@murksiderock
You just gotta let her go.
Y'all ain't growing together but y'all have acknowledged that.
Take her communication with you as positive because it is. Yall have a kid. She don't know who she's gonna settle down with and is allowing you to screen potential applicants. Last thing you want is her to fall in love with some dude that's gonna hate that and hate you.
If that happens it's gonna be fukking horrible. Weird ass child exchanges in public places, or you waiting in the car for your kid to come out. Not knowing what's going on in their household.
Dude gonna be talking shyt "why he calling here?" You gonna want to spontaneously see your child like for a day off school take her/him to the zoo or fishing and he will be like "it's not his day, it's not his time, no!" It's gonna be an unnecessary conflict. Y'all talking shyt back and forth, when your kid is at their house they won't be able to talk about or mention you and when your kid is at your house won't be able to talk about what goes on there...the kid will see the conflict.
I've been seeing it for 20 years breh. It sucks for all parties involved.
I've seen it work, the key is communication. As long as y'all acknowledge y'all ain't gonna work y'all can work together for the sake of your child.
shyt gets real weird when she gets pregnant by another guy cause he's going to want control and even though y'all were together first, he will feel like your impeding on his house when you just have to be cordial with your ex and stay a figure in your childs life. That's not on purpose that just how men feel sometimes.
Meet him, screen him, interview him, build a rapport and respect. Last thing you want is her living with some dude who hates you and will either emotionally, mentally neglect your child or worse abuse them cause when he looks at your child he sees you. It sounds like she'll listen if you meet the guy and say something to her like "I don't think he's right for you and our child" but you'll only know if you try.
It can work breh. I've seen it.
You just gotta let her go.
Y'all ain't growing together but y'all have acknowledged that.
Take her communication with you as positive because it is. Yall have a kid. She don't know who she's gonna settle down with and is allowing you to screen potential applicants. Last thing you want is her to fall in love with some dude that's gonna hate that and hate you.
If that happens it's gonna be fukking horrible. Weird ass child exchanges in public places, or you waiting in the car for your kid to come out. Not knowing what's going on in their household.
Dude gonna be talking shyt "why he calling here?" You gonna want to spontaneously see your child like for a day off school take her/him to the zoo or fishing and he will be like "it's not his day, it's not his time, no!" It's gonna be an unnecessary conflict. Y'all talking shyt back and forth, when your kid is at their house they won't be able to talk about or mention you and when your kid is at your house won't be able to talk about what goes on there...the kid will see the conflict.
I've been seeing it for 20 years breh. It sucks for all parties involved.
I've seen it work, the key is communication. As long as y'all acknowledge y'all ain't gonna work y'all can work together for the sake of your child.
shyt gets real weird when she gets pregnant by another guy cause he's going to want control and even though y'all were together first, he will feel like your impeding on his house when you just have to be cordial with your ex and stay a figure in your childs life. That's not on purpose that just how men feel sometimes.
Meet him, screen him, interview him, build a rapport and respect. Last thing you want is her living with some dude who hates you and will either emotionally, mentally neglect your child or worse abuse them cause when he looks at your child he sees you. It sounds like she'll listen if you meet the guy and say something to her like "I don't think he's right for you and our child" but you'll only know if you try.
It can work breh. I've seen it.
