

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Here is just one example of how cold it can get for you out here if you’re not careful.

Dated him, knew he wanted to get married and she didn’t, stuck it out long enough to get the baby, then left once the goal was reached.

The “variety of reasons” didn’t stop her from dating him, getting pregnant with and keeping his child, or getting her to get what she wanted from him(or any man really) in the interim i.e sex and attention, but afterwards they did keep her from giving him what he wanted and gave her justification to leave the relationship.

They’ll date you, use you for what they want out of you, and then by the time they get what they want they will coincidentally be over you move on when they’re ready.

Put yourselves first guys.
How is anybody being used if the chick is upfront like in both scenarios?
 

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These modern women today wonder why they have hard time with relationships

no disrespect , but what’s up with having a child and not having the father around and now step daddy government has to step in, parents are going to be used to baby sit, etc, etc…

feel sorry for all these young nikkas out here

Once you understand women are loyal only to their emotions all of this makes sense.

Its not about long term, its about her and right now and whatever it takes to make right now happen right now.
 
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